Are you frustrated with finding the man of your dreams? Have you given up all hope? I'm often asked, "Where do I find Mr. Right?"
Don't waste anymore time looking for Mr. Right, instead become Ms. Right. Before you can fall in love with someone, it's necessary to fall in love with yourself.
According to quantum physics, everything and everyone projects real energetic frequencies that move out from us into the world. Each one of us is like a tiny radio station, broadcasting subtle but very real signals about ourselves.
Become aware of the quality of your energy. People with similar energy, will tune into yours and be drawn into your life.
The quality of our future relationships depends on your energy, today. Are you broadcasting or projecting loving and radiant energy, or is your energy negative and fearful?
Are you excited about the possibility of a life partner or are you feeling desperate and discouraged?
The way you treat yourself, is the same treatment you will receive from others.
If you are kind and loving with yourself, you will attract someone, who treats you in a loving manner.
If you constantly criticize and condemn yourself, the men you attract will do the same.
If you don't have the relationship you want, it’s important to change your energy.
When you fill the void you feel, with love for yourself, others will love you as well and you'll meet the right person.
When your energy is needy and desperate, needy and desperate people will be attracted to you. When you have faith and hope for your future, others with faith and hope will find you.
Your journey to find ‘the love of your life’ begins within.
Instead of seeking love and validation from a partner, create the love you want by developing a profound love for yourself.
Love attracts love. Learn to live in the flow of love by first loving yourself. Become the kind of person that is worthy of being and feeling loved.
You have the power to honor, respect, and validate yourself. Don't expect others to do what you are unwilling to do.
The greatest gift you can give to yourself, is the knowledge that you matter, no matter what.
Think about what you want for yourself. If the energy you give to yourself, isn’t the energy you want to receive, you’ll need to make changes.
Do more than believe your lovable and worthwhile. Treat yourself that way.
Each time you make a choice ask yourself, "Does this choice honor me?"
The inner work you do will reflect the quality of your future relationships.
"The common thread running through all pain and suffering is a feeling of unworthiness. There is a difference between thinking you are happy and feeling worthy of happiness. We often block our own blessings because we don't feel beautiful, thin, smart, and worthy enough. ~Oprah Winfrey
Write down the answers to the following questions in your journal.
Can you look in the mirror and love what you see?
Are you gentle with yourself?
Do you accept and approve of yourself?
Are you comfortable with your appearance?
Do you take loving care of yourself: mentally, physically and spiritually?
Do you berate yourself for making mistakes?
Do you enjoy your own company?
Can you sit in stillness?
Do you punish yourself?
Are you satisfied with your life?
Do you value yourself and feel good about who you are?
Are you honest with yourself?
Can you commit to better self-care?
Do you believe in your own self-worth and inner beauty?
Do you believe you are worthy of love?
How to Block Your Blessings
Judgments based on appearances and gossip
Fear of rejection
Trying to be perfect and expecting perfection
Living in the fear of the future or the pain of the past
Inability to express your needs and feelings
Unwillingness to be flexible
Lack of trust
Resentment and inability to forgive
Ruts, bad habits, and addictions
Fear of being hurt
Unwillingness to give or receive love
Depression and loneliness
Anger and resentment
Write in your journal about any barriers you have to love.
The most important place to begin is to examine the thoughts and beliefs you hold about yourself.
It’s important to let go of those that no longer serve you.
When your mind is filled with self-hatred, unfair criticism, and negative predictions, you create your own suffering.
Listen to your self-talk.
Be vigilant of your thoughts, let negative thoughts to go by like clouds on a sunny day. Don't get hung up on them. Rise above them.
When you form new thoughts and beliefs, you create space in your mind and heart for new possibilities.
Instead of chasing happiness, create your own happiness.
Write affirmations on index cards with colored markers. When you become aware of obsessions and negative thinking read your affirmations.
Affirmations for a love-filled live
I open my heart to opportunities for love.
I see myself and others with loving vision.
I am open to new love.
I surround myself with people who love me.
I believe things can change in the blink of an eye.
I look for and see love being expressed everyday.
I attract loving and beautiful people in my life.
I do things, I love to do.
I think, speak, and treat myself, with a loving heart.
What would your life look like if you began to honor and believe in yourself?
When you honor and believe in yourself, you have:
Fun, loving, and playful energy
Self-confidence and courage
Relaxed, loving, and peaceful energy
A present appreciation of life
An abundance of love to share
Happiness and joy
Examine your own beliefs you have about finding, 'the one.' If you don't change your thinking, you won't get different results.
Examples of beliefs that work against you:
There aren’t any good men left.
I’ll never find anyone.
You don’t understand.
I’m too old.
I give up.
I’m not pretty or smart enough.
All men want younger women.
I’ve tried everything.
I can’t be happy until I find someone.
Do what it takes to change your beliefs!
When you do your inner work, you create everything you need to attract a genuine, loving, intimate and committed relationship.
Believe in your self-worth and beauty. When you decide to live a happy life in spite of being alone, you create the space for unlimited possibilities.
Doing so gives you an external irresistable glow and an internal light.
If you truly want to find a life partner, never, never give up. Have faith that things can change in an instant.
The purpose of all relationships is to learn how to love without conditions. The most important relationship you have is with yourself. You are here to love yourself, first.
Those of us in committed relationships need to do the same thing. If we are in a rut, if we are having problems, if we are unhappy, it's not our partner that we need to fix or change. We need to love ourselves on a deeper level.
Doing so will cause a shift within us and we will 'know' how to proceed from there, with our relationship.
My point is we all need to do the same inner work, loving ourselves from within changes everything.
Please share your thoughts and comment below! xoxo
Stay tuned for part 2 of this series!