101 Bits of Wisdom for a Bold and Fearless 2013

by Tess


It's time to reflect on 2012. Did you overcome any fears? What worked for you? What did not?  I've gathered bits of wisdom that you may like to incorporate into your life for a happy and more loving new year. I encourage you to bet on the positive, be fearless, and expect the best in 2013. 
  1. Don't be afraid to say "No, that’s not going to work for me.”  Don’t offer an excuse.
  2. Smile for no reason. Make it a practice to look people in the eye and smile.
  3. Learn how to receive. Just say, “thank you!”
  4. Learn how to give. Begin now, especially if  you think you don't have enough. 
  5. Let go of the need to be right. Allow the other person to have the last word.
  6. Tell others how you feel. Say "I love you, thank you, and I appreciate you," often.
  7. Don't live with regret. Learn to apologize. Take you ego out of the need to win.
  8. Allow yourself to fail. Regroup. Try again. Eventually you will succeed.
  9. Eat mindfully. Give thanks for your food. Chew each bite. Pause in between bites.
  10. Know that you are good enough, you do enough, and you have enough.
  11. Focus on one task at a time. Stay present. Then move on to the next task.
  12. Know that you are responsible for everything that's right and wrong in your world. Refuse to blame.
  13. Send thank you cards the old fashioned way. It’s inexpensive, meaningful, and rare.
  14. Share what you have with those around you. Act your way into being generous.
  15. Go the extra mile. It’s a good and honest way to stand out from the crowd.
  16. Uplift others when they are down. Be compassionate. Take a walk in somebody else's shoes.
  17. Be courageous. If you have something important and difficult to say, do it face to face.
  18. Do what you were born to do. The world needs your voice.
  19. Rethink your problems.  Most of the problems we think we have are only minor inconveniences.
  20. Make deliberate, loving choices. Take the high road. Always.
  21. Recognize your projections. Your problems are never about someone else. It’s always about you.
  22. Hire a coach. Dare to follow up on what you need to do to change.
  23. Don’t take things personally. What other people do is about them. How you react is about you.
  24. Fire yourself up. Be persistent and passionate.
  25. Enjoy chocolate. Deprivation never works. Enjoy one small piece of expensive candy and savor.
  26. In spite of setbacks stay the course. Trust yourself. make adjustments. Grow on.
  27. Forgive your parents. Forgive yourself. Forgive everyone in between. Practice forgiveness daily.
  28. Put wisdom into action. Be brave, fearless and unstoppable.
  29. Practice promise-keeping. Write down what you promise others. Your integrity is a big part of this.
  30. Laugh at your petty fears and share your talents with the world.
  31. Change the negative stories you repeat to yourself. Do the work. This is life changing.
  32. Let go of doubt. Live full-out and choose to be wildly successful.
  33. Practice gratitude. Want prosperity. Being grateful for what you have is the quickest way to feel it.
  34. Don't drag yourself though life. You were born with wings. Learn to fly!
  35. Agree to disagree. Others are entitled to their own opinions. Don’t make others wrong. Instead, listen.
  36. Have the courage to be extraordinary. Don't ever hold back your gifts.
  37. Be willing to compromise. Practice meeting other people in the middle.  It’s a peaceful way to live.
  38. Start where you are with what you have. Jump in and keep moving.
  39. Love toxic people from a distance. Create boundaries and send prayers, blessings, and good thoughts.
  40. Let go of the need to do it perfectly. 
  41. Remain true to your dreams and visions.  You have one life. Be bold enough to live it like you wish.
  42. Focus on your talents, focus on the gifts you have to give. Focus on the love you want to share.
  43. Eliminate all forms of negative media from your life. Don’t allow yourself to be controlled by fear.
  44. Practice having faith in yourself. Choose to feel confident. Visualize your success.
  45. Live the life you’ve imagined. Work hard. Live simply. Be adventurous. Serve others. Have fun.
  46. Let go of striving, begging, pushing, and shoving.
  47. Be true to yourself. Don’t try to be someone or something that you are not. Own your uniqueness.
  48. Be brave. Connect from your heart. 
  49. Embrace the present. Life is now. Heal your past. Don’t fear your future. Notice you are OK right now.
  50. Let go of guilt and shame. You are OK. Let that sink into your cells.
  51. Just begin. Create a vision. Make a plan. Take a small step in the right direction. Continue until you close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.
  52. Recognize how great you are. Give yourself the praise and credit you want from someone else.
  53. Give thanks in advance. Expect the best. Know that things will work out. Be grateful now.
  54. When life is difficult remember this too shall pass. It always has and always will.
  55. Collaborate with others. You don’t have to go through life alone. Partner-up and cut your work in half.
  56. Practice allowing. Release all emotional desperation and attachment to your goals. 
  57. Learn to admit, “I don’t know.” Become comfortable with not having all of the answers. It leaves you room to grow.
  58. Point out what is right and good in people.
  59. Find something to believe in. Believe in love. Believe in the good of all. Believe in yourself.
  60. Shift your perception away from what makes you feel down to things that make you feel good.
  61. Learn how to cook. One of the quickest ways to save money is to cook and eat at home.
  62. You are powerful. You are creative. Decide what you want your future to be.
  63. Dare to be your best. Take the time to do things right. Put in your best effort. You’ll have less regrets.
  64. Remember it's your privilege to change your mind.
  65. Take risks. Do what scares you. Don’t be afraid to fail. You’ll see the world in a different light.
  66. Bless difficult people and situations with love. 
  67. See beauty in world. Spend time in nature. Notice kind people. Enjoy life.
  68. Know that you choose how to interpret the people and events in your life. You give them all the meaning they have for you.
  69. Celebrate what’s right with the world. Look for people doing the right thing. Speak well of life.
  70. Choose to focus on love thoughts rather than attack thoughts.
  71. Do something brilliant every day. You are smart. Own it and do great things.
  72. Create a joy and excitement journal. Do more of what you love.
  73. Encourage others. A kind word or a kind deed aimed at helping others get ahead, goes along way.
  74. Don't spend time with people you don't enjoy. Don't compromise your personal happiness.
  75. Make a difference. Do something meaningful. Leave a legacy.
  76. If you want to be happy, give up what makes you unhappy.
  77. Continue to learn something new. If you want your life to be different, learn and do something different.
  78. Discover and celebrate what you have in common with others. You will increase the love in your relationships.
  79. Mentor someone. Every successful person has received help. Pay it forward.
  80. Give up excuses. They make you lazy.
  81. Learn to be frugal. Stop recreational spending. Waste not.
  82. Celebrate life even when it's difficult and frustrating.
  83. Spend time with children and the elderly. It will show the depth of your character. Life isn’t about you.
  84. Stop doing the things you don't enjoy doing.
  85. Be honest about your taxes. Cheating on your taxes is about scarcity, dishonesty, and entitlement.
  86. Accept your abundance and prosperity and share it with others.
  87. Wake up and go to sleep at the same time every day.  It’s about energy. It’s about flow.
  88. Without guilt, give to yourself first.
  89. Don’t bet against yourself. Believe in yourself. Own your power. Strut your stuff. Claim your dream.
  90. Go out on a limb. Risk. Dare. Leap. Jump. Be brave. Breathe. Break a rule. Have fun. Do the unexpected.
  91. Take calm mini breaks throughout your day.
  92. Be creative.  Paint. Draw. Take a photo a day. Plant a garden. Sing. Act. Dance. Dream.
  93. See the world as plotting to do you good today.
  94. Don’t believe your own thoughts. Learn to think well of yourself. Everyday. Own your inner light.
  95. Repeat Louise Hay's mantra throughout your day. "Life loves me.
  96. When you believe you can handle anything, you'll be willing to take more calculated risks.
  97. Look for your lessons in difficult situations. Learn them and move on.
  98. Become aware of the multitude of choices you make everyday. Choose wisely.
  99. Be brave. Be strong. Dance on.
  100. Learn to attract more love into your life.
  101. Love.  Begin with loving intentions. Speak loving words. Take loving action. Attract more love into your life.

Please share your favorite bit of wisdom below.

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{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

Betsy/Zen Mama December 3, 2012 at 4:26 am

I always love your lists and make sure to print out and keep close by! Thanks for inspiring me to think forward into 2013! Sure to be a wonderful year!!
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Tess December 3, 2012 at 12:53 pm

Thanks for being one of my biggests fans. You’re the best. xo


Glori Surban December 3, 2012 at 7:45 am

Great list, albeit a little overwhelming! I need to get started. Thank you for sharing!
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Tess December 3, 2012 at 12:54 pm

Just take one and incorporate it in your life. Then another and another. Soon it will snowball and you’ll be amazed. All real change is slow. So go at your own pace. Thanks for stopping by.


Mary December 3, 2012 at 8:32 am

What a wonderful year and life ahead if we learn to embrace, apply and practice, practice, practice these steps. I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t be happier. Thanks so much for your encouragement, guidance and this great list.
Here’s to living bolder and blooming brighter every day in 2013.


Tess December 3, 2012 at 12:55 pm

Back at you! I’m all for a bold and bloomin’ new year;) xo


Sandra / Always Well Within December 3, 2012 at 12:39 pm

Funny, out of all these brilliant bits of wisdom, the first one resonated very strongly for me. I had a breakthrough with being able to say “no” in 2012 and your post is reminding me to reinforce it and carry it through to 2013. Thank you!
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Tess December 3, 2012 at 12:56 pm

Saying :no” is powerful, it sames time and sanity. I don’t know why we aren’t taught this earlier in life!!! xo


Cathy Taughinbaugh December 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm

Hi Tess,

Awesome list! Wow you have set the tone for 2013. Love them all, but this one spoke to me – Make deliberate, loving choices. Take the high road. Always.” Thanks as always for a great post! Take care and best wishes to you for the new year.
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Chris Akins December 3, 2012 at 8:46 pm

Very nice as usual, Tess!

Thanks for the inspiration.

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debora December 3, 2012 at 9:45 pm

What an incredible, inspiring list! I stopped reading it at around number fifty because it is so thought provoking. I’ve copied it down so that I can concentrate on a couple each week for the next year.
Many Thanks,


Karen December 4, 2012 at 9:56 pm

Another great list – I loved several of these – I’ll have to read them again – many times.
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Vidya Sury December 5, 2012 at 12:33 am

Wow. I am a fan of list posts and specifically your lists, Tess. I’ve printed your earlier lists. Thank you for the inspiration! Love, Vidya
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Galen Pearl December 6, 2012 at 8:53 pm

You had me at #25!! Great list!
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Fran Sorin December 7, 2012 at 2:59 am


I loved all of them but #1 hit between the eyes. It was perfect timing. Will tell you more about it at another time. Thanks for inspiring -xxoo-Fran


KarenYvonne December 7, 2012 at 12:28 pm

The one tip I will make my mantra for 2013 is #32 Let go of doubts… Thanks so much for your list…I need t o print this off!
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Rand December 8, 2012 at 1:37 pm

Hello Tess,

A few days ago I went to your homepage and noticed the ’101′ post, but did not at the moment read any offered…

Yesterday evening while running a 5 mile barefoot run on the beach at sunset I told myself…’I bet Tess included a *gratitude* affirmation among the ’101′.


As I ran >>>>>>>>>>>>>thoughts of being blessed by God came to me. After all my years of being a runner I am so fortunate to be setting my foot prints joyously into the soft sand…being able to weave around washed up sea kelp…going up onto deeper sand when the high tide forces me to. Soon the whales will be migrating south to Baja…god willing I will be treated again to wonderful breaching this upcoming year.


This one gave me a real belly busting laugh!

…being that I severed and lacerated tendons plus nerves in two of my fingers last August while…making a *Veggie Sandwich*…again ‘grateful’…could have been worst,but sure did not save much money…WAIT…my insurance saved me a whole big bag of money!!

*Laughter* has been my ‘Word’ for 2012…it helped me through a lot, and I hope I made life a bit easier for others :)


Thank you Tess…I realized my ‘Word’ for 2013

Peace be with you…


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