Living A Life Of No Regrets

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• Mark February 11, 2010, 9:51 am

  Amen! Great list and wonderful links to powerful thinkers.
  .-= Mark´s last post…It’s Okay When We Don’t Understand or Remember All The Wisdom That Comes Our Way =-.

• Liara Covert February 11, 2010, 11:14 am

  You have a knack for uplifting people and offering them tools to help themselves. That is a beautiful quality. Love and blessings to you!
  .-= Liara Covert´s last post…Be the architect of your own life =-.

• Hilary February 11, 2010, 11:21 am

  Hi Tess .. that’s a wonderful of expressing the way to go forward .. I love it .. so many good points .. a marker for us all – thanks and I love the sentences you’ve used and the way you’ve set it out. So good.
  .-= Hilary´s last post…Rhinoceros chase – or how about a little rolling over with Hippopotami? =-.

• Caroline February 11, 2010, 11:50 am

  I have watched this video many times since seeing it on Lance’s blog. Incredible…eye opening…life changing! Really puts everything into perspective… I know she is an angel!
  .-= Caroline´s last post…Honestly I am more of a lover than a fighter…sometimes =-.

• Jay Schryer February 11, 2010, 12:25 pm

  Beautiful, perfect, and amazing…kinda like you, Tess!
  .-= Jay Schryer´s last post…The P.I.T.A. Scale, and How it Will Change Your Life =-.

• Eduard @ Ideas With A Kick February 11, 2010, 1:12 pm

  Yeah, this is a big one for me. Regret makes no sense for me, pragmatically speaking, since we can’t change the past. Yet I know how common it is. Just one of those things we can all benefit from getting out of our thinking patterns.

  Eduard
  .-= Eduard @ Ideas With A Kick´s last post…The ultimate tool for managing your emotions =-.

• Kristie Ryan February 11, 2010, 2:00 pm

  Hey Tess!

  Love this article, especially the part about thrift stores, beauty schools, and libraries. I live less than a mile away from my library that I try to frequent often but don’t always make the time too and I LOVE thrifting! There’s nothing in the mall that can compare to an awesome buy at a thrift store 😉

• Kristie Ryan February 11, 2010, 2:01 pm

  I also love traveling and that definitely contributes to my happiness and life plan so I don’t mind making sacrifices for it
  .-= Kristie Ryan´s last post…The Big Three for Me =-.

• Sara February 11, 2010, 3:23 pm

  Tess — As usual wonderful words of wisdom to live by. I started to pull out my favorites and realized I liked them all.

  You have such a generous spirit, Tess. It’s always a pleasure to visit and see the clever ways you help us help ourselves.

  Thanks:~)
  .-= Sara´s last post…Anti-Valentine’s Day =-.

• Patty - Why Not Start Now? February 11, 2010, 3:29 pm

  Just what I needed to hear today, Tess. Thanks!
  .-= Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last post…What the Super Bowl Taught Me About Life =-.

• Lance February 11, 2010, 3:40 pm

  Tess,
  That video is something that is really staying with me, too. Like Caroline, I have watched it several times. Each time, is a real reminder that life is now. And that we have choices, always, in how we live that life of ours. What a beautiful list you have here, and that’s really testament to the person you are and the life you are creating for YOU!

  So…what Jay said…that guy knows how to call ’em!!! You are an amazing person, Tess…and it’s an honor to know you…
  .-= Lance´s last post…Acceptance And A Pair of Tiny Black Underwear =-.

• suzen February 11, 2010, 3:52 pm

  Hi Tess!
  That really was a great “message” video on Lance’s blog. Your list is fabulous and right on. We shouldn’t wait until some illness comes along to wake up! I just blogged about my experience with this on my blog this week.

  I’m sending your post to a few people who will LOVE it! Thanks so much for it!
  Hugs
  suZen
  .-= suzen´s last post…Dr. Feelgood on Feeling Good =-.

• Belinda Munoz February 11, 2010, 4:30 pm

  Lovely. Inspirational. True.

  Thank you for being you!

• Suzie Cheel February 11, 2010, 6:04 pm

  Amazing, we were both inspired by the same video- as I imagine were many others. I know her message to ” what are you waiting for ” was a strond message for me to just do it.

  thanks for your inspiration
  .-= Suzie Cheel´s last post…Monday Inspiration : Inspired By Angels =-.

• Joy February 11, 2010, 6:51 pm

  Tess,
  So well put! Ditto…ditto!
  Thank you for all that you share, all that you inspire me to be. Absolutely amazing:)
  ‘You’re simply the best….!”

• Walter February 11, 2010, 6:59 pm

  I think it all melds in loving life. If we love life, we will appreciate everything about it. 🙂

• Evia February 11, 2010, 8:00 pm

  Tess, you have left me speechless many times with your words, but I think this one tops them all. This post should be a signature post somewhere. It should be printed on posters or something in schools and workplaces, and malls alike.

  You are an incredible person – your joy and enthusiasm for life is so welcoming Tess, your wisdom so inspiring! Thank you, thank you again for this beautiful post.

  And how you linked in so many of us into this, just is more proof of your kind and generous spirit – you think of others and always find ways to make them feel special. I am really so honored by this and by having you in my life 🙂
  .-= Evia´s last post…Moving Beyond the Holy Day to Holiness and Wholeness Now =-.

• Karl Staib - Work Happy Now February 11, 2010, 8:11 pm

  The one that stood out the most for me was, “I only want to be with non-complainers, my family, friends and other weird, crazy and fun people.”

  People who complain too much, just bring me down. I like people who laugh easy and compliment even easier (as long as they are honest). There is no reason to complain because we have so much good fortune that we are lucky that life is this good.
  .-= Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s last post…Welcome Forbes Readers =-.

• Tess February 11, 2010, 8:16 pm

  Mark,
  Thank you! Thank you! And you’re one of those great thinkers as well!

  Liara,
  That’s a huge compliment coming from you. I’m honored and I appreciate you taking the time to tell me that.

  Hillary,
  You’re the best. xo

  Caroline,
  I got goose bumps (truth bumps) when I read about her being an angel. You got that right! I wonder if her spirit knows how many people she has touched?

  Jay,
  How do I love thee? Let me count the ways;) I appreciate you more than you know.

  Eduard,
  Yes let’s tell everyone, no regrets, no matter what happened in the past. Only lessons learned and movement and energy forward!

  Kristie,
  I get frustrated when the libraries can’t find or order books I want. It’s been a real lesson in discipline. But there are so many good blogs out there I tell myself I’ll read those instead. Why did the thrift stores take so long to find me? 😉

  Sara,
  Thank you so much. I appreciate you so much!

  Patti,
  Your welcome…isn’t life grand when we learn so much from each other!

  Lance,
  Thanks for having that video Sunday and inspiring all of us. I couldn’t get it out of my head and forwarded the link to others. I got her message at a deep level and the great thing is if I forget I can hear it again. I love that we’re all here helping each other move forward in the blogging community. Think of how strong we’ll all be 10 years from now. It will be exciting to watch. And then think of the difference we’ll make as we all become better people and helping others on the way. Blogging rocks!

  suZen,

  I’m coming over to your blog to read it, thanks for mentioning it. I’m a little behind this week…my sister and two neices are visiting AZ from MI.

  Belinda,
  You too!

  Suzie,
  I’m so glad we know each other. How’s your meditation CD coming? That’s the other video I was inspired by…Bill Yates.

  Joy,
  More love back at you, girlfriend!

• Tess February 11, 2010, 8:34 pm

  Walter,
  I agree when we love and appreciate anything…it grows and shines.

  Evita,
  I appreciate your kind words and know I feel the same way about you and your blog. I’m so excited to know you and it’s amazing to be inspired by someone so young. Most of my friends are several years older than me. As I grow older,knowing you reminds me of why they chose me as their friend.

  Karl,
  Thanks for all of the help and support you’ve given me on our blogging journey. I appreciate you.

• Dan @ Anxiety Support Network February 11, 2010, 9:13 pm

  All good points here. Eliminate everyone and everything who does not support your goal in life fearlessly and without compromise! Of course, some people are difficult and just have to be in our lives no matter what (family members), and it’s just the way that things work. But, great point about that stuff in particular!

• vered - blogger for hire February 11, 2010, 10:38 pm

  Beautiful. Inspiring. But can we really let go of the negative, the whining, the small stuff? I’m not sure I can do it 100%. Maybe aim for less than 100% at first…
  .-= vered – blogger for hire´s last post…Torn About Fat Acceptance =-.

• Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord February 12, 2010, 4:43 am

  What a beautiful, inspiring list. And Tess, thank you for your incredible kindness (as I sit here blushing). Your generosity is a shining example and that’s another thing I’m going to try to incorporate more of into my life.

  I loved your opener: smell the day. As a kid walking to the bus stop each morning, I used to do that — and NOTICE it. Spring has a distinctly different smell than summer, than does fall, than does winter. And there are variations within those seasons that if we simply take the time to INHALE and SAVOR, can enliven us.

  The other thing I loved from your list had to do with spending time with high-quality people — whatever that means to us at the time. Just the other night, I had dinner at a friend’s house and she is (speaking of generous) one of the most open-hearted people I know. There were eight or nine of us there, and she had a spread of food that mimicked Thanksgiving. And none of us expected to stay there and eat — we were there for another purpose altogether! But she loves to nurture, and so all of us sat around eating, laughing and LOVING for two hours. The next day, another friend who was there with me called up and said, “Wasn’t that a special night?” And you know what? It was. I thought to myself, “More nights like that, please!”

  Tess, thank you for always giving me ways to improve myself, and thereby improve the quality of my life.
  .-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last post…Underwear in the Jungle! =-.

• Samantha February 12, 2010, 5:21 am

  Atta post! Whew! Now that is what we call how to savor life to the fullest! Let me share to you this sayings.. i got it somewhere.. “LIFE IS FULL OF UNCERTAINTIES, WE WILL NEVER KNOW WHEN OUR TIME ON EARTH IS UP SO TAKE MANY PICTURES, LAUGH MUCH, HAVE A LONG WALK WITH SOMEONE, TAKE TIME TO LOOK AT THE STARS, EAT LIKE THERE’S NO TOMORROW, SING LOUDLY, FEEL THE COLD WIND, SMILE A LOT AND LOVE LIKE YOU’VE NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE CAUSE EVERY 60 SECONDS YOU SPEND IS A MINUTE OF HAPPINESS YOU’LL NEVER GET BACK..”

• Tess February 12, 2010, 8:20 am

  Dan,
  I understand yet there are a few family members that aren’t in my life and never will be. I love them from a distance.

  Vared,
  That’s a good aim. I’m not sure we can quit 100% of the time either because we have egos and fall back occasionally. Yet if one wants to quit they can quit 98.9% of the whining, complaining etc. Just gotta make up your mind to do it and catch yourself even if it’s in mid sentence.

  Megan,
  How blessed you are to have friends to share love and laughter with like that without any expectations. You are truly blessed and so am I for knowing you!
  Oh I mailed your package yesterday. So keep an eye out for it.

  Samantha,
  Every minute you spend a minute of happiness you’ll never get back…if that isn’t right to the point. Have a happy Friday!

• Stacey Shipman February 12, 2010, 8:38 am

  Tess,
  First, thank you for the link! I appreciate it.

  Next what resonated with me most is the line near the end “Life can be difficult, it’s what makes us interesting, human and capable.” I received a phone call yesterday that an uncle I am extremely close to suffered a devastation – a house fire that ruined much of the house and their belongings. Thankful that everyone was ok, I realized these are the times when people are most important – not money, not stuff. And when you are surrounded by loving people who can support you that’s how you will eventually make it through the challenge. Which leads me to then resonating with your tip “creating loving relationships.” We need people!

  I was told one “Better to regret something you’ve done than something you haven’t don”. It struck me when I was younger and I’ve carried it with me ever since.
  .-= Stacey Shipman´s last post…Stretch Break: Side Bend and Simple Chest Stretch =-.

• Carolynn February 12, 2010, 8:51 am

  Outstanding list. I can feel my energy resonating at a higher level already!
  .-= Carolynn´s last post…My Journey Outward – Connection =-.

• simply stephen February 12, 2010, 3:46 pm

  Oh Tess…wonderful. Again.

  Each one so simple in itself. Harder to achieve as a whole but when broken down into these beautiful segments – so easy to digest and cease each one.

  Perhaps we should implement these principles into the school curriculem and work philosophies!
  .-= simply stephen´s last post…eco friendly packaging made simple =-.

• Patricia February 12, 2010, 6:01 pm

  Another tip top post Thank you…I haven’t watched Lance’s video YET! just working on catching up on reading everyone’s GOOD STUFF these days.

  I think Davina is saving for that Grand Canyon hike too…wow that sounds like something that would bring joy and a smile…worth figuring out
  .-= Patricia´s last post…ANTS or Automatic Negative Thinking ~REPOST =-.

• Marko @ CalmGrowth February 13, 2010, 6:44 am

  Life is a wonderful adventure and it is full with great challenges.

  Everyone should be facing life and its good and bad sides, rather than escape from them. Why? Because you can not escape from your reality. However you can change and enjoy it.
  .-= Marko @ CalmGrowth´s last post…How to Be Interesting =-.

• Love online February 13, 2010, 8:02 am

  Carpe diem

  There is no rehersal for life. We live it once, so live it wisely and in happyness. A sad day is a lost day and they run out all too soon.

• Dawn February 13, 2010, 9:18 am

  I am working on it. As I sit here, unmovitivate…cruising the web, wasting time…I have a sense of dispare…sort of. My life is taking a dramatic new path…I am, most days, exhilerated by my new adventure. Today, I am a bit perplexed. Trying to really grasp hold of what I want, what I am doing.

  This post comes at a perfect moment for me. I practice what you speak of…I live it with all that I have. Moments like today are hard…they confuse me…Thank you for being a moment of clarity.
  .-= Dawn´s last post…Those sneaky little things called…Feelings =-.

• Tess February 13, 2010, 9:23 am

  Stacey,
  Oh yes we do need people. Thanks for sharing about your Uncle…I’ll be sending kind and peaceful thoughts his way. Having people helping us get through tough times can make all the difference in how we heal our emotional wounds from the devastation.

  Carolynn,
  I’m all for our energy increasing and everything that helps it to do so. I think your blog does exactly this.

  Stephen,
  That’s a great idea…schools, work, families…everything!

  Patricia,
  Yes to the Grand Canyon, joy and smiles everything lack of stuff, clutter etc makes room for:)

  Mark,

  My intention is to enjoy and grow through good times and difficult times. Even if it hurts;)

• Davina February 13, 2010, 10:55 am

  Hi Tess. I love the idea of dinner by candlelight with the TV off. It’s been ages since I’ve done that. As for turning off the negative chatter, it’s exercise 🙂 I catch myself a lot. On the plus side of this, it feels positive TO catch it and let it go. The more we practice the better we get at not letting it bring us down.
  .-= Davina´s last post…Take a Spiritual Bawdy Break =-.

• Gareth February 14, 2010, 3:24 am

  Ha! Very nice list.

  A lot to agree with there. The bit that rings a bell with me right now is saving money for a holiday. I am cutting right back on some stuff so that we can go on holiday later in the year. Every cent saved goes towards the holiday and I KNOW we will get there!

  Thanks
  Gareth
  .-= Gareth´s last post…It’s a long way to the top if you want to blog and roll… =-.

• Tess February 14, 2010, 6:30 am

  Davina,

  Yes the candle light sounds fabulous and isn’t it great that we can feel positive rather than beat ourselves up for the negative. Isn’t life grand?

  Gareth,
  Faith combined with action brings success. Where are you going?!?

• Jannie Funster February 14, 2010, 8:42 am

  Tess, you just keep shining your love and light for us all and I love you, love you, love you!! So much! Every blogger you linked are shining stars too!

  Are you really going bungee jumping in New Zealand? And hmmn, Davina is saving for that Grand Canyon trip too? Does this sound like a party emerging? Do you have dates set for the trips?

  You are soooo WONDERFUL, Tess. Are you sure you’re not a mirage, or something? 🙂

  xoxo
  .-= Jannie Funster´s last post…The Sweetest Bloom =-.

• Wilma Ham February 14, 2010, 1:27 pm

  HI Tess.
  Well, it seems we are all inspired by your zest for life and how wonderful is that?
  What I love is that all the things you mention are about daily life, something we can do every minute of each day.
  Life is about what is right in front of us, like you say smelling the day that is right here, enjoying the stuff you have and of course saving for New Zealand, yeah.
  Practical is what I like because that is what I can change, my daily doing in simple yet profound ways.
  I know that you will not be a person who says, “oh I was planning to bring you some chicken soup when you were sick but somehow I never got around to it, sorry. You are the person who will plan it AND bring it . THAT is a big difference and that is why you are loved. Xox Wilma
  .-= Wilma Ham´s last post…Love is the real Father Christmas. =-.

• Gareth February 14, 2010, 2:48 pm

  Hi Tess,

  We are going over to the Gold Coast in Queensland, Australia. We live in West Australia so, even though the holiday is in the same country, its on the other side of the continent! We actually got married on the beach there last year so its got some special memories for us. Fun place too.

  Enjoy yourself over in NZ !

  Gareth
  .-= Gareth´s last post…It’s a long way to the top if you want to blog and roll… =-.

• Julie Walraven | Resume Services February 14, 2010, 7:01 pm

  I wandered here from Davina’s blog — I love Commentluv! It keeps leading me to more wonderful people. I could relate to much of what you said and your commenters said. I have friends now… all over the world as well as some business relationships because of the blog.

  I love what I learn, who I meet, and wish there was more time in the day.
  This is one of those posts, I wouldn’t mind on my wall, out there to savor in little bites whenever I can.
  .-= Julie Walraven | Resume Services´s last post…Cultivating Networks —> Right Place, Right Time =-.

• Heidi Lyn February 15, 2010, 4:18 am

  Love & Delight are two words to live by. Thanks for the perfect reminders. I could spend the next year implementing your list . . .
  .-= Heidi Lyn´s last post…Love Is In the Air =-.

• Tess February 15, 2010, 6:32 am

  Jannie,
  Well you’re invited to the party if you want to come. I think Davina is saving and planning. No dates yet. Looking into Grand Canyon for either this fall or next. When ever the hotel at the bottom of the Canyon has a room open. We are not carrying our stuff to the bottom!

• Tess February 15, 2010, 6:35 am

  Julie,
  Thanks for stopping by and I’m happy you found something worth while. I love comment luv as well but especially Davina!

  Heidi,
  Yes let’s do that implement delight and love, good idea;)

  Wilma,
  Chicken soup? Yes I’ll bring some when I come even though we won’t be sick. We’ll just need energy for all of the playing we’ll be doing.

• Lana - DreamFollowers Blog February 15, 2010, 11:55 am

  Wow, what an awesome list Tess! I absolutely need to come up with an absolute No list, I’ve been thinking of doing it for awhile now. Every time I come to your blog I leave inspired and motivated, thank you!
  .-= Lana – DreamFollowers Blog´s last post…you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

• Ephantus February 19, 2010, 9:02 am

  Hello this a great moving article for someone like me who has been living a somehow down life. Thanks. I need more of these inspiring articles that want to make to wake each morning and face life with a bold face. Count on all the highlighted objects. Everything that will come and face each problem with a stern and decisions and made up mind.
  The blogger is very talented and upholds the dignity and deserves a very good title to be an inspirer. It pays everything to read your posts. Thank you for the writing. Its truly inspiring

• Jodi at Joy Discovered February 27, 2010, 3:55 pm

  Hi Tess!
  You post faster than I can read, so please excuse this late comment!! I just want to tell you that I really love these lists you make and the variety of topics you cover. Living a life of no regrets is a biggie on my list. I particularly like your Absolute No’s List and your Take Delight in Life List–what you wrote under that one is special.
  Thanks for putting this together and spreading your sunshine!!
  Lots of love, Jodi
  .-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last post…Affirmations for a Good and Happy Life =-.

• Val@Holistic MindBody Healing August 21, 2011, 8:48 am

  These are great tips we all need to review and incorporate into our lives. They remind me to embrace the day, be present, keep it simple and treasure those people who are most important in my life. Now I’m going to check out that video. Haven’t seen it yet.

• Laswed May 25, 2012, 1:16 pm

  Thats motivational,thanks.