Is your primary relationship struggling right along with the economy? Do you worry, stress and fill your free time listening to negative media making it the primary topic in your home?
If your answer is yes the following 12 Tips can help you get out of your slump and in the mood. You may not have control over the stock market but you do have control of the following:
Be Friends. Treat each other like best friends. Smile and show interest in each others lives. Suggest and plan fun things to do together. Dress up and look good for each other. Smell good as well! When you look good you feel good. You have the power to bring a spark to the relationship and ignite the fire.
Lighten Up. Refuse to take life so seriously. Stop watching the news and quit worrying about the economy. It is what it is. Do something about what is in your control and let go of the rest. Take one day, hour or minute at a time.
Don’t Keep Score. Go the extra mile, again and again and again. One up each other only when it comes to kindness. Learn to recognize when you need to let things go. Surrender. Forgive.
Express Love Often. Look for ways to be loving. Think and speak loving thoughts. Write love notes. Make love. Be the first to initiate loving acts in every area of your lives.
Express Yourself, Heart to Heart. Don’t expect someone to know what you’re thinking. Become an expert at speaking up and listening. Have empathy and compassion for each other.
Create a safe place where expressing oneself is honored. Sit facing each other knees touching, one person talks the other listens. Then reverse it.
Give each other positive feedback. Use please, thank you, I’m sorry, that’s great, and other uplifting phrases. Memorize them and practice them daily.
Over Look the Small Stuff. We all have things that bug us about the other. Pick up his shoes even though they’re his. Put oil in her car even thought it’s hers. Help each other. Look for opportunities to help each other.
Be Low Maintenance. My husband has always called me low maintenance and a “cheap date” because I don’t demand a lot of things. I can go withut manicures, pedicures, and the latest and the greatest gadgets and stuff. On special occasions I allow him to treat me. Keep it simple and you’ll have less stress.
Make Him/Her Look Good. Look for opportunities to praise your significant other. Always give them the credit and let others know how great he/she is. They will shine so bright it will reflect back on you. Always speak kindly to and about each other.
Play. Find methods to have fun even when money is scarce. We played cards on a card table (also our kitchen table) when we were young. Any time spent in nature is free. Walk in the rain, hike a mountain, take your bikes and run errands. With a playful attitude even work can be fun.
Be Grateful Together. Together talk about what you are grateful for and how blessed you are. Do this for 10 minutes every evening. It will put you in a sweet slumber.
Let Go of Being “Right.” Ask yourself, In thT Big Picture Is This Really Important?” If not let it go. Refuse to have the last word. Be happy to give it away.
Treasure Each Other. When you treasure each other you both feel valued, important and precious. Tell the other person, “I treasure you!” Your relationship will be strong and healthy. Your focus will be on the positive and what’s right.
How are you keeping the sparks burning in your relationship?
What do you do to keep things positive when your partner is feeling down?