I was a young mother. I was 22 years old when our twins were born ( my third pregnancy). Their sisters were 4 and 2 years old. We were crazy busy, we didn’t have parenting skills and we were kids ourselves. But did we ever learn!
My daughters are all in their 30’s now and I thought I would share these insights with you. The following are true for both daughters and sons.
Kids just want to have fun (with you). Your children want you, your full attention, your apology, your energy, your time, your acceptance and your love. These allow them energy for fun.
Kids want to see you practice what you preach. When you say one thing and do another they get confused. If you want them to eat healthy, read well, and love each other you need to do the same. They are watching and listening especially when you think they are not.
Kids want you at their school and sporting events. It’s important you are present, it makes them feel important. They will know they can count on your support.
Kids want to see their parents get along. Even if you don’t live together! When we fight and argue our children will fight and agrue. When we quiet down our children quiet down. When parents are kind, children are kind. When parents respect each other, children learn respect.
Kids want their parents to recognize manipulation. When one parent says no they go to the other for a yes. Know they are testing your boundaries. Standing united makes your children will feel safe.
Kids want their parents to agree about money. When parents have control of their spending kids will know begging will not work. When they beg for items you can’t afford love them enough to let them hate you. They’ll get over it.
Kids want to be kids. Never put adult problems on kids shoulders. Go to other adults when you need to vent, worry out loud or get advice. Kids are suppose to be children. You don’t want them to go to school or bed taking your problems with them. They will grow up soon enough.
Kids want responsibility. Kids want to chores and to learn how to handle their own money. This builds confidence. Holding them accountable builds character.
Kids want to do things by themselves. Allow your children to fail and pick themselves up. When you have confidence in your children they will gain confidence in themselves.
Kids want praise. Experts have proven kids need 5 praises for each criticism. Kids learn with praise and grow with praise. I can’t say enough about praise.
Kids want their parents to take care of themselves. They want you to take care of your mental, emotional and physical health. When children are put first at parents expense they learn entitlement. They grow up believing the world revolves around them.