bold and successful life

Lately I’ve felt tired, down and fearful, anything but bold and successful. For many years, I didn’t allow myself to feel those emotions. I thought of them as negative energy. I pushed through things no matter what.

Now I know that they offer me the opportunity to slow down, go within and reflect on my life. In giving them my attention, they lose their power over me.

Now I see these feelings and emotions as experiences bearing gifts. They bring me back to connectedness, aliveness and joy.

If you want to live a bold and successful life, it’s important to acknowledge and feel all of your emotions. All 7.2 billion people on the planet have them. You are not alone.

A bold and successful life isn’t all about happiness, rainbows and unicorns. It’s necessary to learn to relax, lean into your fear and breathe through your sadness.

The following steps will help you be bold and successful:

Think in terms of success.

It was Paul Brandt who said: “Don't tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon.” The only limits that exist are the ones you create in your mind. Create positive expectations and stretch to a new place.

When fear and doubt arise, ask yourself, “What if this works out?” “What if the answer is yes?” “What if I get invited to come back?”

Create a spectacular future.

The choices I make today design my tomorrows. If I want something different, I need to do something different. If you spend eight hours a day at work, seven hours sleeping, three hours cooking and eating, and one hour exercising, you still have five hours to dedicate to your dream.

That’s 35 hours a week! Stop your excuses, quiet your fears and get started today.

Design your dream life.

If your life is the same in one year as it is now can you be okay with that? Know what you want. Write down a plan for each area of your life: physical, emotional, spiritual, work, relationships, travel, etc. Set goals. Take action. Begin where you are with what you have. Your destiny is in your hands.

It was Jesse Owens, son of a sharecropper and grandson of a slave who said, “We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.” Get started on your dream life today!

Commit to doing the difficult things.

Learn a language. Invent something new. Hire a coach. Introduce yourself to new people. Get your creative energy into overdrive. Shake things up. A Napalese proverb sums it up best, “When two paths open before you, take the harder one.” No whining or complaining. Take 100% responsibility for your amazing life.

Learn through adversity.

When things go well, I can get lazy and complacent. I can believe my own hype and stroke my own ego. Challenging times force me out of my comfort zone. Adversity propels me forward. I grow in ways that I previously thought impossible.

No one articulates this better than Elisabeth Kubler-Ross: “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” 

Leave a legacy.

Our culture leads us to believe that self-worth comes from acquisition and consumption. Our true worth comes from how we add value to the world. My legacy is about service, contribution, love and the relationships I have with my family, friends and community.

Musician Bob Marley suggests that you “open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living?”

Become grateful in advance. 

No matter what is going on in your life today, become grateful in advance. There is a natural order to things in the world. When you believe things will work out, they do. Act as if there were nothing wrong with your life. Believe that the universe is plotting to do you good. 

Catholic Benedictine monk, David Steindl-Rast believes, “Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy — because we will always want to have something else or something more.” 

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Life can be simple and bold, or it can be complicated and fearful. I make the choice.

Today I chose fear

I woke up feeling tired – unwilling to move or get started.

There was no one to blame. I was responsible; I decided to hold back, get in my own way, whine, sit on the pity pot, and wallow.

It's because of times like these that I write wild and inspiring things on index cards: affirmations, quotes, and other inspiring stuff.

This morning I did the very thing I fight doing. Even though it’s been proven to help, even though it’s worked before, I still fight it.

I decided to sit with my feelings for one hour. I did nothing but breathe. I got still. I calmed my mind. 

Next, I opened a favorite book for a little inspiration and found one of my random index cards in it. Turns out it was three powerful quotes. Just what I needed.

"When you're not practicing, someone in the world is. Put in the disciplined effort. Be willing to pay the price.”

“I'm going to get it done, no matter what it takes, no matter what comes up. It's a done deal.”

“You are responsible for the results you intend. No excuses." 

When life has you down, try implementing the following steps:

Get quiet and let it be. Don't beat yourself up. Take a break when you feel discouraged or drained. Don't use force. Instead, be gentle and kind. Take time to breathe.

Bet on yourself. Bet on your dreams coming true. Bet on someone helping you. Bet on your ability to receive. Bet on the universe meeting you halfway. Bet on your ultimate success.

Believe the very best. Believe in your value and worthiness. Believe in your talent, abilities, and gifts. Believe in a life filled with love, joy and happiness. Believe it's already yours.

Make things happen. It's time to move forward. Seek uncomfortable change. Move to the next level. Dare to discover new horizons. When you get to the edge, go farther. Risk.

Create your love story. Invite love into your life. Sprinkle kindness everywhere. Send loving blessings to others. Overcome fear.  Write a happy ending.  

Turn a loss into a win. Investigate what went wrong. Take responsibility. Decide what you can do differently. Choose to learn your lesson. Go in a new direction. Be confident. Stay strong.

Call in backup. Reveal your fiasco. Request a mentor. Ask for help. Receive support. Invite a fresh perspective. Get out of your own way. Breathe.

You have permission to shine. Show up. Brighten up. Use your light. Make the world a better place. Reap the rewards. Sparkle and shine!

Give thanks. Write in a gratitude journal. There isn't one excuse worthy of not shouting from the rooftop about the abundance in life that flows freely, seeping out everywhere, with more on the way. Be grateful for blessings in advance!

When you have a bad day be willing to do what it takes to turn it around. Make each day the best of your life. You have the power to do it by changing your energy, perception and actions. Let's be committed to turning every bad day into a good one!

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