A Bold Life Is Now…There Is No Someday

by Tess

Don't delay living the bold life.

My sister was diagnosed with adrenal cancer on Saturday. She will undergo surgery at the University of Michigan this week. It is her only shot. There will be no chemotherapy or radiation. One surgery. The prognosis is not good. 

I’m asking you to send my family your love, prayers, blessings and good thoughts. 

I’m reminding you that life is short.

I'm reminding you that it takes unexpected twists and turns.  

I'm asking you to give up your Someday Syndrome. 

Someday I will say "I love you." Someday I will get a new job. Someday I will ask her out on a date.  I will get a physical. Someday I will get out of debt. Someday I will make amends.

Take time to reflect on how you spend your time and life energy.

What are you putting off? What do you need to own? What do you fear changing? 

Don’t delay. Don’t waste time. Time is an illusion. Don't wait until someday.

Someday never comes. Ever. 

This moment is all we have.

Our moments add up to our days. And how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

It's your responsibility to live an awesome life, to leave a legacy, and to leave the world a better place.

The following life changing steps can make your life bold, honest, and meaningful. 

Connect. Soul-to-soul. Heart-to-heart. Face-to-face. Involve yourself in deep conversation. Speak your truth. Listen deeply. Increase your flesh-to-flesh connection. Hug. Kiss. Touch. Gaze. Repeat as often as possible. 

Heal your deepest wounds. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Forgive God. Let go of all your ego garbage. Do a deep internal cleanse. Shine bright from within. Let go of hatred and fear. Make room for love. Heal your deepest wounds. Let me know if you need help with this step. Seriously. Free yourself once and for all. 

Quit the news in all forms. How much time do you waste watching or listening to the news, fearing the news and talking about the news? It’s not good for your soul. It will steal your joy and dull your aura. Turn off the dark and turn up your light. Get rid of your addiction today. Power off today. 

Quit chasing the shiny. Stop spending money you don’t have. Stop buying stuff you don’t need and will never use. Use the time and money you save and do something good for others. Use the time and money you save and spend it on making your dreams come true.

Create amazing adventure. Use the money and time you save to fill your life with bold and exciting, unusual experiences. Turn off your time and mind wasters. Do what you haven’t done before. Go where you haven’t been before. Choose one experience and begin with one small step in making it a reality.

Unneed the approval of others. Stop spending time with people you don’t like. Learn to accept and feel good about yourself. Dare to go against the crowd. Unmake the rules. Believe in yourself. Give yourself the love and acceptance you want from others. 

Apply what you learn. Don’t purchase another self-help book, course, or workshop unless you commit to making changes. The advice I'm giving you is free, here. If you need to go to the next level get, "Take Your Fear and Shove It!" Commit. Start. Right. Now.

Leap. Don’t wait. Stop ruminating on why it won’t work out and what will go wrong. For every mistake there is a new beginning. You will fail more than you succeed in life. Get help. Fear not. 

Love. Be bold and brave in your love. It's the bottom line. Love yourself. Love everyone. Love life. Let the rest go. It's not worth missing a moment of the good stuff. The best stuff. The bold stuff. Love is the bottom line.

What will you do different today? What will you do with the rest of your life? I’m going for bold.

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{ 33 comments… read them below or add one }

Jane Rochelle November 6, 2012 at 11:37 am

Sending you and your sister so much love! You are a strong and shining light.

Thank you for the beautiful reminder to live my life. You continue to remind me, and I am taking steps … perhaps I will now leap a bit sooner than I’d planned.

Know that I am here if there’s anything at all I can do …. before, during, or after her surgery. Know that we are all sending you both love, peace, and healing.
~ Jane

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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:08 pm

Jane,
I’m so grateful for your support. I love you and will let you know if I need anything. xoo

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Marla November 6, 2012 at 11:44 am

Lots of love and positive energy going your way! Great reminder post! I try and empower anyone I know who has been diagnosed with cancer with some Kris Carr. Her story is super inspiring for those going through this. xoxo
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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:09 pm

Marla,
Thanks for mentioning Kris Carr. Great advice. I appreciate your kind thoughts. Thank you. xo

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Louisa November 6, 2012 at 12:07 pm

What a timely post. Today is the third anniversary of the death of my beautiful, wonderful hero of a sister from cancer. I know she would have wholeheartedly agreed with your post because that is exactly how she lived her life right to the end. I am trying to do the same. Thank you and I send all my most positive thoughts and best wishes to carry you and your sister on the journey you have begun together.

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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:10 pm

Louisa,
How blessed you are to have so many awesome memories of your sister. I’m sure she would be proud of you. Thanks for sharing your love!

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Jt Clough | Maui Dog Remedies November 6, 2012 at 12:12 pm

I am sending all my white light healing energy from me and from those around me.
I am sorry and the message is one to start living right now today.
I’ve been going through a really tough time in a few aspects. But I have my health and I have today. Rejoice.

Mahalo
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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:11 pm

Jt,
Thanks so much for the gift of your healing energy. We need all that we can take in. I hope things brighten up in your world soon. Let me know if I can help. xo

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Sandi Amorim November 6, 2012 at 12:36 pm

Today I will be with my husband in a way that honours our marriage. Seems like lately I’ve been so preoccupied with “it’s not the way I thought it would be” and looking at him to change. Today I will tell him I love him and look him in the eyes to make sure he gets how much I mean it.

Blessings to your sister as she heals, and thank you for this reminder Tess.
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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:13 pm

Sandi,
Good for you for taking action. We only need to look for the good in each other to find it. Too often my expectations are too high for hubs and I end up disappointed. I’ve made it a habit to look for 5 things great about him daily. xo

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Rita November 6, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Tess…I send your family and especially your sister all my good thoughts that the surgery goes well and that what she’s up against, isn’t fatal, but simply a life affirming experience.

Seems this is the hot topic not just for today, but everyday. thank you for the reminder…I read a post this morning (posted on my FB wall) called The Waiting Place which just lines up so beautifully with all that you’ve said here.

As you know, I have a new manfriend and I have been somewhat reluctant to let him know how I feel…thinking I should wait. All signs are pointing towards NOT. I’ll let you know how it goes.

xo
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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:15 pm

Rita,
Great idea! Why should we ever wait on sharing our love…words, thoughts, actions? Usually fear stops us but hey we gotta get over that and Love On! xo

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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:15 pm

Rita,
Great idea! Why should we ever wait on sharing our love…words, thoughts, actions? Usually fear stops us but hey we gotta get over that and Love On! And thanks for sharing with us how brave and bold you are! xo

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Cathy | Treatment Talk November 6, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Hi Tess,

My heart goes out to your sister. I wish her the best with the surgery and hope she has a long term positive outcome. Great reminder on your post. We do only have today, so it is important to seize the moment. Take care – my thoughts and prayers are with you! xoxo
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Tess The Bold Life November 6, 2012 at 4:16 pm

Cathy,
Thanks for your support, love and prayers. They mean so much! xo

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Elle November 6, 2012 at 1:57 pm

Many, many blessings to your sister and family Tess. And love truly is the bottom line in our life…thanks for the reminder to wake up and smell the roses. Life is beautiful and just a tiny change in perspective can allow us to let go of all the stuff that doesn’t serve us. You put so well “It’s not worth missing a moment of the good stuff. The best stuff. ” Amen to that dear friend.

Love Elle
xoxo
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Jo casey November 6, 2012 at 1:58 pm

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful post & for the reminder that life is short & must be cherished. My love and heart goes out to you and your sister x
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Vidya Sury November 6, 2012 at 7:38 pm

My prayers and love are with you and your family, Tess. Sometimes it makes me sad that it takes a shock or an event to remind us to get rid of that “someday syndrome”. My push came when my Grandmother, who I thought would live forever, passed away at 85 back in the year 1987. I think I changed overnight.

Always in my thoughts. Hugs and love. My family with pray with me, for you.

Vidya
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Simon Hay November 6, 2012 at 8:30 pm

Tess, I’ll do a distant healing for your sister. Love & healing to you, her & family.

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Farnoosh November 7, 2012 at 4:46 am

Sending love, prayers and lots of good energy to your sister and to yourself, my dear sweet caring and bold Tess!!!
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Karen November 7, 2012 at 5:30 am

Your post was heartfelt and just what I needed to read this morning. Thank you for sharing your story and your message. Love and light surround you and your sister.
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Carolyn Hughes November 7, 2012 at 7:30 am

I love your post brimming with positive affirmations! Just what I needed today :)
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Sandra / Always Well Within November 7, 2012 at 10:46 am

Dearest Tess,

I’m so sorry to hear this news about your sister. I’m send a stream of love, prayers, and positive thoughts to all of you. My cat was killed last week by a car so impermanence is at the forefront of my mind. Remembering impermanence can enrich our lives greatly if we use it as an impetus to embrace life in all the ways you have outlined here. Right now I am working on healing my deepest wounds and unneeding the approval of others! My heart is with you and your sister.
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KarenYvonne November 7, 2012 at 1:21 pm

Sending tons of love your way! thanks for your article. it has inspired me to be bold today by going after my dreams because life is short!

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Betsy at Zen Mama November 7, 2012 at 9:06 pm

Tess,
First of all, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I, too, have several people in my life that also have cancer and I my last post also reflects that. You have written a beautiful post and I hope that the surgery works.
Love,
Betsy
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Alex Blackwell | The BridgeMaker November 8, 2012 at 9:18 am

Tess,

Sending light and prayers,

Alex

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Mary November 8, 2012 at 10:55 pm

Tess,
My love and prayers go to you and yours. I am a very healthy 6 year cancer survivor and know the road is rough but truely enriching. Crisis teaches big lessons on love and going BOLD-that’s the way to overcome all the bumps in the road and really appreciate every lovely moment we have together. Courage and comfort in the days ahead.
Mary

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meditation guru November 11, 2012 at 8:42 am

Thank you Tess for sharing your wisdom. Life is happening right now. It is always happening in the present moment so change is possible only in the present moment. It’s now or never. If you postpone it then meantime you will remain the same. Suppose you want to quit smoking then you can quit smoking only NOW. If you plan to quit smoking in the future then meantime you will remain a smoker and you will never quit smoking. Great stuff and inspiring blog!
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zivana anderson November 11, 2012 at 11:15 pm

Sending you both lots of love and good wishes.

That is a fantastic reminder that we need to live NOW, not later.
Zivana

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Galen Pearl November 12, 2012 at 8:04 pm

Sending prayers your way. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is short, and we have but little time to gladden the hearts of those who travel this way with us. Oh, be swift to love. Make haste to be kind.” Blessings to you and your family.
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Susan November 13, 2012 at 1:50 pm

A candle is burning on my altar and lots of prayers are coming your way. We don’t really know one another other than over the internet but if you need someone to talk to just let me know.

With love,
Susan
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brenda November 13, 2012 at 9:48 pm

Tess, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family at this time. God is stronger than cancer…I know how hard it is to watch and wait. Sending lots of love along with the prayers…I am here for you…

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Leah Griffith November 17, 2012 at 7:50 am

Tess, thank you for sharing this news about your sister. I will be praying for her. I’m really impressed how you live your message. It’s inspiring.
Hugs,
Leah

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