Fearlessness

A Bold Move + A Bold Farewell

For the past eight years, since moving from Michigan to Arizona, I’ve had the opportunity to create, write for, and coach amazing, brave readers, clients and friends from all over the world. I’ve been thinking about the direction I want to go in, both on- and offline, for months now. That direction might surprise you. ... [Read more]

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For the past eight years, since moving from Michigan to Arizona, I’ve had the opportunity to create, write for, and coach amazing, brave readers, clients and friends from all over the world.

I’ve been thinking about the direction I want to go in, both on- and offline, for months now. That direction might surprise you. It certainly surprised me! But once you know something – really know and feel something – there’s no turning back.

I’ve decided to make a serious change. It’s time to close my business and The Bold Life.

There are many reasons for my decision, but the reasons aren’t as important as the way that I feel now that I’ve made the choice. I feel empowered. I feel excited about what’s next!

It’s time for a change. It’s time for something new.

Major life decisions are not easy ones to make. It takes courage and bold action to change one’s life.

Bold readers like you inspire me to step into my most authentic self and grow outside of my comfort zone. Know that you have taught me so much. Each of you is precious to me.

It has been my pleasure and an honor to share my expertise, experiences and wisdom.

Of the millions of blogs to read, thank you for choosing mine. Of the millions of coaches to hire, thank you for hiring me. Of the millions of e-courses to purchase, thank you for buying mine.

I feel both blessed and eternally grateful. Helping each of you has easily been the richest part of my job. Know that I care. Know that you are loved!

So now what?

What will I do with the rest of my life?

I plan to watch more sunrises and sunsets. The mountains are calling me. I want to hike and garden again.

I want to paint, learn Spanish and take a video and photography class. I want to meditate more and read non-business books!

I want to do these things for pure pleasure.

I want to really listen to family and friends when they call. I want more offline friends. I want more face-to-face connections. I want to be more mindful.

I want to go to lunch, laugh and be silly. I forgot what it’s like to be carefree!
My life and its circumstances are 100% my responsibility, so I’m choosing to do what feels right to me. I feel empowered and free.

Is it scary? Not even.

There are infinite possibilities, opportunities and blessings waiting for me. I am worthy and deserving. I will continue to flourish!

Megan Tietz says, “Everything good and valuable and important that you learned from blogging can be put into practice in a dazzling number of ways outside of the medium.” Sounds exciting, eh?

I expect that my mind-boggling new life will unfold and magic will be bestowed upon me. The rest of my life will be the best of my life.

I’ll be guided. I’ll make it so.

As for you …

I’ll miss you, and will cherish the exchanges we’ve had throughout the years. I trust that each of you will continue making bold choices that honor your inner calling!

I know you’ll use what you’ve learned here to create moments you’re proud of!

The content of The Bold Life site will be available and remain online.  You can continue to follow me on Facebook.
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Your presence here has been a joy. You will always have a place in my heart!

Love always,

xo Tess

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Fear is future-oriented. It’s imagining what could go wrong but hasn’t gone wrong yet. Fear is hiding under self-judgment, comparison and envy. Fear holds you in a pattern of self-doubt. Fear is running a mental movie of the worst-case scenario repeatedly in your mind. What kind of movie do you play? Is it a horror movie? ... [Read more]

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Fear is future-oriented.

It’s imagining what could go wrong but hasn’t gone wrong yet. Fear is hiding under self-judgment, comparison and envy. Fear holds you in a pattern of self-doubt.

Fear is running a mental movie of the worst-case scenario repeatedly in your mind.

What kind of movie do you play? Is it a horror movie? A comedy? Or is it a success story? A love story? A drama?

Remember, you are the inventor. You invent your future with the choices you make today. Your choices create your tomorrows.

How would you feel today if you knew the best was yet to come? How would that influence your actions? 

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How to build an extraordinary future:

1. Choose to spiral upward.

Own your strengths, gifts and unique talents. Acknowledge all that you have to offer the world. Know that you are wiser than you think you are. You are unlimited. Speak and act your way into greatness.

2. Witness your fear.

Write your fears down in a journal. What are your fears trying to tell you? Hear them out. Lean into your fear and breathe. Fear will soon fade.

3. Take five swings.

In order to get something new, you must fundamentally change how you think, feel and act.

Take small action steps daily towards your dreams. Ron Scolastico says, “If you would go every day to a very large tree and take five swings at it with a very sharp ax, eventually, no matter how large the tree, it would have to come down.”

What five swings are you willing to take today?

4. Know the cost of fear.

Fear causes stress that affects our health, our decision-making process and our freedom. It’s just as easy to focus on a positive outcome as it is a negative one.

We can choose to learn from suffering and pain, or joy and inspiration. Which outcome are you unwaveringly committed to?

5. Invest in your faith.

The same force that holds the stars in the sky and turns an acorn into an oak tree is at work beyond what you can comprehend.

Believe that the Universe has your back. Believe that everything will work out as it should. Put your energy in your faith. Release all worry.

6. Crave life.  You have to live life to the end. Feel the world. Explore. Be with people. Do the unusual. Take the crooked path.  Take things too far. Because it’s possible, right?

Believe in a future you can’t experience with your senses. Have faith in a future you cannot see. There is immense power in this.

7. Today is your beginning point. Make every day new. When you choose to live life in the present and confront and overcome your fear, life is exciting, you feel empowered and you fill your life with curiosity and wonder.

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Our modern way of living promotes constant stress, social anxiety and increased unease over work and personal life. Instead of feeling calm, most people feel overwhelmed. Our motors are always running! It is possible not only to feel peace and serenity every day, as well as to remain calm when you are around or working ... [Read more]

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Remain calm when others are angry.

Our modern way of living promotes constant stress, social anxiety and increased unease over work and personal life. Instead of feeling calm, most people feel overwhelmed. Our motors are always running!

It is possible not only to feel peace and serenity every day, as well as to remain calm when you are around or working with those who are angry and irrational. You can’t control how other people act. You can’t control much of what happens to you. What you can control is how you react and respond to it all.
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Following are some ways I’ve learned to remain calm and centered when those around me can’t. When you consistently practice these habits, the world around you changes and life becomes easier.

Be comfortable with pausing

Don’t imagine the worst. When someone is acting irrationally, don’t rush to a negative judgment. Instead, pause. There will always be people who aren’t as considerate, kind or calm as we like. When you take the time to pause, it gives you time to collect your thoughts and allows the other person the space to take a deep breath.

Choose to stay neutral

Learn to respect the opinion of others. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. It’s possible to connect with someone you don’t like or agree with. When you make a commitment to remain neutral, both parties can remain calm and move forward together.

Be compassionate

In today’s world people tend to be busy, worried, fearful, hurting and distracted. The word compassion means “to suffer with.” When you can put yourself in the other person’s shoes, you have an overwhelming desire to help.

Remember, we never know what’s really going on in someone’s life. Set an intention to be truly helpful.

Extend generosity and grace

Everyone gets upset. Remind yourself that we are all more alike than different. When you have a tendency to judge, add “just like me” to the end of a sentence.

“That person is crabby, just like me. He doesn’t know what he’s talking about half the time, just like me. She isn’t very patient, just like me.” Choose to let things roll off your back. Let others off the hook. Take the high road, always.

Allow people to be angry

Everyone experiences anger. Some people never learn how to deal with it, others do. When someone is angry, it’s vital that you remain calm, no matter what. Don’t allow others to knock you off your center. How someone else is feeling is about them. How you react is about you. Do what it takes to remain calm and address the situation. That’s where your power lies.

Speak less and breathe more

Don’t fall into an argument. Don’t say things you’ll regret five minutes later. Anger begins internally. You have the power to choose your emotions. Focus only on the present moment and what can be done right now.

Do what you can and let the rest go. If nothing else, you can always change your perception. That’s big! The past is over and the future doesn’t exist. Stay present.

Create a morning ritual

Don’t rush into your day by checking your phone or email. Create time and space for a morning ritual. Take 10 deep breaths before getting out of bed. Do ten minutes of meditation. Spend 10 minutes stretching.

When this becomes easy, add 5 minutes to your routine. When you begin with quiet and calm, you can go through your day being calm and centered.

Cope with healthy things

When we face stressful situations, we often calm or soothe ourselves with unhealthy actions. It’s easy to respond to anger with anger, alcohol, shopping, gaming, gambling and so on. Notice how you cope with stress.

Replace bad habits with healthy habits. Make a cup of tea and sit quietly with your thoughts. Take a long slow walk. Write in your journal. Talk to a friend. Healthy habits make happy people.

Remember how great life is

At the end of the day, reflect on what went right. Count 10 things that went right in the past 24 hours on your fingers. For example: my car started, my computer is running smoothly, someone helped me at work and so on.

Next count 10 things that you got right on your fingers. For example: I made time to exercise, I ate healthy, I called my mom and so on. This reminds you how great life is!

Sprinkle the world with kindness

Think kindly of others. Speak kindly to others. Do kind things for others. Kindness changes everything. The best thing about it is, there’s enough for everyone and it doesn’t cost a thing!

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Fear stops everyone from doing things. Nobody is brave all of the time. How would your life be different if you thought less of your worry, doubts and fears and more of your courage, ideas and dreams? I visited the Henry Ford Museum the last time I was in Michigan and today I went to ... [Read more]

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Fear stops everyone from doing things. Nobody is brave all of the time. How would your life be different if you thought less of your worry, doubts and fears and more of your courage, ideas and dreams?

I visited the Henry Ford Museum the last time I was in Michigan and today I went to Greenfield Village.

Both times I was engaged in a world of incredible inventions, brave visionaries and living traditions that span three centuries of American life.

Sounds, sights and sensations are spread out on 200 acres. I went places I’ve never been before and I saw things I’ve only previously imagined.

Some of the things on display in the Henry Ford Museum are:

  • The 1961 Lincoln Continental, SS-100-X that President John F. Kennedy was campaigning in when he was assassinated.
  • The rocking chair President Abraham Lincoln was sitting in when he was shot.
  • Thomas Edison’s alleged last breath in a sealed tube!
  • The camp bed George Washington owned.
  • The bus Rosa Parks was arrested in for refusing to give up her seat.
  • And so much more!

In Henry Ford’s Village, the highlights for me were:

  • The Wright brothers’ home and bicycle shop.
  • A replica, of Thomas Edison’s Menlo Park, laboratory complex.
  • Henry Ford’s birthplace, furnished exactly as it was during his mother’s time.
  • The Illinois courthouse, where Abraham Lincoln practiced law.
  • Henry Ford’s prototype garage, where he built the Ford Quadricycle.
  • And so much more!

I didn’t realize that Thomas Edison was Henry Ford’s mentor! I like to think Ford admired Edison for his resilience. What kept Edison going was that he didn’t dwell on his many failures. He kept inventing because he never ran out of passion or new ideas!

It takes courage to follow your dreams. It takes the willingness to rise again after each failure.

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We often lose sight of how many opportunities we miss when we give up a bold life for staying stuck and playing small.

Don’t allow fear to steal your courage or dreams. Don’t allow fear to rob the world of your gifts and talents.

Fear stands in the way of what you want the most

Fear robs you of the belief that all is well with the world. If you want to have financial freedom, check your beliefs about money. Do you thing money is evil, scare and hard to obtain?

These beliefs keep you striving instead of thriving. Focus on giving vs. getting. Be generous. Be of service.

Your time is now. It’s your turn to do great things.

Don’t be afraid to be courageous! How often do you remain quiet when you have something to say? How often do you ignore your intuition when you need to take action? How often do you hold back when you know it’s time to move forward? How many times do you fear that you’re not smart ... [Read more]

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10 things to live a bold lifeDon’t be afraid to be courageous!

How often do you remain quiet when you have something to say?

How often do you ignore your intuition when you need to take action?

How often do you hold back when you know it’s time to move forward?

How many times do you fear that you’re not smart enough or good enough?

You must have courage in order to take advantage of the unlimited opportunities that life offers you. You must exercise courage in order to live up to your full potential and leave your mark on the world. You must have courage in order to get up again after you take a few blows, fail and fall down.

It’s time to grab your potential by the tail and run with it. When you live a courageous life, you feel alive!

The following 10 acts will help you live a more bolder, more meaningful life:

Have the Courage to Jump into Life

Today is the best day of your life. If you’re not making the most of it, what are you waiting for? Face what’s stopping you and go make your mark on the world. Don’t settle for mediocrity or the status quo.

Grab the reins. Go somewhere new. Do something different. Surround yourself with the best. Dive in with both feet. Carpe Vita!

Have the Courage to Ask For What You Want

Instead of whining or complaining about your needs, learn to ask for what you want. Don’t expect others to read your mind. Learn to clearly communicate your desires. Be bold. Be assertive. Assume that people want to help you.

Expect things to go well. If the answer is no, ask again. There are more than 7 billion people in the world. Someone will say yes!

Have the Courage to Stand in Your Power

Like bees on honey, humans are drawn to external power such as money, beauty, sexuality, jobs, possessions and physical strength. External power is seductive and can be compared and measured. Real power comes from within and is equally available to everyone.

You can’t buy or lose authentic power. Examples of authentic power are compassion, harmony, inner peace and wisdom. When you center yourself in these, you’ll win every time.

Have the Courage to Forgive Yourself

Don’t allow your ego or smaller self to keep you stuck in regret or self-hatred.  Remember you are not your mistakes. You have to forgive yourself. Forgive the situation. Let go, or you won’t be able to move forward.

Honor yourself. Let yourself off the hook. Stay out of the pain of the past. Put your energy into doing something positive. Move on.

Have the Courage to Act with Love

Love is a verb, and an act of courage. Love is a commitment to yourself and others. Learn how to be compassionate and empathetic. Think loving thoughts, speak loving words and take loving action.

Keep loving until all else falls away. Anything unlike love is fear. Do what it takes to shift out of fear as quickly as you can. Love is a moment by moment practice. Practice it often.

Have the Courage to Be Generous

Learn how to give from your heart. Give without expectations. Do not give because you want acceptance, love or admiration. Do not give in order to gain recognition or power. Learn to give from a place of love and joy.

Believe you have more than enough. Give money and time. Share your talents. Give the benefit of the doubt. Give praise and respect. Just give.

Have the Courage to Own Your Fears

Fear can be your greatest teacher. Fear exposes your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and the life that you’re creating. Own your fears. Learn from your fears. Move through your fears.

Grow through your fears! Be open to your fears and the lessons they are teaching you. Living in this way will allow you to create the life of your dreams.

Have the Courage to Live an Abundant Life

Believe that the world is plotting to do you good today. See the universe as a friendly and providing place. Trust that all is well. Believe that there is enough for everyone. Your gain isn’t somebody’s loss.

Count the grains of sand or the waves in the ocean. Sit under the stars at night. Notice the different shades of green in nature. Be grateful for everyone and everything in your life. Live in a state of gratitude. Give thanks in advance for solutions, goodness and wealth coming your way. The best is yet to come. Count on it.

Have the Courage to Be Daring

Be daring. Choose to make your wild and precious life a big adventure. Be brave. Be bold and authentic. Accept your greatness. Your life is your own. Remain open to your own power, trust yourself, and ask for what you want.

Unleash your burning desire to go after your dream. What you do today determines your future. Take action in joy, knowing that the universe will meet you halfway and that people will be put on your path to show you the way and take you to the finish line. Dare.

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Have the Courage to Trust the Process

Learn to trust life. Trust that things have a way of working themselves out. Trust that you’ll pick yourself up if you fail. Trust that the right people will be put on your path. When you trust the process, you’re able to live in the present moment without worrying about the past or the future.

We are meant to be out there living our dreams and making the world a more loving place. We were born to take risks, grow, and expand. It’s time to be courageous and reap the benefits! That’s my plan. I invite you to join me.

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