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A Bold Move + A Bold Farewell

For the past eight years, since moving from Michigan to Arizona, I’ve had the opportunity to create, write for, and coach amazing, brave readers, clients and friends from all over the world. I’ve been thinking about the direction I want to go in, both on- and offline, for months now. That direction might surprise you. ... [Read more]

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For the past eight years, since moving from Michigan to Arizona, I’ve had the opportunity to create, write for, and coach amazing, brave readers, clients and friends from all over the world.

I’ve been thinking about the direction I want to go in, both on- and offline, for months now. That direction might surprise you. It certainly surprised me! But once you know something – really know and feel something – there’s no turning back.

I’ve decided to make a serious change. It’s time to close my business and The Bold Life.

There are many reasons for my decision, but the reasons aren’t as important as the way that I feel now that I’ve made the choice. I feel empowered. I feel excited about what’s next!

It’s time for a change. It’s time for something new.

Major life decisions are not easy ones to make. It takes courage and bold action to change one’s life.

Bold readers like you inspire me to step into my most authentic self and grow outside of my comfort zone. Know that you have taught me so much. Each of you is precious to me.

It has been my pleasure and an honor to share my expertise, experiences and wisdom.

Of the millions of blogs to read, thank you for choosing mine. Of the millions of coaches to hire, thank you for hiring me. Of the millions of e-courses to purchase, thank you for buying mine.

I feel both blessed and eternally grateful. Helping each of you has easily been the richest part of my job. Know that I care. Know that you are loved!

So now what?

What will I do with the rest of my life?

I plan to watch more sunrises and sunsets. The mountains are calling me. I want to hike and garden again.

I want to paint, learn Spanish and take a video and photography class. I want to meditate more and read non-business books!

I want to do these things for pure pleasure.

I want to really listen to family and friends when they call. I want more offline friends. I want more face-to-face connections. I want to be more mindful.

I want to go to lunch, laugh and be silly. I forgot what it’s like to be carefree!
My life and its circumstances are 100% my responsibility, so I’m choosing to do what feels right to me. I feel empowered and free.

Is it scary? Not even.

There are infinite possibilities, opportunities and blessings waiting for me. I am worthy and deserving. I will continue to flourish!

Megan Tietz says, “Everything good and valuable and important that you learned from blogging can be put into practice in a dazzling number of ways outside of the medium.” Sounds exciting, eh?

I expect that my mind-boggling new life will unfold and magic will be bestowed upon me. The rest of my life will be the best of my life.

I’ll be guided. I’ll make it so.

As for you …

I’ll miss you, and will cherish the exchanges we’ve had throughout the years. I trust that each of you will continue making bold choices that honor your inner calling!

I know you’ll use what you’ve learned here to create moments you’re proud of!

The content of The Bold Life site will be available and remain online.  You can continue to follow me on Facebook.
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My best work is my course, 30 Days of Bold: Feeling Excited And Ready. Check it out. Today is the best time to begin something new!
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Your presence here has been a joy. You will always have a place in my heart!

Love always,

xo Tess

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Fear is future-oriented. It’s imagining what could go wrong but hasn’t gone wrong yet. Fear is hiding under self-judgment, comparison and envy. Fear holds you in a pattern of self-doubt. Fear is running a mental movie of the worst-case scenario repeatedly in your mind. What kind of movie do you play? Is it a horror movie? ... [Read more]

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Fear is future-oriented.

It’s imagining what could go wrong but hasn’t gone wrong yet. Fear is hiding under self-judgment, comparison and envy. Fear holds you in a pattern of self-doubt.

Fear is running a mental movie of the worst-case scenario repeatedly in your mind.

What kind of movie do you play? Is it a horror movie? A comedy? Or is it a success story? A love story? A drama?

Remember, you are the inventor. You invent your future with the choices you make today. Your choices create your tomorrows.

How would you feel today if you knew the best was yet to come? How would that influence your actions? 

Reminder: Get 70% off my best course, 30 Days Of Bold: Feeling Excited And Ready! You get lifetime access to videos, personal stories, workbooks, interviews and action steps to remove self-imposed barriers, make fearless choices and flex your get-up-and-go muscles! Click here, check it out and fear less!

How to build an extraordinary future:

1. Choose to spiral upward.

Own your strengths, gifts and unique talents. Acknowledge all that you have to offer the world. Know that you are wiser than you think you are. You are unlimited. Speak and act your way into greatness.

2. Witness your fear.

Write your fears down in a journal. What are your fears trying to tell you? Hear them out. Lean into your fear and breathe. Fear will soon fade.

3. Take five swings.

In order to get something new, you must fundamentally change how you think, feel and act.

Take small action steps daily towards your dreams. Ron Scolastico says, “If you would go every day to a very large tree and take five swings at it with a very sharp ax, eventually, no matter how large the tree, it would have to come down.”

What five swings are you willing to take today?

4. Know the cost of fear.

Fear causes stress that affects our health, our decision-making process and our freedom. It’s just as easy to focus on a positive outcome as it is a negative one.

We can choose to learn from suffering and pain, or joy and inspiration. Which outcome are you unwaveringly committed to?

5. Invest in your faith.

The same force that holds the stars in the sky and turns an acorn into an oak tree is at work beyond what you can comprehend.

Believe that the Universe has your back. Believe that everything will work out as it should. Put your energy in your faith. Release all worry.

6. Crave life.  You have to live life to the end. Feel the world. Explore. Be with people. Do the unusual. Take the crooked path.  Take things too far. Because it’s possible, right?

Believe in a future you can’t experience with your senses. Have faith in a future you cannot see. There is immense power in this.

7. Today is your beginning point. Make every day new. When you choose to live life in the present and confront and overcome your fear, life is exciting, you feel empowered and you fill your life with curiosity and wonder.

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How to Conquer Your Fear of Change

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. – Elizabeth Appell I have felt this pain, this fear, a number of times in my life. When the fear of leaving a “good job” was overcome by my need to find out what ... [Read more]

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And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. – Elizabeth Appell

I have felt this pain, this fear, a number of times in my life.

When the fear of leaving a “good job” was overcome by my need to find out what I was meant to do in my life.

When the fear of not following my relationship habits was overcome by my willingness to break those damaging habits and find a new way.

When my fear of meeting new people was overcome by my need to network heavily to find a new job to provide for my family.

In each of these cases, my fears reared their ugly heads and threatened all kinds of evil outcomes if I didn’t stay in my comfort zone.

They threatened me with, “What if you never find a good job again?” and “What if you never find another man to be in a relationship with again?”

When it came to networking, the fears of rejection and the feelings of not being enough were enormous.

But, underneath the shrills of my fears, I was able to hear the whispers of my True Self that lovingly showed me that if I didn’t change, I would continue to be unhappy – or worse.

These were significant life changes. In every case, when I looked the fear squarely in the eyes I could see that there was little there. There was nothing to fear except a continued life of unhappiness.

That doesn’t mean that these changes were easy. Quite the opposite. They were hard as hell, but the alternative – staying the same and feeling unhappy – was no longer acceptable.

In every case, the payoff’s have been unbelievably positive. I walked through the fire and emerged a happier person from the experiences I had, the lessons I learned and the new attitudes I adopted.

Those new attitudes were critical in the process. Instead of having an attitude of fear, I chose to see each challenge as an adventure.

I approached the edges of my comfort zone with an inquisitive attitude, curious about what I might learn next.

After being incredibly nervous and uncomfortable in my first month of networking, I asked myself, “How can I make this fun?”

Instead of thinking about how I came across to others, I became curious about the people I was meeting. I wanted to understand what made them tick so I could discover ways of helping them.

By shifting the focus from me (“What will they think of me?”) to them (“What can I do to help them?”), I became much more relaxed, and the game became fun.

What was the tipping point, that thing that made me push past my fears and the edges of my comfort zone to discover what I was capable of? It was the pain of staying the same and repeating my old patterns.

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.

My world and the people in it weren’t going to magically change some day to make me happier.

If I wanted to be happier, I had to change. As scary as it was, there wasn’t any other choice.

Reminder: Get 70% off my best course, 30 Days Of Bold: Feeling Excited And Ready! You get lifetime access to videos, personal stories, workbooks, interviews and action steps to remove self-imposed barriers, make fearless choices and flex your get-up-and-go muscles! Click here, check it out and fear less!

The Worst Case Scenario Game

Whenever I face a tough decision, I play the Worst Case Scenario game. It goes like this:

Think about that scary thing you’re afraid to do.

Write down all the possible outcomes that could happen if you do that thing. Let your mind go wild. Don’t edit anything. Write the good and bad, no matter how crazy they may seem. Keep writing until you can’t think of anything else.

Take each possible outcome, one at a time, and follow it to its worst end. Don’t create positive opportunities along the way. Just let it get as bad as it can.

For example, if I left my good job, I may never find another good job again. Then I’ll be horribly under-employed and bored. Or I’ll be unemployed for a long period of time.

My meager savings will run out and I’ll have to drastically downsize to a smaller home. I’ll have to sell everything I own. Eventually, I’ll be homeless and begging.

Ask yourself what the likelihood would be of that worst case ending. Usually, you’ll find that there are plenty of opportunities along that downward path to do something different and head off the worst case.

In the example above (and in most of my other worst-case scenarios), I’ve already lived the worst case and it wasn’t the end of the world. I figured out how to turn things around. I grew in the process.

Write about what you would actually do if that worst case happened. Think about it as if it already happened. That’s one way to face those monstrous fears and watch them shrink in front of your eyes.

The unknown is scary. The known isn’t. When you know how you’ll handle the change, it’s not as scary.

This process helps you to stop the daunting “what if’s” spinning in your head that increase stress and anxiety. It helps you to finish the “what if” stories and shine the light on the answer to the “what if” question.

The “what if” questions are the monsters hiding in the closet. You’re scared to open the closet door but, once you do, you see that the monster is a pile of clothes on the floor.

It’s never as bad as you thought it would be.

Paige Burkes inspires her community at Simple Mindfulness to see the world in a new light through mindfulness.

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Debbie Hampton recovered from decades of unhealthy thinking and depression, a suicide attempt, and resulting brain injury to become an inspirational and educational writer on brain, emotional, and mental health. Enjoy our interview! Debbie, what part has fear played in your life? Fear was the predominant guiding force in my life for four decades. I’ve ... [Read more]

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Beat Anxiety And Depression By Changing Your Brain

Debbie Hampton recovered from decades of unhealthy thinking and depression, a suicide attempt, and resulting brain injury to become an inspirational and educational writer on brain, emotional, and mental health.

Enjoy our interview!

Debbie, what part has fear played in your life?

Fear was the predominant guiding force in my life for four decades. I’ve lived most of my life conforming, doing all the “right” things, to achieve the “good life” I’d heard about growing up. To get to this promised land, I invested most of my efforts into trying to avoid the big “bad things” I’d learned that I didn’t want: pain, loneliness, failure.

With fear looming large, my life decisions were all about what I didn’t want instead of what I did want. Life became a marathon obstacle course of avoiding rather than achieving, which led to a numb, depressed existence.

At 43, I found myself divorced, depressed, and more scared of life than ever and tried to commit suicide by swallowing a bunch of pills.

After a week in a coma, I woke up with a severe brain injury and my ex-husband soon sued me for custody of our sons. He won and immediately moved out-of-state with them. And I was scared before?

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How did you come back from that one?

Very slowly! Seriously. Unraveling that mess and recovering emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically literally took years. Initially, I was seriously mentally impaired and couldn’t retrieve words, remember the day, my sons’ ages, or that I’d gotten divorced.

Physically, I could barely speak, couldn’t coordinate the acts of breathing and swallowing anymore, and had no fine motor skills.

Getting down right mad, I told myself, “If I have to live, I’m NOT living like this!” Over the first year, I naturally healed somewhat and, in the following years, I learned all I could about the brain and worked very hard every day at my rehabilitation.

Alone for the first time in my life, I had no one to put my limited energy into but myself. The more I recovered, the more I learned. The more I learned, the more I recovered.

I utilized alternative therapies, like neurofeedback, acupuncture, hyperbaric oxygen therapy, daily exercise, and mental health practices, like brain training, meditation, and visualization, to rebuild my brain and mind.

The brain injury was a blessing in disguise because it forced me to make radical changes in my lifestyle and mindset that I’d needed to make long before.

Because the underlying belief systems and perceptual foundation upon which I’d built my reality withered away along with brain cells, I got to start with a clean slate, so to speak.

My injured mind was not capable of entertaining all the fear and worry that it had before. All I could do at first was exist in the present moment. That alone required all of my attention.

When I did heal enough for my old friends rumination and anxiety to creep back in, I was determined that I was not going to fall into the same unhealthy ruts that had led me to the suicide attempt.

I began meditating and practicing mindfulness, visualization, thought reframing, and seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist.

By consciously working with and altering my thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, I transformed my world which, in turn, changed my physical brain and its default mode of operation.

It didn’t happen overnight, and there were many many relapses (and still are occasionally), but it did happen.

What’s one thing you used to really resist that you now accept?

I used to really resist change. It terrified me. I would do almost anything to stay in my comfort zone – even if it meant being miserable. I was a master at creating disastrous mental movies of the future and torturing myself with pain from the past.

I lived in tremendous fear of the unknown and with heavy regret.

I have learned to stay in the present and to direct my choices in the now to consciously create the future I want. I approach change now with a bold, enthusiastic curiosity.

While I still feel the dread of the unknown at times, I forge ahead anyway because I know now that this feeling is part of living fully, and I’ve learned to have trust and faith in myself and the universe.

I’ve also learned that if I shut out the pain or fear, it blunts and dulls the joy and happiness. I have to allow myself to feel the full spectrum: the highs and the lows, to experience life’s rich texture.

I now believe that in uncertainty lies all possibility.

What would you like everyone to know about fear?

Fear is a prison. It’s a box in which we keep ourselves to avoid failing, to avoid being laughed at or judged, to avoid feeling disappointment or hurt, to avoid all kinds of things that make us feel uncomfortable.

However, if we protect ourselves from these things, we’re also shutting ourselves off from the many possibilities and joys of living to the fullest.

I love George Carlin’s quote and often remind myself of it often:

Life’s journey is not to
arrive at the grave safely
in a well preserved body,
but rather to skid in sideways,
totally worn out, shouting
‘…holy shit …what a ride!’

What one thing would you advise people to do to change their life for the better and quit living a fear based existence?

Everybody is going to feel fear. That’s just being human. Fear is your brain’s way of protecting you and ensuring the survival of the species.

The point is not to not have fears. The goal is to change the way we connect with and react to our fears.

Because the brain is actually designed to thwart our conscious efforts to override the fear response, changing our relationship to fear isn’t easy, but it can be done by becoming more mindful, getting comfortable with uncertainty, and even welcoming and leaning into fear.

Instead of battling, avoiding, trying to control, or feeling bad about fear, we have to learn to approach fear as a friendly companion, expecting it to show up and even welcoming it when it does.

We have to be gentle with ourselves and our fears. If you stop thinking of fear as a problem, it’s not a problem.

Debbie Hampton shares how she rebuilt her brain and life to find joy and thrive on her blog, The Best Brain Possible. You can quickly learn the steps to a better brain in her book Beat Depression And Anxiety By Changing Your Brain.

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End your suffering with Byron Katie Byron Katie, speaker and author teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work.” The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround. The four questions are: 1) Is it true? 2) Can you absolutely know that it’s true? ... [Read more]

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End your suffering with Byron Katie

Byron Katie, speaker and author teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work.” The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround.

The four questions are: 1) Is it true? 2) Can you absolutely know that it’s true? 3) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? and 4) Who would you be without the thought?

Turnarounds: Could the opposite be as true? Turn the statement around to the opposite, to the self, and to the other. This is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.

1. “Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change
your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.” ~ Byron Katie”

2. “Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.” ~ Byron Katie

My e-courses are available at over 70% off! You don’t have to spend a ton of money to get beyond your fear. Grab one (on the sidebar) and begin now!

My best work is my course, 30 Days of Bold: Feeling Excited And Ready. Check it out. Today is the best time to begin something new!

3. “If you believe that anyone’s action is bad, how can you see the good in it? How can you see the good that comes out of it, maybe years later? If you see anyone as bad, how can you understand that we are all created equal? We’re all teachers by the way we live. A blind drunk can teach more about why not to drink than an abstinent man in all his piety. No one has more or less goodness. No one who ever lived is a better or a worse human being than you.” ~ Byron Katie

4. “The teacher you need is the person you’re living with.” ~ Byron Katie

5. “It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.” ~ Byron Katie

6. “All the advice you ever gave your partner is for you to hear.” ~ Byron Katie

7. “Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.” ~ Byron Katie

8. “As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~ Byron Katie

9. “All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.” ~ Byron Katie

10. “I love what I think, and I’m never tempted to believe it.” ~ Byron Katie

11. “I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.” ~ Byron Katie

12. “Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon, nor too late. You don’t have to like it…it’s just easier if you do.” ~ Byron Katie

13. “I am the perpretor of my suffering – but only all of it.” ~ Byron Katie

14. “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.” ~ Byron Katie

15. “I’m a lover of reality. When I argue with What Is, I lose, but only 100% of the time.” ~ Byron Katie

16. Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.” ~ Byron Katie

17. “Nothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That’s how you move away from him. That’s how the marriage ends.

You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That’s how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.” ~ Byron Katie

18. “Thoughts are just what is. They appear. They’re innocent. They’re not personal. They’re like the breeze or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling. Thoughts arise like that, and we can make friends with them. Would you argue with a raindrop?” ~ Byron Katie

19. “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.” ~ Byron Katie

20. “A teacher of fear can’t bring peace on Earth. We have been trying to do it that way for thousands of years. The person who turns inner violence around, the person who finds peace inside and lives it, is the one who teaches what true peace is. We are waiting for just one teacher. You’re the one.”  ~ Byron Katie

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