The Bold Life: I'm Failing at Twitter & Facebook

These flowers and the scrabble pieces usually sit on my kitchen window. I set up different words and different letters to remind myself what's important to me.

I've been meaning to spend more time on Facebook and Twitter since the first of the year. It's not working. I've been playing with family and friends. My life is out of balance in a good way. The following photos help tell the story of why I'm failing with social media.

My oldest daughter and two grandchildren came to visit for 10 days! The sun rises and sets, the moon shines; the tides rise and fall, and we have only to sit back and enjoy!

Next horse back riding at sunset…

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I hadn't been on a horse in 30 years…it's funny what I'll do for my grandchildren. I couldn't resist this photo, it's the farm girl in me. 

Life is good and I choose to say yes to it. I'm living it to the fullest!

              

Mac just turned 16 and I'm savoring our time together…soon she'll be on to driving, boyfriends and SAT'S. AJ is 13 and ready to cowboy up!

     

We went for four hours and the dessert was breath taking. It was a trip we'll always remember. After two hours we stopped at a
 restaurant to eat.

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 On the return trip It was dark and the only light came from the stars and the moon. I was amazed how the horses climbed the mountains through the rocks knowing exactly where to place their feet. I'm on the horse behind Mac taking these photos. My daughter was on the horse behind me. Hubs skipped the ride and drove to the restaurant to eat with us. There is an olive farm a few miles from us. They sell the most amazing olives, olive oil, bread, gourmet salads and gelatto. Prior to AZ I didn't know what an olive tree looked like!

This famous sculpture is one of the most celebrated works within the art world. The sculpture is located at the Civic Center Mall, between the Scottsdale Center for the Arts and the Civic Center Library. It was conceived in a time when the United States was consumed by the Vietnam War, LOVE became a symbol for Peace. Many couples pose for engagement and wedding photos here.

Love, family, fun and a sunny day! Cherishing the simple pleasures my life brings to me.

Some how I have to find more time for social media!

How about you, where do you make time for everything blogging requires?

More photos to come next week taken with another daughter and grandson;) Isn't life grand?

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  • Joy May 14, 2010, 12:00 pm

    Tess,
    I don’t have a grand answer, because like you I enjoy life–time with my family, my friends, playing as much as possible, work… however I believe all of that energizes me so that when I *do* share it is excellent energy from a life well lived. In the blogging world, I am still just as heart led as in the real world, so I’m about the connections and hope my thoughts/words help enrich or lend a smile….having said that, it won’t sell multiple printings of books…but the connections I’ve made have allowed me to experience far more than I could have imagined possible….I wouldn’t trade *that* for anything.
    And, honestly, this post you shared today is so alive–the photos show you *living life fully* and there isn’t an essay that can teach or inspire as much as what you’ve shared today….
    Here’s to lots more Spring and Summer adventure:)

  • The Exception May 14, 2010, 12:47 pm

    Joy said it all – There is not much to add except – I am from Arizona and have never known that there are olive trees! I am now very curious about that farm and its produce as it sounds delightful! (I am from the mountains higher than Flagstaff)
    There is a time and a place for social media. Right now I spend very little time on the computer (when I am not at work) and lots of time with friends and nature and my daughter who is changing and maturing daily. There will be another time for the media – To everything there is a season, no?
    Have a wonderful weekend – and great pictures!
    .-= The Exception´s last post…Anchors =-.

  • Davina May 14, 2010, 12:50 pm

    I dunno… sounds to me like your life is IN balance in a grand way, Tess! The horseback riding sounds wonderful. It is amazing how the horses can find their way in the dark isn’t it? Nah, you’re not failing at Twitter and Facebook; you’re succeeding at life. 🙂
    .-= Davina´s last post…The Muse is My Master =-.

  • Karen May 14, 2010, 1:10 pm

    Hi Tess,

    Absolutely nothing wrong with taking a break from the computer and spending quality time with the people who mean the most to you. The pics looks like everyone had a wonderful time.

    I went horsebacking riding for the first time a couple of years ago – had a blast but it was only for an hour. I envy your four-hour jaunt.

    Karen
    .-= Karen´s last post…The First Step In Finding Meaning For Your Life =-.

  • Jannie Funster May 14, 2010, 2:06 pm

    Hey Tess! Boy, does A.J. look like YOU, or what? It’s so cool!

    Fail? Fail and Tess in the same sentence? I think NOT! This blog is very much a hit, and if you want the social media to grow, they will in time. I know you will grow them when you’re ready to — when the time for that is riper. I see you as only getting started.

    The way I see you is one successful horse-back riding photo-taking family-loving human being!! And a good, encouraging, uplifting friend to many. And that, my buddy — is what matters!

    xo

  • Jarrod @ Optimistic Journey May 14, 2010, 3:51 pm

    Sounds like you’ve got a good problem on your hands. I think family should always come before social media. Keep up the great job raising your family, social media will find it’s way in the cracks and crevices of life! Sure it’s great for business but no business should take the place of family.

    Thanks for sharing!!
    .-= Jarrod @ Optimistic Journey´s last post…Are You In Indifference Mode? =-.

  • Wilma Ham May 14, 2010, 3:56 pm

    Tess, Tess, life is good when you follow your heart BOLDLY and when you refuse to be fearfully doing social networking because you think you have to make IT work with hard work.
    Tess, you know your life is in balance, do NOT go there. I too still sometimes wonder what it is that I ‘must’ do to make ‘things’ work and if I am NOT taking off too much time to smell the roses. And yet, we are NOT here to work and be slaves to money, we are here to enjoy life with people who are right in front of our nose.
    Tess, you are an awesome woman to ask this question so boldly and then doing boldly what your heart wants to do anyway. Ha, I love you for this, I too wonder sometimes and thanks again for being such a pal and making me feel alright too. Lets carry on boldly enjoying life, this is a far more powerful message than your fear driven tweets would be in my humble opinion.
    Love ya, Wilma
    .-= Wilma Ham´s last post…Wilma on How our words lift people up =-.

  • Karla Bond May 14, 2010, 4:22 pm

    Hey I would take family bonding over twitter and facebook anytime. Enjoy them.
    .-= Karla Bond´s last post…Digital Cameras =-.

  • Joy Tanksley May 14, 2010, 4:47 pm

    Thanks, Tess, for sharing these lovely pictures. They tell the whole story. I say, ditch the have-tos and do what feels delicious!
    .-= Joy Tanksley´s last post…Magenta =-.

  • Debbie Hampton May 14, 2010, 5:25 pm

    You are really partaking in and experiencing the abundance of your life. Twitter and Facebook will wait for you and will still be there when you get around to them. I guarantee it. Thanks for providing such a glorious example for all of us and for sharing. Enjoy!

  • Evita May 14, 2010, 7:52 pm

    Hi Tess

    There is nothing better than to hear of people enjoying their life – I mean REALLY enjoying their life, like you are! So feel great!

    Social media is, and can be wonderful but to a certain point. I will be honest that I don’t go out of my way to engage in social media. I engage in it as naturally as possible when I am on the computer, but I am not one of those people who tweets when on a walk or with family or friends. There is a time and place for everything.

    On top of that there is SO much social media today – if one is not careful it can tug us in too many directions. I know it has taken me a few good months to get to an efficient point where I am today. And the things like you describe above would always come first to me too 🙂

    So no guilt, and you are definitely not failing – feel great about the amazing time you have been having!

    P.S. Wow, does AJ ever resemble his grandma!
    .-= Evita´s last post…Healing: The Capability of Being or Becoming a Miracle =-.

  • Lance May 14, 2010, 8:04 pm

    Tess!
    Keep on “living life”!!! If part of the appeal of facebook and twitter are ways to strengthen and build connections – I say that you are doing it in an even better way – in person, being there – in the moments!!! What a great way to bond with those who really matter to you!!
    .-= Lance´s last post…And Why Do We Laugh? =-.

  • Stacey Shipman May 15, 2010, 4:09 am

    Like many commenters before me you are not failing at the social media when you are enjoying life so much! Keep on enjoying it! You are blessed to have what you have! Family is beautiful especially when you can spend real quality time with them.

  • Keith Davis May 15, 2010, 5:06 am

    Hi Tess
    I really needed this post.
    I was beginning to think that I was the only person in the entire blogosphere who didn’t have time for twitter and facebook – what a relief!

    Truth is, we find time to do what we really want to do.
    For me that is writing posts and interacting with other bloggers.
    As for twitter and facebook?
    Manana, manana.
    .-= Keith Davis´s last post…Flying in formation =-.

  • Tess Bold Life May 15, 2010, 6:10 am

    Joy,
    We think a like … if I give up what I have what would I be working for anyway, my ego, more stuff or someday? I’m so happy we’re friends and thanks for inspiring me and encouraging me along the way.

    Exception,
    Ahh Flagstaff and that area I’ve not been to. I still have a lot of exploring and hiking to do;) You see what I mean?!? You’ll never get those moments back with your daughter. You’re wise to not miss them. It’s called Queen Creek Olive Mill and you can tour the place as well. It’s beautiful.

    Davina,
    You are sweet and king and that’s why I love you!

    Karen,
    If you want to come on over I’ll go again;)

    Jannie,
    How do I heart you? Let me count the ways:)

    Jarrod,
    I know I’m doing the right thing but my ego gets in my way at times. Augghh!

    Evita,
    Yes we’re hearing AJ looks like me more and more. The first boy in our family! He has my personality as well. How crazy is that? Thanks for you support I so appreciate it.

    Lance,
    Thank You! I appreciate your comments, laughter and support.

    Karla,
    Yes I am blessed! Thank you.

    Joy,
    Oh yeah what feels delicious. I just love that!

    Debbie,
    Enjoying and experiencing the abundance in my life. I like the way you put that and I think I’ll write about it as well. Thanks for the insight you have a way with words.

    Stacey,
    Thank you and I’m blessed to have a ton of family and friends like you!

    Keith,
    Yeah someone else like me…I’ve always been a misfit!
    .-= Tess Bold Life´s last post…The Bold Life: I’m Failing at Twitter & Facebook =-.

  • Julie May 15, 2010, 8:45 am

    Tess, Tess, you’ve just demonstrated what I was telling you the other day! You’re doing it right, SO right. Thank you for this wonderfully visual emphasis on what’s ultimately the MOST important part of life. All the online socializing must take second place. With that, I want to know: Where’d you go riding where you could leave the horses for dinner? And now I’M getting off the computer and going outside. I’ve a couple horses to see. 😉

    PS: Your daughter is the spitting image of you.
    PPS: Flagstaff’s gorgeous. The White Mountains are, too! In fact, ALL of Arizona’s mountain regions are breathtaking. One of these days, preferrably in the heat of summer, you’ve gotta get out of the city—by car, this time. 😉
    .-= Julie´s last post…Bright Moments =-.

  • Tracy Todd May 15, 2010, 9:31 am

    I would give anything to be able to say that I am failing at Twitter and Facebook. I can only wish that my life was as physical as yours. Yet, I am thankful for the social media which give me the privilege to communicate and connect with many people while sitting on my lazy butt all day long. 🙂
    .-= Tracy Todd´s last post…The Curse =-.

  • Zeenat{Positive Provocations} May 15, 2010, 9:52 am

    Darling Tess,
    Youre lIVING….YOURE ALIVE! and thats the best balance you need. Social media is good…but yes..it has its limitations….on the eyes, the fingers..and the mind. But the real social circle..the real life…now thats bliss..through and through. These beautiful moments you spend with your grandkids…will never come back. Facebook and twitter can wait…youre too busy LIVING! And thats the best way to live!
    As for me..and social media…well moderation works….ok only a little bit. I have to admit…I aint too good at it either 🙂
    Much love,
    Z~

  • Patty - Why Not Start Now? May 15, 2010, 12:41 pm

    Hi Tess,

    I love it that you so enthusiastically proclaim to the world that you are failing at social networking! Who needs Facebook and Twitter when real life is so delicious? And me? I’m not allowed to have Facebook or Twitter. Let’s just say my “inner” parent has said a resounding “no” to that, understanding full well that I would either get addicted or I would have no time left for things like gardening, walking, reading, etc. Well, probably both would happen. So although another part of me worries that I’m missing out on something, I just keep reminding myself about what my heart knows is true for me.

    Your photos are a delight. What a fun life you’re leading!
    .-= Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last post…Fortune Cookie Magic =-.

  • Sandra Hendricks May 15, 2010, 12:52 pm

    I hear you, with all the pretty weather and priorities in real life, I too have spent more time on me. Newborn horses to play with, asparagus to hunt… Those plain pleasures that make living superb and interesting! I thought the other day that I may be letting down my blog readers. However, I reminded myself that it’ll be there when the time is accurate. I believe we, in fact, are finding more balance than we are losing here. Thanks, for reminding us that online pursuit is rewarding, but we all live outside our websites and online communities.

    Keep on living,
    Sandra 🙂
    .-= Sandra Hendricks´s last post…Prescriptions for Happiness Conclusion =-.

  • Tess Bold Life May 15, 2010, 5:50 pm

    Julie,
    I thing you’re so funny and fun! We went to South Mountain. They have a couple of options and we wanted sunset. I can’t tell you how to get to the restaurant via road but I can via horse. LOL 🙂

    I can’t wait to explore Flagstaff and Northern AZ I gotta talk hubs into the camping thing and he’s hated it since his army days. He did it when the girls were little cuz it’s what we could afford. I’ve got a lot of talkin to do!

    Hug the horses for me. I’m going to look online for the place and get back to you. xo

    Tracy,
    I’m coming to your blog to see what you butt sittin is all about. LOL everyone is so funny today. Welcome and I hope you stop in again soon.

    Z.
    I love you! Enough said;)

    Patti,
    You are so right and even though my heart is leading me my ego won’t shut the heck up about the social media! Does anyone have any super glue? I’m following your lead Patti!

    Sandra,
    And if we’re not all living outside of our blogging communities we’re missing out on the richness of live. All in balance my new friend. Welcome!
    .-= Tess Bold Life´s last post…The Bold Life: I’m Failing at Twitter & Facebook =-.

  • Caroline May 15, 2010, 8:57 pm

    I giggle at this…in a good way of course. I am totally failing at twitter. I go on a few times a week. I find that between blogging & flickr I can’t do much else. I actually force myself to get off the computer and go outside. Isn’t that crazy? Lately I have been more busy with photography so that takes me away…and it’s good. We all need to remember that life exists off line too.
    .-= Caroline´s last post…The perfect accessory =-.

  • Topi May 15, 2010, 11:48 pm

    Hi Tess,
    Firstly, fantastic pics – thanks so much for sharing them and the stories.
    Secondly, it sounds to me like your life is completely in balance, and if you force yourself to do the whole twitter / facebook thing, you’d be moving out of balance. If those things were to be naturally a part of your life right now, they’d be there – and they’re not, so I guess I’d just keep on going the way you are. Your blog is fantastic, and as I don’t do twitter or facebook myself I don’t really know what more could be gained by taking time from your family and friends to devote to other social medial. Me, I’d just keep on doing what you’re doing – I’m loving it, I hope you are too!
    Topi
    .-= Topi´s last post…The possibilities are endless =-.

  • Hilary May 16, 2010, 1:33 am

    Hi Tess .. I think you’d better take the advice of mates .. all’s well in The Bold Life household .. and please don’t .. I’m on my over to visit the Olive Farm with you .. and eat at your restaurant, wander into the Sunset in the Desert .. sounds glorious!

    Lovely to have just a simple post on family life being thoroughly lived to the full .. all enjoying themselves and being grounded with family and life & at peace .. what could be better …

    PS – first Castle one done – Stirling – not sure if your sister went there?! Bats and Moths a ‘filler’ …!!

    Love the post – thanks for sharing with us .. Happy Days to you – Hilary
    .-= Hilary´s last post…Bat and Moth Survey Night – tonight =-.

  • Tess Bold Life May 16, 2010, 4:53 am

    Hi Hillary,
    I’m not sure about that castle either…bats and moths?!? Oh and please do come over and visit and I’ll buy lunch at the restaurant;)
    .-= Tess Bold Life´s last post…The Bold Life: I’m Failing at Twitter & Facebook =-.

  • Kaz May 16, 2010, 8:14 am

    What a wonderful way to “fail”!!

  • Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord May 16, 2010, 10:00 am

    Tess, I’m IN LOVE with those photos, and with the idea of horseback riding at sunset. Wow! Thank you for sharing them with all of us — you’re helping me DREAM, and the dreams are beautiful.

    As for how I make time for blogging, well, I don’t anymore! And I canceled my Twitter account. Life is taking me over in new and wonderful ways, and it’s asking me to be outside more, which is contrary to the suburban girl in me. I love it, too. Just this morning, I helped plant a garden. Yesterday, I mowed a lawn — only the second time in my life doing it, too! Life is grand, and like you, I’m failing at social media… But “fail” might be better replaced by “choosing in another direction,” which your post so perfectly pointed out.

    Much love to you!

  • Fatibony@Self help Motivation May 16, 2010, 10:13 am

    Twitter and face book may fade away hopefully not……. but from looking at your lovely collection of photos Tess it looks like you are all having a fantastic time nothing can take that place 🙂
    .-= Fatibony@Self help Motivation´s last post…Tips to deal with confrontation =-.

  • Lori May 16, 2010, 11:46 am

    Hi Tess,
    Wow, I love this post — such a great message, great photos, and lovely to see you out there making it great! I agree with what you’re saying here. I suppose it’d be a different story for me if my business was my online presence — but it is not, so choose otherwise. I treat my online activities as any other hobby. When I spend too much time on anything, it somehow becomes less fun.
    I agree with your lovely community, too. It’s great to see so many friends here!
    Thanks for a great message, Tess. Perfect timing for me!
    ~xo

    • Tess May 16, 2010, 1:36 pm

      Hi Lori,
      If I spend too much time online I get obsessed which is not a good thing for me. I’d rather be obsessed with my physical world out doing fun stuff with face to face interaction in the human flesh. It’s why I’m making it part of my plan to meet my friends on line in person.

      I’m meeting Peggy Nolan this weekend and Caroline after that. Yipppeeeeeeeeee!

  • Tony Single May 17, 2010, 4:42 am

    Fabulous! I had no idea that you live out near the desert, Tess! 🙂

    Frankly, I wouldn’t worry about Twitter and Facebook. Much better to get out there and live life. We only get one of those so we need to make the most of it!

    Hmmm… I think I might make a trip to the city gardens very soon. I’m hankering for some real world contact.
    .-= Tony Single´s last post…After =-.

  • Keith May 17, 2010, 9:00 am

    Hey Tes!

    Wow! Where do I make time for all that blogging requires? Good question!

    I keep myself on a pretty full schedule every day. I wake up the same time evry day, work approximately the same amount of hours and get home pretty close to the same time. Once home I eat by a certain time. After eating I will do blogging stuff for about an hour or so. Then I work out and then back to blogging stuff until close to bed time. That is my typical M-F schedule. Also, during the day, any time I get a few minutes, I’ll hit the computer and do some things too.

    Doing it all does require a lot of time, but I still love it. Like you, I love my family deeply and value time with them above all else. I think this is absolutely essential for a happy life. Without family and their love, the rest of it doesnt matter. 🙂
    .-= Keith´s last post…DON’T DODGE THE DETOUR! =-.

  • Marko -- Calm Growth May 17, 2010, 5:53 pm

    “Life is good and I choose to say yes to it. I’m living it to the fullest!”

    And you’re right! I always get a smile and good mood when I visit this blog. 🙂

    These are beautiful pictures and text! What can I say except: I am glad that you have these moments, Tess! I wish you to have more of them than anything else!
    .-= Marko — Calm Growth´s last post…Someone Will Always Have More Than You =-.

  • Ya-Tin May 17, 2010, 10:57 pm

    Wow, the word “failure” shouldn’t exist in your vocabulary! As Kaz said in a previous post, “What a wonderful way to ‘fail’!!” I love your idea of the scrabble pieces!

  • suzen May 18, 2010, 7:01 am

    Hi Tess! Life really should be too full (yours is, mine is!) to worry about social networks. I know they are there – I know they can help some people launch stuff out there – but really, seriously, who has time with a full life?! I vote for LIFE – the real deal. And don’t use the “f” word! 🙂
    hugs
    suZen
    .-= suzen´s last post…The Paradox of Choice =-.

  • Chania Girl May 18, 2010, 11:07 am

    It took me a while to get here, but get here I finally did. I have had this post starred in my reader for at least a week now, but I wanted to be able to sit and savor. And I’m so glad I waited, because this was savory.

    I loved everything about this post and truthfully cannot add a damn thing to it. (So why am I commenting?) Maybe I just want to say how happy I am for you and this “unbalanced” balance you’ve laid hold of and claim to. Bravo you, Tess. Bravo, you! And thank you for sharing this joy with us.

    Will definitely look forward to the more posts and pictures so tantalizingly promised. 🙂
    .-= Chania Girl´s last post…Passion and Glory =-.

  • Kristie Ryan May 18, 2010, 12:06 pm

    Hey there Tess!

    Don’t worry, I am always failing at Twitter. In fact, I think I’ve given up on it completely. It looks like you’ve got a good excuse to skipping out though 😉 I find myself never wanting to go on the computer after work and therefore I am slacking in many departments when it comes to social networking and my blog. You keep doing what you’re doing and I’m pretty sure you will have no regrets!

    I also must say how much I love your scrabble pieces and flowers. Such a fun idea 🙂

  • Jodi at Joy Discovered May 18, 2010, 12:51 pm

    Hi Tess! The ten days with your daughter and grandkids sounds fabulous!! And the pictures are awesome–it is so fun to get a glimpse into your life! I really like your line in the beginning of the post: “My life is out of balance in a good way”–it is funny how on paper we can delineate all our priorities and even map out the appropriate amount of time we will give each priority to make it soar–but then in real life, our actions scream out for what we really want–fun, connection, family, exploring, nature, and the like…In times like these, I always think to myself, well, FB and Twitter aren’t going anywhere…Keep having fun and telling us all about it!
    .-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last post…Off the Shelf: Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukav =-.

  • Jenn May 18, 2010, 4:43 pm

    Tess, I love the entrance photo, and what a lovely idea to do that word choice! I tend to put up visual imagery which helps me capture what I most want to embrace in my life. Similar idea though, and words are powerful. I find quotes to be this for me! Just enough to ponder throughout the day ..

    I found I had to let a lot of networking go to honor my values.. and time prioritization.. now I am down to two emails, fb, one main blog and that’s all 😉
    *I let go of twitter, and linkedn and other experimental ones after I knew it wasn’t working for me.. also myspace, and old emails and old blogspots which served their season well. lol.. really, I did clean house though! 🙂 it felt great!
    “sometimes being out of balance with the world, is just what we need to find the beautiful well and create reserves within.” 😉 and to come out refreshed and leave an impact back on the world with what they are missing out on ! 😉 it seems to me you are doing just that 😉 and this is so lovely!
    Plus, I’d go easy on yourself.. because
    I think it takes awhile to find our rhythm and just enough outlets but not too much by letting go of what doesn’t “until it feels just right!” 😉 …

    I think it is more important to feel centered and to do fun things like you shared in the photo above, it speaks of substance and LIFE! 😉
    btw, I love the olive tree and the LOVE sign photo 🙂

    I’d rather use the online if it is a community tool other than a status quo. 😉 hugs to you today! ~Jenn
    .-= Jenn´s last post…One Heart, One Voice…..Stepping Up to the Plate! =-.

  • Greg Blencoe May 24, 2010, 4:16 pm

    Hi Tess,

    Like Jenn, I love the photo! Very nice.

    And it is obvious to me by looking at the pictures that you have your priorities straight. In my opinion, Facebook and Twitter are fine in small doses. But a little bit goes a long way. I know I would choose horseback riding over Twitter!

    Basically, my attitude is to just focus on what brings the most happiness and fulfillment in a given moment. And it seems like this is exactly what you did.
    .-= Greg Blencoe´s last post…30-day money challenge: Day 12 – 7 short YouTube videos of trips I made over the weekend to help me be in alignment with what is on my vision board =-.

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