How To Survive The Blogosphere

by Tess on December 9, 2008

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Statistics show 175,000 new blogs go up everyday and out of those only five % survive! Knowing this can make bloggers become obsessive, anxious and crazy.

We have a tendency to exessively check emails, stats and comments. When they decrease our confidence in our writing and blogging decrease as well.  Blogger Eric Hamm at reminds me to relax and enjoy the process. Isn’t that easier said than done?

Taking his advice I began observing how I react when I can’t figure out technical mumbo jumbo or when nobody bothers to comment on my newly birthed blog. I didn’t like what I found.

I tend to over react (surprise, surprise). I’ve since decided to change the way I looked at blogging. No it’s not the most important thing in my life. I have my health, family and friends that love me, and other sources of income. (Thank God!) I wouldn’t change my life for the most successful blog on the internet.

It’s important we focus on the positive things in our lives while faced with challenges wheather it’s our online business, the stocks, a lost job or a family conflict. It’s important we give ourselves a break, breathe and remember this to shall pass.

I suggest the following actions:

During difficult times become aware of the behavior patterns and thoughts that have kept you stuck over the years.  Decide to be gentle and kind with yourself. Learn to treat yourself like you would a best friend.

Learning to take care of yourself during times of stress, strain or difficulty requires commitment, effort, and conscious repetitive self-honoring choices and actions.
Tell yourself, “This is difficult right now, how can I be patient with myself?  What kind of self-care do I need while I work through this struggle?”

We are amazing, creative and magnificent human beings. We can learn to behave in a way that reflects who we are.

We are all constantly changing, growing, and learning. Comparing ourselves to others is one way we create our own suffering. Honoring ourselves and our needs can make a difference in how we experience life.
The following are techniques and tips for your journey, on or off line!

You can begin by creating positive self-talk, positive thinking will help you believe in yourself. For example, when you catch yourself thinking, “I can’t” replace it to thinking, “I can, I am.” Other affirmations that create positive outcomes:

I am not desperate, I’m determined.
I am intelligent and capable of doing this work.
I choose to trust myself today.
I believe in myself like never before.
Everday I value myself more.
I see my work filled with hope, trust and optimism.
I can ask for the help I need from others.
I choose to help others as well.
A magnificent future is mine as I learn to treat myself better.
I’m able to manage even difficult things.
I anticipate my success.
I release impatience.
I celebrate little successes along the way.
My healthy choices today determine my future results.

Make Choices On Your Own Behalf

Choose not to struggle alone.
Choose to get a blogging buddy.

Choose to let go of negative conclusions.
Choose to shift into positive thoughts and images.

Choose to let go of people, places, activities and thoughts that bring you down.
Choose the activities, thoughts, people and places that leave you feeling energized and happy.

Choose to let go of self-judgement and criticism.
Choose to respect yourself at all times.

Choose to let go of destructive habits and addictions that keep you from the life you want.
Choose to have a positive attitude and make positve choices everyday. 

Choose to let go of self-doubt, guilt and shame.
Choose to accept who you are and where you are today.

The Benefits From Investing In Healthy Thoughts, Choices and Actions:

I take responsibility for making compassionate and caring choices.

I have a sense of well-being. I focus on what’s right in my life instead of what’s wrong.

I trust the process of life. I have less drama and chaos in my life. I have faith in myself to get through life’s challenges.

I don’t fear disapproval, judgement or critisism from others.

I am free of drama, bad habits and compulsive behaviors.

I am peaceful and calm requardless of what is going on around me.

I am skilled at making the choices and taking the actions needed to arrive at my life goals.

I understand the effect of the wrong choices and actions. I recognize them immediately.

I understand that when I fail I can choose again.

I am light-hearted, I don’t take things personally, I don’t compare myself to others.

I am continuously changing, growing and transforming. I have the skills to manage life.

I celebrate my well-being, my successes and accept where I am on my journey.

Be brave, be bold and learn to empower yourself with choices that will serve you well and lead you to the success and happiness you deserve! Enjoy your journey. 

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    { 9 comments… read them below or add one }

    Josten December 9, 2008 at 6:19 pm

    I believe that if more people would stop being so hard on themselves things would be even better than they already are.
    great post

    Josten’s last blog post..Failing to Succeed


    Neil December 10, 2008 at 11:41 am

    Tess, some great advice. I find myself in the same position as you. My blog is 2 months old and growing, granted it’s growing slowly. Much slower than I would like or had anticipated. Fair enough, in evaluating things I realize I picked an over-saturated niche so the results aren’t suprising. The result is to adjust my focus and keep plugging along. My goal has always been to provide insight/advice. However, it’s also been to build my digital footprint and resume which will only happen if I continue over the longhaul.

    During my short blogging journey a good friend has caught the bug and now we are planning a joint venture. Not for profits (though that would be nice) but rather for the joy of it.

    At the end of the day that’s what it’s really about. If you aren’t enjoying blogging, stop. If it isn’t doing something to improve your life, stop.

    Thanks for this great post.

    Neil’s last blog post..Qualities of Leadership


    Edward December 11, 2008 at 2:19 am

    Hey Tess!

    Great advice! I started a blog last year, and just like you said, I was way too busy being focused on ’stats and comments.’ Somewhere during that self inflicted madness, I forgot the joy of writing! I started to loathe blogging. It definitely got me off track. I ended up not blogging.

    It wasn’t until recently that I looked back and was able to see my mistake, Now my blog is back up and I am able to enjoy the joy of writing and sharing my thoughts by focusing on what is important.

    Thanks for sharing Tess!


    Edward’s last blog post..How To Relieve Stress: Part Deux


    Jennifer (Danifer) December 11, 2008 at 4:22 pm

    Hi Tess. I found your blog through Motivate Thyself and realized that you are a fellow Arizonian. I have lived here all my life, with the exception of a few CA years. I am glad to have found your site. I really liked this post and found it helpful. I intend to read your others as well. Thank you!

    Jennifer (Danifer)’s last blog post..Tips For Remembering Names


    Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog December 11, 2008 at 7:46 pm

    HI Tess – I hear you. When I started blogging nearly 20 months ago I was a complete stataholic. It took awhile, but I finally settled in and started enjoying the journey. All of your advice is spot on. Stay positive, be patient, and don’t forget to enjoy life. In time it all starts to come together.

    Happy Blogging!

    Barbara Swafford – Blogging Without A Blog’s last blog post..When Your Truth Is Different Than Mine


    Tess December 11, 2008 at 8:42 pm

    Great advice. Like I said Eric’s one sentence made all the difference. I going for the joy!

    Edward, everyone says to be patient thanks for stopping by. I’ve realized it’s better to write less and enjoy more.

    Thanks Barbara, That’s my new plan! I also need to remember there are others reading and not commenting. Helping them is what counts.


    Carla December 12, 2008 at 1:47 am

    This is really helpful advice. My blog is pretty new and I am just now getting in the swing of things. Its so easy to be obsessive even though my blog is only a part of my business. My biggest question is; is it possible for my blog to grow in this niche. I guess only time will tell.

    Carla’s last blog post..Deep Steep Travel and Gift Sets | Under $20


    Tess December 12, 2008 at 10:59 am

    I like your blog… time will tell but your passion, hard work, belief in yourself and a positive attitude will also help you succeed.

    Hold a successful vision for yourself and your blog. I will as well.
    Thanks for stopping by. Tess


    Eric Hamm December 14, 2008 at 10:46 am

    Hey Tess, I really appreciate the mention. :-)

    I’m definitely a recovering stataholic. It’s in those early days when we become overly sensitive to the ebbs and flows of our online traffic. You share some great insight into the benefits of focusing on the truly important things. Great reminder! Eric.

    Eric Hamm’s last blog post..Minimize Your ‘Focus Reboots’


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