You can have a good time over the holidays in spite of the people around you. Nobody can take away your peace of mind unless you give it to them.
Remember we determine how we see ourselves, other people and all events. We have the power to shift our perception. We have the power to give others the benefit of the doubt. We have the power to let old stories go. We have the power to love others for who they are and where they are, today.
You only need a little willingness.
What to do at parties, gatherings and other events:
Forgive your past and everyone in it. Begin doing forgiveness work today. If you have a problem with someone your goal is to be at peace with them before the family event. Each night before falling asleep wish this person well. See them with a smile on their face. Silently offer them peace. Fill a helium balloon with the problem. Let it drift away.
Feel the love. Exercise and get enough sleep. Read a great book. Spend time in prayer. Fill your love tank prior to arriving to a dinner or a party.
Be prepared. Spend time in silence before the family gathering. Put a few affirmation cards in your purse or pocket. If you catch yourself feeling anything but loving, excuse yourself. Recenter yourself.
Fill a home or restaurant with love prior to arriving. Send love in advance. Visualize everyone having a good time. Make your intention to be loving and choose to feel loved.
Be genuinely interested in others. Talk about what interests your friends and relatives. Note what another person is interested in. Inquire further. Speak less and listen more with your heart open. Ask about a garden, a hobby or other neutral topics. Remember, nobody has to change to make you happy. Give the love you want to receive.
Share. Bring a favorite childhood dish. Share kind words, a smile, a genuine compliment or praise. Simple gifts are often the best and long remembered.
Treat others like they are royalty. Everyone wants to feel important. Everyone is doing the best they know how with what they have at this time. When we know better, we do better. Love others for being themselves. Become one with the people you're with.
Keep your ego in check. Become aware of the temptation of thinking you're better than others. Become aware of the ways that we are alike. We all need to be validated, loved and appreciated.
Give yourself permission to shine. Don't dim your light for anyone. On the other hand don't brag. If someone lost their job don't blurt out how well your job is going. If there is conflict, go above the battlefield and remain calm. Don't get involved. Hold everyone is a place of love.
Take a time out. Don't join in negative conversation about the past. Excuse yourself from that conversation. Change the subject. Find something to do in the kitchen. If you don't feel safe, leave the room or go for a walk.
Bless everyone. Take a moment while sitting at the table and silently look at each person and be sincerely grateful. These people are in your life for a reason. They will teach you how to love unconditionally. They will mirror the positive and negative traits you may otherwise not see in yourself. Silently thank them.
Play. Bring something fun to do. Bring a board game, a simple craft, play cards or read to the children. Laugh. Lighten up. Be the fun you wish to have at the party.
Be on your best behavior. Practice what you preach. Be your spiritually mature self. Leave your feelings of being unfairly treated, resentment or envy, in your journal. This leaves room for calm, peace and contentment.
Enjoy the moment. Breathe in six counts and pause. Breathe out. Practice this anytime you feel anxious. You have the power to bring joy with you to any situation. A Course In Miracles states that the only thing lacking from any situation is what you're withholding.
You will receive what you give to others over the holidays. You will get what you expect. Spread joy. Expect love. Have fun.