End your suffering with Byron Katie Byron Katie, speaker and author teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work.” The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround. The four questions are: 1) Is it true? 2) Can you absolutely know that it’s true? ... [Read more]
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End your suffering with Byron Katie
Byron Katie, speaker and author teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work.” The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround.
The four questions are: 1) Is it true? 2) Can you absolutely know that it’s true? 3) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? and 4) Who would you be without the thought?
Turnarounds: Could the opposite be as true? Turn the statement around to the opposite, to the self, and to the other. This is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.
1. “Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change
your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.” ~ Byron Katie”
2. “Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.” ~ Byron Katie
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3. “If you believe that anyone’s action is bad, how can you see the good in it? How can you see the good that comes out of it, maybe years later? If you see anyone as bad, how can you understand that we are all created equal? We’re all teachers by the way we live. A blind drunk can teach more about why not to drink than an abstinent man in all his piety. No one has more or less goodness. No one who ever lived is a better or a worse human being than you.” ~ Byron Katie
4. “The teacher you need is the person you’re living with.” ~ Byron Katie
5. “It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.” ~ Byron Katie
6. “All the advice you ever gave your partner is for you to hear.” ~ Byron Katie
7. “Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.” ~ Byron Katie
8. “As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~ Byron Katie
9. “All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.” ~ Byron Katie
10. “I love what I think, and I’m never tempted to believe it.” ~ Byron Katie
11. “I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.” ~ Byron Katie
12. “Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon, nor too late. You don’t have to like it…it’s just easier if you do.” ~ Byron Katie
13. “I am the perpretor of my suffering – but only all of it.” ~ Byron Katie
14. “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.” ~ Byron Katie
15. “I’m a lover of reality. When I argue with What Is, I lose, but only 100% of the time.” ~ Byron Katie
16. Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.” ~ Byron Katie
17. “Nothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That’s how you move away from him. That’s how the marriage ends.
You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That’s how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.” ~ Byron Katie
18. “Thoughts are just what is. They appear. They’re innocent. They’re not personal. They’re like the breeze or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling. Thoughts arise like that, and we can make friends with them. Would you argue with a raindrop?” ~ Byron Katie
19. “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.” ~ Byron Katie
20. “A teacher of fear can’t bring peace on Earth. We have been trying to do it that way for thousands of years. The person who turns inner violence around, the person who finds peace inside and lives it, is the one who teaches what true peace is. We are waiting for just one teacher. You’re the one.” ~ Byron Katie
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If you’re feeling stuck one way to pick yourself up is to read and reflect on quotes on overcoming fear. The following 21 quotes are by famous people and friends I admire. I hope they inspire you like they do me! Enjoy! 1. Fear wants us to become obsessed with some event or person in ... [Read more]
If you’re feeling stuck one way to pick yourself up is to read and reflect on quotes on overcoming fear. The following 21 quotes are by famous people and friends I admire. I hope they inspire you like they do me! Enjoy!
1. Fear wants us to become obsessed with some event or person in the future, a year, a month, even a day. It also wants us to look backwards not at our successes, but our short-comings and our failures. Fear losses it’s grip when we stay in the now. ~ Dr. Rob Bell
2. Your story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. ~ Brené Brown
3. Although fear can feel overwhelming, and defeats more people than any other force in the world, it’s not as powerful as it seems. Fear is only as deep as your mind allows. You are still in control. The key is to acknowledge your fear and directly address it. You must step right up and confront it face to face. ~ Marc and Angel
4. Depression, pain, and fear are gifts that say, “Sweetheart, take a look at your thinking in this moment. You’re living in a story that isn’t true for you.” Living a lie is always stressful. And investigating a lie through The Work always leads you back to who you are. Who you are is not an option. You are love. It hurts to believe you’re other than who you are, to live any story less than love. ~ Byron Katie
5. The Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear. ~ Deepak Chopra
6. Many of us live our lives out of the fear of what other people think of us. We’re waiting for someone to give us a permission slip that tells us it’s OK to be ourselves. Don’t try to be fearless or pretend you aren’t impacted by fear. Just try to prevent fear from making your decisions for you. ~ Chris Guillebeau
7. Your fear is just as boring as mine is. Everyone’s got the same one. It is not precious. It is not special. It is not singular to you. It’s just the one we all got wired with when we came in. Focus on your unique qualities that deserve to be celebrated and put fear back in its place. Don’t listen to it. Onward. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
8. Do you live in a mine field or a garden? When we live in a minefield mentality, we explode with the weeds of worry, doubt, fear, lack and limitation. Choose to cultivate your inner garden! ~ Michael Bernard Beckwith
9. On feeling fear: Stand fully in the now moment with gratitude, enthusiasm, openness, and readiness to respond to life as it greets you. ~ Michael Beckwith
10. God gives you the sight, the right, and the might to do great things, but you have to develop the fight! Courage doesn’t happen without fear, doubt, and unbelief; courage overcomes all of these things to get the job done. How do we knock off fear or doubt out unbelief? Simple faith in God. ~ Tim Storey
11. The thing that I’m just scared to death of is that someday I’m going to wake up and bore somebody with a film. ~ Stephen Spielberg
12. Fear sells, and it sells big time. The main staple of the sales industry is fear. The more frightened a person or even corporation is about things, the more likely they are to buy what they perceive as a solution. ~ Tim Brownson
13. Life comes with many challenges. The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of. ~ Angelina Jolie
14. Going to a fearless place in your imagination will show you clearly which decisions still have fire and energy, and which lose steam without anxiety as their fuel. The former are endogenous—meaning they arise from your inner essence, not from external pressures—and they’re the foundation of every great leap. ~ Martha Beck
15. It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do it all the time. But opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams… that is being naked. ~ Rob Bell
16. Here is my biggest takeaway after 60 years on the planet. There is great value in being fearless. For too much of my life, I was too afraid, too frightened by it all. That fear is one of my biggest regrets. ~ Diane Keaton
17. Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.
J.K. Rowling
18. The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life. ~ Eckhart Tolle
19. Because the truth is, that is the hardest part. And ironically, that is the one big thing standing in your way. Just executing. Nobody can argue with execution. Once you’re getting shit done, you’re on your way. But taking that first step can be terrifying. I get it. I really do. Fear of failure can take over. And lots of us have this fear. ~ Gary Vaynerchuk
20. Much of our anxiety and stress comes when we’re focused on fear and disconnected from the voice of our inner guide. ~ Gabrielle Bernstein
21. If you don’t do what Fear says…you’ll go ahead and speak up, you’ll sign up, you’ll buy, you’ll sell, you’ll jump. ~ Danielle LaPorte
It is never too late to be what you might have been. ~ George Eliot It's never too late to create the life you want to live. It's never to late to lose your fear and take action. You can begin now. It's never too late to follow your heart and get out of a rut. Plan ... [Read more]
It is never too late to be what you might have been. ~ George Eliot
It’s never too late to create the life you want to live. It’s never to late to lose your fear and take action. You can begin now.
It’s never too late to follow your heart and get out of a rut. Plan for your future. Do what you’ve always dreamed of doing, at least for an hour a day.
It’s never too late to overcome an obstacle, learn from a failure and begin again. Every moment is an opportunity to try something new, shift your perception and overcome your insecurity.
It’s never too late to finish what you’ve started; poem, a book or a special project. A completion allows for new innovation and dreams. We are inventors. Choose to finish what you started and invent something new.
It’s never too late to show compassion. Offer empathy and make someone feel special. Tell someone that you care.
It’s never too late to visit an elderly relative or friend. Tell them that they matter. Fill their day with joy. Give to those who are unable to give back to you.
It’s never too late to say thank you to a mentor, parent or teacher. If someone has made a difference in your life, let them know it. People like to know that they made a difference in the life of another.
It’s never too late to get help for an addiction. Turn your life around. Swallow your pride. Take your power back. Get a second chance. Claim your freedom.
It’s never too late to forgive someone. It doesn’t matter if they are dead or alive. Let go; open your heart, look for the lesson, enjoy the present moment. Be free.
It’s never too late to enjoy life. Make play, fun and laughter a part of your everyday life. Relax into joy and surrender your seriousness. It can be effortless!
It’s never too late to say, “I love you.” Make it a habit, soothe someone’s soul. Others are longing for what you’re reluctant to give. Let someone know and feel that they’re important to you.
It’s never too late to accept and love yourself. Treat yourself like you would a best friend or a small child. Praise yourself for what you get right. Gentleness applied to oneself goes a long way.
It’s never too late to open your heart. Connect with others and shower the world with an abundance of love. We all want the same things. To know that we matter and to know that we’re loved. Love!
It’s not too late to stop being afraid, to take a risk and shake things up a bit. Action creates confidence, strength and synchronicity. If you want something different, do something different.
It’s not too late to tackle problems and change. Be open to new possibilities. You have to grow if you want to reach the next level of success in every area of your life. Nothing changes until you change something.
It’s not too late a hire a coach. Take a course or a class and learn something new. Be willing to invest in your own brilliance and greatness. You’re worth it.
It’s not too late to learn how to breathe properly, meditate or practice mindfulness. Five minutes a day can change everything. Gradually, increase your practice over time.
It’s not too late to include adventure and travel in your life. Visit a new city, state or country. Explore other languages and cultures. Get a new perspective on the world.
It’s not too late to learn how to save and invest your money. Be financially responsible. There are countless teachers who will show you how. Begin now. You’ll never regret it.
It’s not too late to begin to eat healthy and exercise regularly. When you do, you wake up your cells and shift the way you feel. It’s a real life-changer.
It’s not too late to have faith in yourself, in others and in the world. Believe that the best is yet to come for everyone. Commit to doing your part to make the world a better place.
It’s not too late to make gratitude a lifestyle. Choose to live in joy. Pay attention to your blessings. Celebrate your wins. Live your dream. Begin again and expect a miracle.
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Do you have more fear than faith? Do you sidestep living a bold life because you believe that you don’t have what it takes or maybe you don’t feel worthy? If you’re tired of your rut, if you’re sick of paralyzing fear or exhausted from complaining then now’s the time to reinvent yourself and plan ... [Read more]
Do you have more fear than faith? Do you sidestep living a bold life because you believe that you don’t have what it takes or maybe you don’t feel worthy?
If you’re tired of your rut, if you’re sick of paralyzing fear or exhausted from complaining then now’s the time to reinvent yourself and plan a mind-blowing future.
It’s time to think and do something different, deep down bold and courageously, different. When life stops working for you, it’s the perfect opportunity to grow forward, one small step at a time.
Create a plan that you’ll stick to, no matter what. A plan that will rock your world, open your heart and place you on a daring adventure for your one crazy and wild life.
The following bold and courageous steps are simple yet shockingly powerful. Implement them one at a time and celebrate your success.
1. Replace fear with faith. Put your faith into your own brilliance and capabilities. Believe that you have what it takes. Really believe.
2. Hush the chattering voice of fear and scarcity in your mind. Count your blessings. Be grateful in advance.
3. Chase your fear. When you run toward your fear, fear takes a different route.
4. Replace worry with action. The worst case scenario rarely happens. Learn to expect the best.
5. Accept 100% responsibility for your life. Remember, that your approach, attitude, work ethic and intention are just a few things that you can control.
6. Learn more than is required. For 60 minutes every day, invest your time in learning something new.
7. Create habits that produce results. Be an early riser. Do the most important tasks first.
8. Invest in yourself. Take the best courses. Hire a coach. Make choices that honor you.
9. Start small. Take one step and then another. You’ll build momentum. You’ll soon be leaping.
10. Choose to invest in winning. Give up whining and procrastination. Use your energy to grow and improve.
11. Believe in your potential to be the best. Why not you? Why not now?
12. Don’t be afraid to be afraid. Face fear. Embrace It. Breathe through it. Carry on.
13. Take your fear to the gym. When you are stuck in fear, get active. Run, hike or walk off your fear. Get physical. Get out of your head and focus on physically feeling good.
14. Live your life. Don’t put off what your heart and soul are calling you to do today.
15. Exude positive energy. Believe in yourself. Believe the best about others. Look for beauty in the world.
16. Give up wanting to be liked. Use that energy to make the world a better place.
17. Grow your confidence and courage. Do things you’ve never done. Go places that you’ve never been. Experiment with life.
18. Don’t fret over a setback. Instead regroup, focus and discover how strong and resilient you are.
19. Know what matters. Make the people you love a priority. Know when to quit, close up shop and unplug. Relax with your loved ones often.
20. Practice being brave. Dedicate yourself to your purpose and passion. Improve your circumstances and live in joy.
21. Choose beliefs that serve you. Release outdated ideas, perceptions and beliefs that hold you back. Write positive thoughts and affirmations on index cards. Review them often.
22. Revisit your past successes. Take refuge in your strengths and abilities. Focus on these for a length of time.
23. Give yourself permission to receive. Ask for what you need. Keep asking until you get a yes.
24. Bounce back from stress, mistakes and failure. Give yourself a break. Recognize that you’re human. Look for the lesson and move on.
25. Live in the present moment. Fear is mostly about the future. In this moment, you can choose to feel safe.
26. Be gentle with yourself. Take a time out. Become aware of what matters to you. Appreciate how far you’ve come.
27. Expect to be afraid when you step into the unknown. Fear is in your DNA. Act in spite of it. Where there is fear, there is power.
28. Welcome fear. It’s necessary for the adventurous life that you want for yourself. You have survived through tough times and great change in spite of your fear.
29. Transcend your limits. Break through barriers. Look for uncommon opportunities.
30. Dedicate your life to doing your best and serving others. This is my definition of success.
31. Believe in an abundant, life-giving and nourishing universe. Expect it to deliver!
32. Set an intention of love. Think love. Do love. Be love. Infuse love into every aspect of your life. Love yourself, love your life and love the world.
33. Own your awesome! Start with just one of the above steps. Implement it this week. Know that you are worthy. Know that you are loved. I believe in your success!
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Chris Guillebeau’s life is anything but routine! In 2002, he set out on a quest to visit every country in the world by age thirty-five, and he succeeded. In his latest book, The Happiness of Pursuit, Chris guides and ignites an inner fire in readers to undertake their own quest as a way of finding purpose ... [Read more]
Chris Guillebeau’s life is anything but routine! In 2002, he set out on a quest to visit every country in the world by age thirty-five, and he succeeded.
In his latest book, The Happiness of Pursuit, Chris guides and ignites an inner fire in readers to undertake their own quest as a way of finding purpose and adding meaning to their lives.
“Courage comes through achievement, but also through the attempt. As I worked my way through country after country, regrouping at one of the many stops along the way that felt like second homes, I become more optimistic about my chances of success. In the final year of the journey, I felt unstoppable. I can really do this! I realized this and the realization gave me strength and endurance.”
He shares his own story and stories of people far and wide who are abandoning their conventional lives and pursuing quests that involve walking, sailing and biking across countries and continents.
“At meetups and coffee shops on five continents, I sought out people who were undertaking quests and heard their stories. Through a series of interviews and surveys, I pestered them about why they chose to focus on a specific goal for an extended period of time. What did they learn, and how were they changed along the way?”
A woman decides to hunt for and see as many bird species as possible in her lifetime. A fifty-four year old man runs three hundred marathons in more than one hundred countries. Someone walked every block (121,000) in New York City.
A young mother with a culinary degree and a love for travel decides to cook an entire meal from a different country everyday in her kitchen. It took her four years to cook and share the recipes from around the world, but she did it!
An independent learner decided to tackle the four-year MIT computer science curriculum in just one year, publishing his test scores along the way. His quest was about oriented around learning and achievement.
These people are taking adventure to the extreme and are living a life of no regrets.
“Embracing new things often requires us to embrace our fears, however trivial they may seem. You deal with fear not by pretending it doesn’t exist, but by refusing to give it decision making authority. When you venture to new lands for the first time, it is a big deal.”
A quest is defined as a clear goal, a real challenge, and a set of milestones along the way. The freedom that an unconventional life and quest offers is thrilling and addictive.
Chris suggests that we ask ourselves difficult questions: Do I really want to keep my job? Am I in the right relationship? If I were free to do anything, what would I be doing? One year from now, what do I want to have accomplished?
One thing is certain, by the end of a quest, you’ll be a completely different person.
Chris’s advice for the world changers and risk takers who want to plan their quest is this:
Believe in your dream. Find others who believe in your dream. Get beyond rejection. Don’t fear failure. Get comfortable with risk. Create structure. Keep a timeline. Connect your skills and interest with a challenge. Know the cost. Don’t wait. Just begin. Track your journey.
Since reading The Happiness of Pursuit, I have identified a quest of my own.
Many of my readers know that I married my boyfriend at 17 and at twenty-two was a mother to four daughters. I’m still married to their father!
Raising our family was quite the quest. We didn’t travel very much and we didn’t have much freedom. Everything went into raising the girls.
That didn’t stop us from dreaming and planning that one day we’d have more flexibility to fulfill our travel desires.
We decided when we were very young that, once the girls were out of the house, we’d leave the gray, cold and snowy weather of Michigan and move to the Southwest where the sun shines more than 300 days per year.
Seven years ago we finally did it. We sold nearly everything we owned including our cottage, home and my husband’s business. We moved and fulfilled our dream.
One of our daughters works for Southwest airlines and we travel more now than we ever did.
We have visited some new places, but we mostly go back to visit our daughters and their families. Up to this point, our connection with them has always trumped new places and adventures.
I’ve attended Chris Guillebeau’s World Domination Summit twice. I’ve been enthralled by all the dreams, travels and adventures these young change-makers embrace.
Because I married so young, I missed the years of freedom between high school and adulthood. I believe that’s what makes an adventuresome, quest-filled lifestyle so enticing.
Things are different in my life now. My business is online and I work from home. I’m not tied to too many responsibilities. I also have a husband who supports and understands my zest for unconventional living (although he wants no part of it!).
This year I missed the World Domination Summit. Never again!
That’s why I was thrilled when I was invited to review Chris’s new book. The day it arrived, I began reading it out loud to Hubs. I couldn’t stop. 30 minutes into it, he was helping me brainstorm my own quest.
My personal quest!
My quest involves visiting every city that Southwest Airlines flies into. I will investigate who of my online friends lives in those cities and ask if I can stay with them during my visit. While there, I will find out-of-the-way places to eat, visit, hike and run.
I will also do acts of kindness or service in each city. When I leave, each place will be a little different because of my visit.
A Big Commitment!
Currently, there are eighty-nine cities in the United States that Southwest flies into. They also fly to San Juan, Puerto Rico. In the Caribbean, they fly into Nassau/Paradise Island, Punta Cana, Aruba and Montego Bay. In Mexico the go to Mexico City, Cancun and Cabo San Lucas.
I will give myself up to four years to finish my quest. I will blog about my journey on The Bold Life.
If you want to shake things up in your life and live with no regrets, The Happiness of Pursuit is a must read! I dare you to be bold, find a challenging quest and simply begin. Join me as we live our adventures, pursue our hearts’ desires, and shake things up in our mostly quiet and routine lives!
“There’s an adventure waiting for you, too. Real-life adventure isn’t only about traveling the world (although many of this book’s stories do involve travel) nor is a quest always about leaving home (although it often involves breaking out of a comfort zone).”
In The Happiness of Pursuit, you’ll discover dozens of awe-inspiring stories. You’ll meet many amazing people and most are everyday people doing phenomenal things!
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About the Author
Chris Guillebeau is an entrepreneur, traveler, and New York Times bestselling author. Recently, he completed his quest to visit every country in the world before the age of 35. Host of the World Domination Summit, an international gathering of creative people, Chris is focused on encouraging individual quests while also “giving back.” His main website, ChrisGuillebeau.com, is visited by more than 500,000 people per month.
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