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Do you see yourself as the bold and courageous person that you are? Do you give yourself credit for the times in the past when you’ve been afraid and you’ve taken action anyway?

I want you to begin to notice just how brave you are. Become aware of the everyday courageous acts that you participate in but don’t give yourself credit for. I’ll bet you could reflect on this past year and come up with numerous bold moments and bold actions. 

Bold action doesn’t need to be epic. You don’t need to climb mountains, run for president, travel around the world or learn three languages. Those things are amazing but there’s more to life than fun, adventure and completing big goals.

When you become aware of how many times you've overcome small fears it leads to moving through bigger fears. Eventually you’ll not only see yourself as a strong and brave person, you’ll grow beyond what you once thought was impossible.

Each bold act counts:  

  • When you invest your time in a cause that you believe in.

  • When you make amends to someone you love.

  • When you empower yourself by keeping promises. 

  • When you walk away from an argument.

It takes a bold person to act with integrity when everyone else seems to be breaking the rules. Remember: these small acts take courage and confidence. You have done them a million times.

It’s time to own your firepower, commitment and boldness. Give yourself credit. Honor and celebrate who you are and what you have done thus far.

I'm sure you have gotten through some difficult times and events. I'm sure you have done wonderful things for others. I’m sure there have been countless times when you wanted to quit but didn’t.

These things make you brave. They make you bold! 

Use the following to build your courage muscles and become stronger. 

1. Stop complaining. Rethink your problems. Most of our issues are only minor inconveniences that we exaggerate.

2. Change. If you don’t like something change it. Problems that are ignored continue to grow. Take one small step.

3. Don’t judge. Recognize your projections. Your issues are never about someone else. If you spot it, you got it.

4. Motivate yourself. My exercise routine has been slipping. I decided to shake things up and run longer distances. I’m entering races again.

5. Hire professional help. Life is too short to stay stuck. Reach out for help. We’re here to do great things. There is no time to waste. Hire a therapist. Call a coach.

6. Rewrite your stories. Let the past go. Let your fear go. Create a positive story about your future. Make it exciting and beautiful.

7. Laugh at your fear. Shrink it in your mind. Tell it you’ll get back to it the second Tuesday of next week. Proceed forward.

8. Let go of suffering. Don’t take things personally. What other people do is about them. How you react is about you.

9. Make a choice to be kind and loving. Be patient. Learn to listen. Compliment others. Make deliberate, loving choices. 

10. Keep your promises. Write down what you promise others. Keep your word.

11. Converse face-to-face. Forget email, texting, or calling. Relationships are so much richer when you spend physical time together. Hugs, kisses, touch…all priceless.

12. Get over yourself. Learn to apologize. When you’re wrong, admit it. Let go of the need to be right.

13. Be generous. Leave big tips. Pay for the person standing in line behind you. Begin today, especially if you think you don't have enough. 

14. Give yourself permission to fail. Learn from what went wrong and regroup. Do more research. Keep trying. Most people give up too quickly.

15. Go the extra mile. It’s an excellent way to stand out from the crowd.

16. Uplift others when they are down. Be compassionate. Take a walk in somebody else's shoes.

17. Express yourself. Risk rejection. Say "I love you” and “I appreciate you,” more often.

18. Create a morning routine. Pray, meditate, journal and exercise. Find what fits for you. This one thing will change your mood, attitude and life over time. That’s big.

19. Give up the blame game. You are where you are, doing what you’re doing because of your past choices. You feel what you feel and have what you have because of your choices.

20. Give up the pity pot. Life isn’t fair and everyone experiences tragedy and difficulties. Everyone has lessons to learn and changes to make. Don't complain. Do something about your problems. Learn to live with a grateful heart. You’re blessed.

I see you. I see your potential. I see your beauty and light. I appreciate the bold and courageous actions you take every day. I believe in you. Thank you for being part of The Bold Life community. Have a great week!

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The Bold & Courageous Ultimate Mastermind Inner Circle 

I’m on a mission to help others build their courage muscles, live a bold life and make their dreams a reality! 

  • Are you considering a new direction for your personal or professional life?
     
  • Are you tired of procrastination and the inability to take consistent action?

  • Are bad habits and distractions keeping you from success?

  • Do you need a place of security and support where you can be yourself?

  • Are you ready to access a deeper expression of yourself?

  • Do you want even greater possibilities for yourself?

       … and to claim your magic, power and genius?

Then the Bold & Courageous Ultimate 
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What Does It Offer?

The Bold & Courageous Group offers a safe, nurturing, empowering and confidential environment which will prepare you to achieve a greater level of success in less time by working together in harmony with others on the same path.

In the Bold & Courageous Group you’ll find like-minded participants who challenge each other to create and accomplish goals, brainstorm ideas, sharpen their personal and business skills, grow through failure, celebrate success and support each other with authentic connection, compassion and respect.

Our main focus is the brainstorming, accountability, feedback, advice and support we give to each other. When everyone participates the group holds the opportunity to build courage; take on tough challenges; overcome insecurity, self-doubt, inaction and fear; and make dreams a reality in a safe place where new friendships are born!

Here’s what else you’ll get!

Time, attention, wisdom, guidance and support from myself and the other members 

  • I keep the groups small to guarantee 1:1 conversations, focus, rich and deep dialogue and the transformative energy of the circle

  • A place to be seen and heard and to see and hear others; a place to grow

  • Peer accountability and a network of backing in a confidential setting
  • A sense of community and connection with colleagues who want you to succeed (this alone is priceless)

  • Monthly 90–minute Bold & Courageous Mastermind sessions via Skype

  • The Bold & Courageous Inner Circle is an investment in your personal and professional future growth. I lead the group but everyone commits and participates.

  • Each person has the opportunity to share their dreams, needs and progress and to ask for the support, answers, ideas, strategies and brainstorming they need from other group members. 

  • You belong, learn and grow as you meet regularly with other successful people.
  • You’ll get one monthly video to help you avoid common pitfalls such as paralyzing fear, constant doubt and hovering insecurity which keep you from progressing and living the life you desire. 

  • You’ll gain direction as well as insights and tips on overcoming procrastination and self-sabotage; uprooting limiting beliefs; letting go of lack and becoming more prosperous in every area.

Our private Facebook Group for check-ins, support and more

  • A place to nurture your creative whims and desires, celebrate success and grow to new heights

  • A place where everyone shares resources and connections that will help lead to the amazing, passionate and flourishing life of your dreams

A Bold & Courageous Life Questionnaire to help you discover your passion, gain clarity, insight, focus and overcome your doubt and fear for making your dreams come true and achieving success as you define it.

Access to An Accountability Buddy (every member has the option to request one). You can have a five-minute or 15-minute check-in by phone or email every week between the monthly meetings.  

Monthly Goal Setting & Action steps 

Each month you’ll plan where you’re going and how you’ll get there. You’ll get clear on what your three most important things are on your to-do list and come up with the necessary action steps. You can go at your own pace and still accelerate your growth with the group support.

Who Should Join?

If you have the desire to walk the edge and go places that promise rich rewards

If you want to move from a cushy and comfortable life to one filled with adventure, meaning and excitement

If you want to overcome the fear of change in a supportive and creative environment

If you are ready to unleash your best self, unique gifts and talents to those who are ready for them

If you have the desire and inspiration to make your life extraordinary

If you are ready to commit, get clear, take action, move forward and accomplish your goals

If you are ready to stand in your strength and own your power and boldness

If you are motivated to grow, to share, to show up and to contribute to the group

If you are ready to create uncommon and radical results with the ultimate level of commitment, accountability and community

Who Won’t Like It?

People who have a bad attitude, who want to complain, remain a victim or stay stuck in the same destructive stories and beliefs. People who don’t want to collaborate, brainstorm and support others. 

  How Does It Work? 

The groups will meet via Skype once a month and I will host the group. 

I know what it’s like to be overwhelmed, stuck, underappreciated, unsure of myself and unsure of how to move forward.

I’ve been where you are and I understand what it’s like to be paralyzed by fear. In the past, I made mistakes, I spent my time freaked out, playing small, denying and hiding from fear. I sunk into depression and I hated my life.

One day when I couldn’t stand the pain, craziness or drama any longer… I reached out for help. I hired a therapist, attended a support group, found a mentor, hired a coach and joined a mastermind group.

I put into practice what I learned. Little by little I turned my life around. 

The pay-off of my post-fear life…

I started my first successful business at age 22! I’ve only spent two years of my career working for other people.

I worked as a successful therapist in private practice, a coach, an author, a professional speaker and a successful blogger. 

I’ve facilitated women’s groups, groups in prison, groups for those afflicted with AIDS and mastermind groups! Countless clients have put their confidence and trust in my abilities and changed their lives.

I achieved things in my life that I never would have thought possible. And I can help you do the same! I’m sharing with you not only my wisdom and support…I’m sharing my resources and connections! 

Want to stop fear from running rampant in your life and get on with your goals and dreams?

Now You Can!

It’s my turn to give back. I want to help you bring your gifts and talents to the world and to make a successful living doing it. 

It's never too late to dissolve your fear and discover your inner bold! Begin today, with one small step in the right direction, and the people and tools to make new choices that support you in transcending your current level of courage and success.

What I Want For You…

I want you to clear the slate and open the curtains to your amazing future. I want you to leave your old doubtful, worried and anxious self and story behind and choose a new adventure. 

You are the author, you hold the pen and the opportunity to create a new chapter, one that's entirely your own. 

I want you to be brave – to have the courage to do what you love and to feel that you are powerful beyond belief.  

I want you to be surrounded by people who see you, who will help you live out your highest potential when you lose sight of it. I want you to know that we are in this together.

I want you to know that you are astoundingly brilliant. I want you to be free to do what it is you have come here to do. I want you to feel the love and support of a group while you do it.

I want you to believe that you can trust life to bring you what you need, that you can relax more, enjoy the ride and be happy to be alive.

So don't wait another second!

What Is Your Investment?

It’s an act of courage to sign up. If you’re not ready today…when will you be? 

We live in a time where everything is possible and anything can happen. Undo the limits on your life. Take a chance. Everyone who joins The Bold & Courageous Inner Circle will sign a confidentiality agreement. 

Imagine your life one year from now. If it’s the same as it is today, are you alright with that? 

What do you have to lose? The time is now to be bold, claim your courage and make your dreams come true! 

There are three different payment options for
The Bold & Courageous Inner Circle 

Plan #1: Monthly Membership 

The Monthly Membership is only $37/month! You get everything listed above plus 50% off and of my courses an servicesYour membership will automatically renew and you can leave the group at anytime.

Click below to sign up for this plan:


Plan #2: 4-Month Membership

If you're ready to make a bigger commitment, it's just $119 for the 4-Month MembershipIt includes everything stated above, plus you get 50% off any of my courses and services! We’ll shine the light on your biggest fear + create an actionable plan to overcome it in order to make your dreams a reality.

Click below to sign up for this plan:

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Plan #3: 8-Month Membership

Imagine how your life will change with a 8-month commitment!The for a 8-month membership is just $237! It includes everything stated above, plus you get a FREE 60-minute, 1- on-1 Courage Coaching Session (valued at $150) with me via Skype and you get a 50% discount on any of my courses or services!

Imagine where your life will be in one year with a 8-month commitment! Imagine the connections and resources you’ll gain, the friends you’ll make and the results you’ll see. Remember “Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!” 

  • If you’re ready to take 100% responsibility for your personal and professional life
  • If you’re ready to make a 100% commitment to yourself and the group
  • If you’re ready to spend the next 6 months implementing new ways to think about taking risks and reaching your goals.

Click below to sign up for this plan:

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I Love Face-to-Face Connection!

There are seven billion people in the world and we tend to interact with the same ones day after day. This is your opportunity to interact and befriend the people who “get” you, who want more, who see a bright future and know that the best is yet to come!

My greatest gift is interacting with my clients face-to-face. Reaching our goals and attaining the level of success we desire always requires hard work. We might as well have some company! We might as well get things done and make it fun! It’s a win-win for all participants.

This is a personal investment in you. Acknowledge your inherent worth. You are worthy of your heart’s desires and a prosperous life. Dare to see how powerful you really are. 

I want you to be able to be truly brave. I want you to know that you are powerful beyond measure. I want you to be free to do what it is you came here to do. I want you to know that you matter and that your dream matters.

Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by signing up to be in The Bold & Courageous Ultimate Mastermind Inner Circle. Why not you? What are you waiting for? Together we’ll build your courage muscles and design your life the way it’s meant to be!

Talk soon!

Tess Marshall M.A.

P.S. Feel free to email me with your questions or concerns TessMarshall5atgmail dot com.

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Guest post by my good friend Elle Sommer is the founder of Reflecting A Life

Slow breathing is like an anchor in the midst of an emotional storm: the anchor won't make the storm go away, but it will hold you steady until it passes. – Russ Harris

Panic attacks. I didn't know anything about them. Never even heard of them. Till I had one.

It was years ago and they struck seemingly 'out of the blue', except we all know there is no blue, don't we? Life doesn't happen to us in a vacuum.

I can tell you it wasn't very nice…they would sneak up on me when I was least expecting it and before I knew it, there I was in this place of…well panic.

For me it manifested in a strange shaking of the head and an inability to hold even a nice cup of tea without spilling it over my trembling hands.

Back in those days, in England, I don't think it was even called a panic attack and not knowing anything about anything I took myself off to the doctor, who promptly prescribed valium.

What?

Not likely…I've never been much of a pill taker and anyway I thought valium was for unhappy women of a certain age and I certainly didn't fit the bill.

I had no coping skills for anything like this, I was young, healthy with everything going for me or so I thought. But one thing was certain, the doctor didn't know what he was talking about.

Aaah the confidence of youth.

No matter, I was going to fix it myself. It was too challenging to live in fear, never knowing when panic would sneak up from behind and I didn't intend to spend my life looking over my shoulder…I had too much living to do.

But where to start?

Worrying time

I realized that I was a bit of a worrier. No, let's be honest, I was a pretty darned good worrier, in fact if there were medals handed out to worriers there's no doubt I'd have been a big winner.

If there was anything to worry about I could find it. I even worried about things that didn't really need to be worried about…it's what I did. It came naturally to me. The mundane, I could worry about, the trivial, I could worry about, the past I could worry about, the future I could worry about. Whatever it was you can bet I could find something in it to worry about. 

The only reason all this worrying didn't bring doom and destruction down upon my head was because paradoxically my natural state is one of happiness. I know the question you have, how could I be a worrier on the one hand and a happy camper on the other? No idea. It's just how it was.

It must have been happy me that decided I didn't need to worry the whole flipping time, I'd just save all my worries up for a good half hour worrying session at the end of every day.

So every time a worrying thought meandered through my little head I would say uh uh…come back at six…and I'll entertain you then.

The first week, it felt odd. I'd schedule my worrying time and send the little blighters packing if they came knocking too early. But then I found I couldn't find enough new things to worry about for half an hour, so I reduced it to fifteen minutes, till that got hard to fill too.

If you're a worryguts like I was, give it a whirl…you'll probably find it funny, as I did, that when you're in control of worrying time, the stuff you thought you had to worry about begins to disappear. Maybe it just doesn't like being that organized.

My first ever journal

I'm not particularly left brained, so this one was a surprise to me. And I didn't call it a journal, it was just my little book of worries. I decided I'd not only take half an hour a day and let all my worries run rampant but I'd take notes to see what popped up the most.

I wanted to see what the themes of my worries were. If there was one, given that I was a champion worrier. But I pressed on.

I created headings. Finances. Family. Job. Relationships. Health. Spirit.

I thought knowing where I was most vulnerable to worries might help me recognize any that slipped through my little safety net of worrying time.

It also helped me get clear on what was simply a normal concern versus a real worry. Funnily enough most things turned out to be simple concerns that I didn't need to run round and round in my head, blowing them up into gargantuan demons.

This might explain why, as I continued these practices, the worries began to diminish.

Something wonderful

It seemed to be necessary to find something more wonderful to focus on. Bear in mind I knew absolutely nothing about the concept that my thoughts and feelings were little magnets bringing my thoughts and feelings into the reality of my life.

I was totally oblivious to the fact that we live our lives based upon what we believe about ourselves, our world, about one another, about our limitations and our capabilities.

Nor did I know that I couldn't let negative emotions fill my mind without experiencing the consequences. Or that the opposite was true, filling my mind with the expectation of something wonderful would bring about wonderful experiences.

But something within decided I needed to focus on something wonderful and I determined that there must be plenty of wonderful things to think about and all I needed to do was to find them.

Hmm. What might help with this? I began to experiment, and each night, I'd fall asleep mentally affirming to myself isn't it amazing, something wonderful is happening for me.

Wonderful things began to appear. I was offered a holiday in Spain, a trip to visit family in Canada, amongst other wonders. Today I know why I was getting wonderful things to concentrate on, it's because everything we focus on as you fall asleep is being imprinted into our subconscious mind and we all know that's the powerhouse of our creativity.

Nonjudgment

Judgement wasn't helping. Seeing myself as a hopeless case wasn't helpful. Seeing myself as less than, because I'd had panic attacks, wasn't helpful. The more I judged, the more fear had me in it's grip and the more it had me in it's grip the more I was feeding it, increasing the chances of yet another panic attack.

And basically I didn't like them too much. I wanted to drink my tea, not spill it all over myself.

Most mornings I'd wake up and tell myself it's a non judgement day. No judging myself or anyone else and I found those days would turn out to be almost magical.

There were times when it felt that all I received was total abundance and success and I realized it was because I wasn't judging things out of the way. The barriers between me and the things I desired were being dissolved.

Oh yes, an added bonus…the panic attacks disappeared in the process.

What works for you? Are you willing to look within and challenge your fears. We know that each of us has that indomitable spirit within, calling us to expand and grow.

Why not share your secrets in the comments below. You just might have one that helps many move through a fear that's stopping them from living their best life so far.

Elle Sommer is the founder of Reflecting A Life, where each week she shares actionable wisdom that points the way towards living a richer life in relationships, finances and spirit. Elle's mission is to motivate and encourage everyone to create the life they want.

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