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Our modern way of living promotes constant stress, social anxiety and increased unease over work and personal life. Instead of feeling calm, most people feel overwhelmed. Our motors are always running! It is possible not only to feel peace and serenity every day, as well as to remain calm when you are around or working ... [Read more]

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Remain calm when others are angry.

Our modern way of living promotes constant stress, social anxiety and increased unease over work and personal life. Instead of feeling calm, most people feel overwhelmed. Our motors are always running!

It is possible not only to feel peace and serenity every day, as well as to remain calm when you are around or working with those who are angry and irrational. You can’t control how other people act. You can’t control much of what happens to you. What you can control is how you react and respond to it all.
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Following are some ways I’ve learned to remain calm and centered when those around me can’t. When you consistently practice these habits, the world around you changes and life becomes easier.

Be comfortable with pausing

Don’t imagine the worst. When someone is acting irrationally, don’t rush to a negative judgment. Instead, pause. There will always be people who aren’t as considerate, kind or calm as we like. When you take the time to pause, it gives you time to collect your thoughts and allows the other person the space to take a deep breath.

Choose to stay neutral

Learn to respect the opinion of others. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. It’s possible to connect with someone you don’t like or agree with. When you make a commitment to remain neutral, both parties can remain calm and move forward together.

Be compassionate

In today’s world people tend to be busy, worried, fearful, hurting and distracted. The word compassion means “to suffer with.” When you can put yourself in the other person’s shoes, you have an overwhelming desire to help.

Remember, we never know what’s really going on in someone’s life. Set an intention to be truly helpful.

Extend generosity and grace

Everyone gets upset. Remind yourself that we are all more alike than different. When you have a tendency to judge, add “just like me” to the end of a sentence.

“That person is crabby, just like me. He doesn’t know what he’s talking about half the time, just like me. She isn’t very patient, just like me.” Choose to let things roll off your back. Let others off the hook. Take the high road, always.

Allow people to be angry

Everyone experiences anger. Some people never learn how to deal with it, others do. When someone is angry, it’s vital that you remain calm, no matter what. Don’t allow others to knock you off your center. How someone else is feeling is about them. How you react is about you. Do what it takes to remain calm and address the situation. That’s where your power lies.

Speak less and breathe more

Don’t fall into an argument. Don’t say things you’ll regret five minutes later. Anger begins internally. You have the power to choose your emotions. Focus only on the present moment and what can be done right now.

Do what you can and let the rest go. If nothing else, you can always change your perception. That’s big! The past is over and the future doesn’t exist. Stay present.

Create a morning ritual

Don’t rush into your day by checking your phone or email. Create time and space for a morning ritual. Take 10 deep breaths before getting out of bed. Do ten minutes of meditation. Spend 10 minutes stretching.

When this becomes easy, add 5 minutes to your routine. When you begin with quiet and calm, you can go through your day being calm and centered.

Cope with healthy things

When we face stressful situations, we often calm or soothe ourselves with unhealthy actions. It’s easy to respond to anger with anger, alcohol, shopping, gaming, gambling and so on. Notice how you cope with stress.

Replace bad habits with healthy habits. Make a cup of tea and sit quietly with your thoughts. Take a long slow walk. Write in your journal. Talk to a friend. Healthy habits make happy people.

Remember how great life is

At the end of the day, reflect on what went right. Count 10 things that went right in the past 24 hours on your fingers. For example: my car started, my computer is running smoothly, someone helped me at work and so on.

Next count 10 things that you got right on your fingers. For example: I made time to exercise, I ate healthy, I called my mom and so on. This reminds you how great life is!

Sprinkle the world with kindness

Think kindly of others. Speak kindly to others. Do kind things for others. Kindness changes everything. The best thing about it is, there’s enough for everyone and it doesn’t cost a thing!

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Guest post by Jessica Sweet Bad things have already happened to you. Maybe they’re little, like someone telling you at 5 that you couldn’t sing. Or maybe they’re like mountains in your life, like the loss of a loved one, overshadowing everything else you do. But how ever you view the bad things, one thing ... [Read more]

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Guest post by Jessica Sweet

Bad things have already happened to you.

Maybe they’re little, like someone telling you at 5 that you couldn’t sing.

Or maybe they’re like mountains in your life, like the loss of a loved one, overshadowing everything else you do.

But how ever you view the bad things, one thing is for sure – you’re afraid of more scary things happening to you. More things that make you feel small, unworthy and incapable.

We all let fear hold us back to a certain degree, and in some situations we’re more aware of it than others. We come up against our “fear ceiling” where we see exactly where we’re getting pushed out of our comfort zone and into a place that hits all our fear buttons.

And then that little voice starts telling us that we shouldn’t put ourselves out there or take a risk or ask for more than we “deserve”.

Fear has been sitting quietly all along. You thought he was just another passenger until he hijacks your bus and takes you for a joyride.

Fear laughs hysterically at the wheel while you cower in the back trying not to be thrown from the vehicle through a skidding turn. . .

Because being more, being bigger, being bolder invites bad things back into our lives.

But show me the stone where it’s written that being bold invites punishment.

Actually, fear has brainwashed us into believing that the second we step outside our comfort zone we’ll get nailed with a ball right in the head.

If you’re too happy, something bad will happen.

If you’re too bold, something bad will happen.

If you’re too big, something bad will happen.

Pride comes before the fall.

But here’s the truth: Bad things have happened to you. And sometimes, bad things will happen to you again – whether you’re staying small or living huge.

The size of your life does not impact the size of your problems. It’s the quality of your decisions that does.

Tell me this: If you lived smaller, do you think you’d have fewer bad things in your life than you do today?

Didn’t think so. So the reverse must be true too.

There’s no way around it. You’re already smart and creative and wise. You’ll prevent as many of those bad things as humanly possible and make good decisions along the way. You’re not going to do anything foolish.

But staying small and not being foolish are two entirely different things.

The question is, where is the line?

Three Questions To Ask Yourself

You can begin to sort out your line between being foolish and staying small by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Will I regret not doing this in a year? If you let this opportunity go by, will you be wishing you did it a year from now? Also, if you do this now, will you wish you hadn’t?

2. What are the chances that this move will hurt me in ways that matter? Think about your finances, your relationships, and other things that are important to you.

If the bold step you’re thinking of taking will damage one of these areas, it may be foolish.

If you can modify it so it’s not damaging (maybe saving for your around-the-world trip instead of spending your life’s savings or taking Oprah hostage) you can probably go for it.

3. What does your heart say? Really listen. If you can listen to your heart (gut, intuition, higher power or whatever you choose to call it) you can get past what the fear is saying and get to your true answer.

You don’t have to live with the fear that being bold will rain down more bad things in your life. It simply is not true.

It’s time to live bold and see where your life takes you.

Jessica Sweet is a career change coach for people who are no longer willing to settle for “boring” at work. If you’re having trouble embracing your next adventure or figuring out how to pull it off, go to Wishing Well Coach. You can also check out all her flashy credentials that you really don’t care about reading here.

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I dare you to do things differently today and every day. We often focus our energy and time on the big events and experiences in our lives. We want our lives to be adventurous, our children to be happy and our relationships to last.We want to find the best career, the perfect lover or live in the coolest ... [Read more]

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dare to make changes

I dare you to do things differently today and every day.

We often focus our energy and time on the big events and experiences in our lives.

We want our lives to be adventurous, our children to be happy and our relationships to last.We want to find the best career, the perfect lover or live in the coolest city.

Meanwhile, we overlook the daily practices that can bring peace, joy and comfort to our lives especially when things don’t go as we expect.

Today, I dare you to be more daring.

Check out the following small actions, habits and choices that pack a powerful punch when you practice them daily. These dares are life changing!

I dare you to be more loving.

Be kind to yourself and others. Turn on your love faucet. Train yourself to think and speak lovingly. Be generous. Give to yourself. Be of service. Give to others.

Those who have more, must give more. Set the example. Go the extra mile.

I dare you to enjoy your life

Know what your values and priorities are. Never allow work, power or money take precedence over these. Live as if this is the best day of your life. Laugh and savor simple ordinary everyday pleasures. Life is good!

I dare you to see yourself as prosperous

Recognize and be open to your abundance. Kathy Matta’s song “Standing Knee Deep in a River Dying of Thirst” says it all. The quickest cure for this is to go within and count your blessings. Accentuate the positive and downplay any feelings of lack.

I dare you to speak up

Don’t expect others to read your mind. State your opinion. Take a stand. Let others know who you are and what you’re all about.

Don’t be afraid to be heard. You count. You matter and your voice is needed.

I dare you to live in the moment

Living in the present moment creates a richness and awareness to our lives. Stay out of the past and don’t project on to your future. Everything you need is available now. Gratitude and appreciation can only exist now.

You have nothing to lose. Each time you find yourself wishing things were different put yourself in the present moment.

I dare you to surrender

We spend our lives letting go of people, places and things that don’t serve us anymore. Letting go takes practice. It takes faith. When you release anything that is holding you back, you create a vacuum.

The universe fills it up with things that move you forward.

I dare you to delete mental garbage

Give up your negative affirmations. “I don’t have time.” “I’m not smart enough or qualified.” “I can’t do it.” “I’m not as good as the others.” Replace the garbage with positive self-talk and affirmations.

I dare you to forgive yourself

Let go of resentment and bitterness. Forgive your parents. Forgive everyone in-between. If you have only a smidgen of anger or a problem to let go of, you need to release it. You’re never finished with forgiveness work. Make is a daily practice.

I dare you to move beyond your fear

Don’t be afraid to be afraid. Chase your fear. When you run toward your fear, fear takes a different route. Embrace It. Face it. Don’t fret over a setback. Instead regroup, focus and discover how strong and resilient you are. Carry on.

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I dare you to expect the best

Drop the negative fantasies that rerun through your mind. Expect to succeed. Believe it will happen. Create a mental movie with an amazing ending. What if you believed the best is yet to come? How would you feel and what would you do today?

I dare you to release attack thoughts and negativity

You can live without preference, dislike and judgment. Change your thoughts. Shift your perception. Don’t get caught up in drama of your ego or smaller self. Claim your inner peace and never let it go.

I dare you to believe in your own success

Do what it takes to keep your vibes high and mind strong. Make no room for doubt. Feel it in every cell of your body. When you falter, get back on track. Learn to dream, think and speak about only succeeding. You are called to rise.

I dare you to take small steps

The wisdom and knowledge you have won’t count for much until you take action. Put your goal or dream on your daily to-do-list. Do your most difficult tasks first. Take your time. Stay committed.

If you veer off course, begin again. If you make a mistake, begin again. Keep going. Keep rising. Keep practicing. Keep changing. Keep daring!

Fear stops everyone from doing things. Nobody is brave all of the time. How would your life be different if you thought less of your worry, doubts and fears and more of your courage, ideas and dreams? I visited the Henry Ford Museum the last time I was in Michigan and today I went to ... [Read more]

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Don't let fear steam your dreams

Fear stops everyone from doing things. Nobody is brave all of the time. How would your life be different if you thought less of your worry, doubts and fears and more of your courage, ideas and dreams?

I visited the Henry Ford Museum the last time I was in Michigan and today I went to Greenfield Village.

Both times I was engaged in a world of incredible inventions, brave visionaries and living traditions that span three centuries of American life.

Sounds, sights and sensations are spread out on 200 acres. I went places I’ve never been before and I saw things I’ve only previously imagined.

Some of the things on display in the Henry Ford Museum are:

  • The 1961 Lincoln Continental, SS-100-X that President John F. Kennedy was campaigning in when he was assassinated.
  • The rocking chair President Abraham Lincoln was sitting in when he was shot.
  • Thomas Edison’s alleged last breath in a sealed tube!
  • The camp bed George Washington owned.
  • The bus Rosa Parks was arrested in for refusing to give up her seat.
  • And so much more!

In Henry Ford’s Village, the highlights for me were:

  • The Wright brothers’ home and bicycle shop.
  • A replica, of Thomas Edison’s Menlo Park, laboratory complex.
  • Henry Ford’s birthplace, furnished exactly as it was during his mother’s time.
  • The Illinois courthouse, where Abraham Lincoln practiced law.
  • Henry Ford’s prototype garage, where he built the Ford Quadricycle.
  • And so much more!

I didn’t realize that Thomas Edison was Henry Ford’s mentor! I like to think Ford admired Edison for his resilience. What kept Edison going was that he didn’t dwell on his many failures. He kept inventing because he never ran out of passion or new ideas!

It takes courage to follow your dreams. It takes the willingness to rise again after each failure.

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We often lose sight of how many opportunities we miss when we give up a bold life for staying stuck and playing small.

Don’t allow fear to steal your courage or dreams. Don’t allow fear to rob the world of your gifts and talents.

Fear stands in the way of what you want the most

Fear robs you of the belief that all is well with the world. If you want to have financial freedom, check your beliefs about money. Do you thing money is evil, scare and hard to obtain?

These beliefs keep you striving instead of thriving. Focus on giving vs. getting. Be generous. Be of service.

Your time is now. It’s your turn to do great things.

Don’t be afraid to be courageous! How often do you remain quiet when you have something to say? How often do you ignore your intuition when you need to take action? How often do you hold back when you know it’s time to move forward? How many times do you fear that you’re not smart ... [Read more]

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10 things to live a bold lifeDon’t be afraid to be courageous!

How often do you remain quiet when you have something to say?

How often do you ignore your intuition when you need to take action?

How often do you hold back when you know it’s time to move forward?

How many times do you fear that you’re not smart enough or good enough?

You must have courage in order to take advantage of the unlimited opportunities that life offers you. You must exercise courage in order to live up to your full potential and leave your mark on the world. You must have courage in order to get up again after you take a few blows, fail and fall down.

It’s time to grab your potential by the tail and run with it. When you live a courageous life, you feel alive!

The following 10 acts will help you live a more bolder, more meaningful life:

Have the Courage to Jump into Life

Today is the best day of your life. If you’re not making the most of it, what are you waiting for? Face what’s stopping you and go make your mark on the world. Don’t settle for mediocrity or the status quo.

Grab the reins. Go somewhere new. Do something different. Surround yourself with the best. Dive in with both feet. Carpe Vita!

Have the Courage to Ask For What You Want

Instead of whining or complaining about your needs, learn to ask for what you want. Don’t expect others to read your mind. Learn to clearly communicate your desires. Be bold. Be assertive. Assume that people want to help you.

Expect things to go well. If the answer is no, ask again. There are more than 7 billion people in the world. Someone will say yes!

Have the Courage to Stand in Your Power

Like bees on honey, humans are drawn to external power such as money, beauty, sexuality, jobs, possessions and physical strength. External power is seductive and can be compared and measured. Real power comes from within and is equally available to everyone.

You can’t buy or lose authentic power. Examples of authentic power are compassion, harmony, inner peace and wisdom. When you center yourself in these, you’ll win every time.

Have the Courage to Forgive Yourself

Don’t allow your ego or smaller self to keep you stuck in regret or self-hatred.  Remember you are not your mistakes. You have to forgive yourself. Forgive the situation. Let go, or you won’t be able to move forward.

Honor yourself. Let yourself off the hook. Stay out of the pain of the past. Put your energy into doing something positive. Move on.

Have the Courage to Act with Love

Love is a verb, and an act of courage. Love is a commitment to yourself and others. Learn how to be compassionate and empathetic. Think loving thoughts, speak loving words and take loving action.

Keep loving until all else falls away. Anything unlike love is fear. Do what it takes to shift out of fear as quickly as you can. Love is a moment by moment practice. Practice it often.

Have the Courage to Be Generous

Learn how to give from your heart. Give without expectations. Do not give because you want acceptance, love or admiration. Do not give in order to gain recognition or power. Learn to give from a place of love and joy.

Believe you have more than enough. Give money and time. Share your talents. Give the benefit of the doubt. Give praise and respect. Just give.

Have the Courage to Own Your Fears

Fear can be your greatest teacher. Fear exposes your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and the life that you’re creating. Own your fears. Learn from your fears. Move through your fears.

Grow through your fears! Be open to your fears and the lessons they are teaching you. Living in this way will allow you to create the life of your dreams.

Have the Courage to Live an Abundant Life

Believe that the world is plotting to do you good today. See the universe as a friendly and providing place. Trust that all is well. Believe that there is enough for everyone. Your gain isn’t somebody’s loss.

Count the grains of sand or the waves in the ocean. Sit under the stars at night. Notice the different shades of green in nature. Be grateful for everyone and everything in your life. Live in a state of gratitude. Give thanks in advance for solutions, goodness and wealth coming your way. The best is yet to come. Count on it.

Have the Courage to Be Daring

Be daring. Choose to make your wild and precious life a big adventure. Be brave. Be bold and authentic. Accept your greatness. Your life is your own. Remain open to your own power, trust yourself, and ask for what you want.

Unleash your burning desire to go after your dream. What you do today determines your future. Take action in joy, knowing that the universe will meet you halfway and that people will be put on your path to show you the way and take you to the finish line. Dare.

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Have the Courage to Trust the Process

Learn to trust life. Trust that things have a way of working themselves out. Trust that you’ll pick yourself up if you fail. Trust that the right people will be put on your path. When you trust the process, you’re able to live in the present moment without worrying about the past or the future.

We are meant to be out there living our dreams and making the world a more loving place. We were born to take risks, grow, and expand. It’s time to be courageous and reap the benefits! That’s my plan. I invite you to join me.

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