10 Rules for a Bold & Daring Life

by Tess on March 25, 2009

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Claim Your Dream. Go after it like your life depended on it. It does! If you want a successful relationship put in the time and effort necessary. If you want a new car begin saving for it. If you want a new career spend at least two hours a day or more pursuing one. Don’t listen to critics. Rise above doubt, keep the faith and move forward.

When I was raising my kids it took me nine and a half years to finish my bachelor’s degree part time. I immediately entered grad school for a degree in counseling psychology. Two years after graduation I began a private practice. What are you willing to do to get what you want?

Ask, ask, and ask. Ask for help. If one person says no ask another. There are 6 and 1/2 billion people in the world. Someone has what you want and is willing to help you get it.

Ask someone out on a date. Ask if someone wants to be your friend. I was reading an article one day on Random Meanderings that really touched my heart and soul.

I checked out the author’s bio and discovered she lived near me. I sent off an email and asked Julie if she wanted to meet for lunch. I told her I was looking for new friends. Her reply was “yes,” we have since met and had a great time. Next time we are going hiking and back to her home for lunch! Reach out and invite others into your life.

Commit to Being a More Loving Person. Do random acts of kindness anonymously. Share your knowledge with others. Help others get what they want. Put others first. Leave a large tip. People are struggling more than ever today. Commit to going out of your way to help someone in need. This is what life is all about.

Spend Time Alone I’m up at 5:00 most mornings which gives me a couple of hours to meditate, pray, journal and exercise.

If I miss a few days I can feel it in my attitude and mood. It’s impossible to be happy if you don’t find time for yourself. You can read blogs on balance and self help but if you don’t take action you won’t get anywhere.

Learn From Your Experiences When you are in conflict or struggling ask yourself “what am I suppose to learn from this?” Don’t waste time obsessing. There’s wisdom to glean from everything that happens in our lives.

When someone cuts in front of me in the grocery store I can look at them as “rude” or I can learn patience. What someone else does is about them. How I react is about me. It’s all about responsibility.

Show Yourself Some Love
Learn to be gentle with yourself. Take good care of yourself. Forgive and accept yourself. Your children will learn how to do these things by following your example. You are unreplaceable and unrepeatable. You deserve the best in life.

Know You Are Capable of handling whatever life brings you. Thing of everything you have been through thus far. When in doubt dwell on your strong points. Relax. Learn to listen to and trust your intuition. In difficult situations do what you can and the best you can and let go of the outcome.

Be Adventurous Today eat something new, learn something new, see something new and do something you’ve never done before. Break out of your routine. Life is to be discovered and experienced. Life is what you make it. Make it interesting and fun.

Rise Above Fear Recognize when you are fearful and breathe deeply. Center yourself. Get in the present moment where you will always find safety. Just for today give up worry and fear.

Treasure Your Relationships Spend time with the people you love. Transcend everyday pettiness and egotistical behavior. Go the extra mile. Be committed. Express appreciation. You will be blessed with joy and abundance.

Bonus: This is from Luke at Confusion Management and I couldn’t pass on adding it to the list!
*Look at things you haven’t seen
*Go Places you haven’t been
*Do things you haven’t done
Apply Lukes advice to your business, relationships, or travel!

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    Patricia March 25, 2009 at 2:57 pm

    I am working on asking, asking, and asking right now…It just does not seem right to have a pulled muscle with this much disability for 5 months…and the Dr.’s just pawn it off and go after their concern – not mine. I am going to try a medical intuitive next….I do not wish to go to Scotland in July this physically miserable and I want to be on top of my game at 60….

    Here! Here! good post….and a bold rally cry!

    Patricia’s last blog post..A Cautionary Note


    steadymom March 25, 2009 at 3:22 pm

    Really inspiring – thanks!


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    Davina March 25, 2009 at 5:38 pm

    Hi Tess. What a lovely article! I say AMEN to your statement “It’s impossible to be happy if you don’t find time for yourself. You can read blogs on balance and self help but if you don’t take action you won’t get anywhere.” Ain’t that the truth.

    Your posts speaks to me of reaching out to people rather than waiting for them to reach out to you. It is all about us making life happen isn’t it?

    Davina’s last blog post..A Vision of Fulfillment


    Liara Covert March 25, 2009 at 9:07 pm

    You highlight meaningful initiatives that people unconsciously undertake. The thing is to be more aware of the implications of what one does or does not do. Thanks for offering such gentle reminders. Every moment, the universe sends out energy vibrations in form and formless wake-up calls.

    Liara Covert’s last blog post..Reframe everything as love


    Daphne March 26, 2009 at 2:07 am


    What I love about your writing is that you obviously speak from experience, and only advise people to do what you’ve already done. Tried and tested tips are the best! Your first paragraph got me hooked. Claim my dreams, spend two hours a day on it, don’t listen to critics (including myself). Excellent advice, thanks for this. Stumbled!

    Daphne’s last blog post..How To Find Happiness That Lasts


    Tess The Bold Life March 26, 2009 at 5:16 am

    Good idea on the medical intuitive. I’ll hold a vision of health for you.

    Thanks for dropping by. I’ll check out the bigger underwear.

    Yes that’s the truth. I have so much alone time given to me on a platter since my kids left home. Ha how easy it is now.

    Yes that’s true. I’m also aware of the wake up calls and what happens if I don’t listen.

    You’re the best. I spend so much time on this blogging dream it’s crazy. I am blogging for joy and it makes it all worthwhile. The times or days I don’t feel joyful I don’t do it.
    I’m off to Atlanta for my 1/2 marathon. Yeah!

    Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..10 Rules for a Bold & Daring Life


    Giovanna Garcia March 26, 2009 at 7:59 am

    Hi Tess

    This is my favorite of your work so far. I love the “Claim Your Dream”. We have to take ownership of our dream! And the other 9 are also fantastic. You are bold and fabulous :-)
    I am stumble this so more people can learn to how to live a Bold and Daring life.
    Giovanna Garcia
    Imperfect Action is better than No Action

    Giovanna Garcia’s last blog post..Don’t sweat the goofy stuff.


    Jan Baros March 26, 2009 at 10:32 am

    original post.


    Ryan Rekishi | Acorn-Seeds March 26, 2009 at 10:34 am

    Hi Tess,

    This is my first time visiting your site! Found it through the Change Blog. Very nice and Great Post! I enjoyed the entire read and by far my favorite part was “ask, ask, ask”.

    This has helped my so much in my life. Learning from people who have achieved more than me.

    Thanks again,
    Warm Regards,

    Ryan Rekishi | Acorn-Seeds’s last blog post..Why Personal Growth Doesn’t Create Lasting Change (Part 2)


    Robin March 26, 2009 at 5:06 pm

    Hi there Tess – focusing on what we want really helps, that’s for sure. Thanks for this list – it has lots of great ideas!

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    Jannie Funster March 26, 2009 at 7:20 pm

    WONDERFUL list. I am so amazed I actually know someone who writes this – you!

    For me what stood out the most was about “taking good care of yourself, forgiving and accepting yourself.”

    And being in the moment… I think for the first time ever yesterday, I channeled my stage nerves into really enjoying time as it passed.

    In the car on he way to the show I was having a running commentary with myself about what I was seeing and feeling as I drove along. I think it was a very major turning point for me yesterday.

    Jannie Funster’s last blog post..Technical woes


    Amanda Linehan March 27, 2009 at 7:44 am

    Hi Tess – “What someone else does is about them. How I react is about me.” Wow, what a great statement. Too many times we are overly worried about other people and not worried enough about ourselves. Treating people based on how they treat you is a reaction – but treating people the way you believe others should be treated is an assertion of your own personal values.

    Great “non-list” list post :)

    Amanda Linehan’s last blog post..The Creative Adult


    Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com March 27, 2009 at 12:33 pm

    “Spend Time Alone” – this is my biggest challenge these days. At least I know what I need. I started to think about rising early. 5:00 sounds to extreme but 6:00 might work for me just fine. I already have a habit of going sleep after midnight. Having 6 hours for sleep should be sufficient i guess.

    Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com’s last blog post..Effective Techniques To Handle Your Kid’s Temper Tantrum


    Liara Covert March 27, 2009 at 8:17 pm

    Thought the idea of highlighting relationships is worthwhile. After all, if you believe human beings exist to learn lessons, then you begin to realize its relationships that have potential to stretch you in deep and meaningful ways. Thanks for the reminder.

    Liara Covert’s last blog post..Sound the voice of Happiness


    Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach March 29, 2009 at 12:15 pm

    Oh, what a terrific post! Love your comments about ask, ask and ask again. So many times we give up after the first rejection – it doesn’t have to be that way.
    I really enjoyed reading your words.

    Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach’s last blog post..Karate Brown Belt Promotion today, site hacking and more!


    Tess The Bold Life March 29, 2009 at 5:33 pm

    My best eh? That’s a compliment coming from you! Thanks.

    Yes original it is.

    It’s amazing I’ve asked blogging buddies for help and have always received it.

    Yes focus is one of my challenges. It works when I do it.

    You are the best. You will be so great just think of all your blogging buddies that love you!

    Yes it is a great statement and we only need to remember to react with love.
    Thanks for stopping by.

    Once you decide what time to go to bed and what time to arise, stick to it daily. You’ll soon be well on your way to a new schedule.

    What blew my mind when I learned it was to thank the people who challenged me the most. I instead wanted to write them off.

    No it doesn’t. Fearing rejection will keep us stuck and non trusting of others.

    Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..10 Rules for a Bold & Daring Life


    Sara B. Healy March 30, 2009 at 1:44 pm


    Once again a fabulous post. My favorite was ASK, ASK, ASK…it’s something I always need to work on and so I very much appreciated this reminder. The other ones were also great…it’s like the my perfect 10 commandments on life as I would like to live it. Thank you for being the wise woman you are :~)

    Sara B. Healy’s last blog post..Story Photo Contest


    Liara Covert March 31, 2009 at 2:58 pm

    Is it any wonder many human beings get wrapped up in fear, guilt, anger and otehr negative emotions? Whenever a person permits negative energy to control the mind, then perspective is obscured. Whenever you choose to express love, there is an opportunity to stretch, learn and restore balance.

    Liara Covert’s last blog post..5 Ways to respond to the inner mystic


    Tess The Bold Life March 31, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    I think the next rule will be Give Give Give so it all balances out!
    I couldn’t have said it better myself. I need to remember this as well.

    Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..10 Rules for a Bold & Daring Life


    LisaNewton March 31, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    Wow, what a great list. Plus, I go place I haven’t been, and do things I haven’t done every week. That’s what my blog is all about………………….:)

    LisaNewton’s last blog post..Pershing Square is the Place to be


    Jannie Funster March 31, 2009 at 8:28 pm

    Just coming back here to your blog makes me feel happy and refreshed, seeing your goldfish jumping and your uncluttered design gives me great vibes.

    I plan on linking up your blog sometime because I have some lovely buds I know would find your place as uplifting as I do. Not exactly sure when and how I’ll be linking you, tho. All I know is I will.

    So off to sweet dreams I go now, with all the happy feelings lingering from re-reading this post. :)

    Jannie Funster’s last blog post..Ukulele Video


    Tess The Bold Life April 1, 2009 at 7:54 am

    That’s why I love your blog.

    You’re the best! Keep on keepin’ on!

    Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..10 Rules for a Bold & Daring Life


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