Bold and Free Compliments Cheer Up America

by Tess on August 7, 2009

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Are you better at giving or receiving compliments? Why?
What stops you from giving more compliments?
Would you be willing to compliment 10 people today?

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    { 23 comments… read them below or add one }

    Caity 08.07.09 at 8:21 am

    Oh that is so great! I have such a smile on my face after watching that video. It makes me want to get on the train to New York City and stand there with my own sign giving people compliments.

    It’s so sad how we are so caught up in our own lives sometimes that we forget one of the most important things - making others happy! I think that putting smiles on other people’s faces is one of the main ways to bring a smile to your own!

    Thanks for sharing such a wonderful and inspirational video! I’m definitely going to try and compliment more people today.

    Positively Present 08.07.09 at 10:29 am

    That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing this. It totally made me smile! :)

    Lance 08.07.09 at 10:58 am

    This is great Tess! And it just shows, it doesn’t take much to bring a little bit of good cheer into the world!

    So - as I leave here today (and head out to hopefully give a couple of extra compliments) - Tess - you have such an uplifting site and I don’t think I’ve ever told you this - I love your header, and the fish jumping out of the fishbowl, off to find his own (bold moves for all us “bold fish” in the world!)!!

    Tess 08.07.09 at 1:10 pm

    Thanks for joining in on the fun. I do my best to compliment each person I encounter in the service industry and more…It makes all encounters easier and happier.

    Positively Present,
    Your so welcome. Smile on with all of us giving compliments today.

    Just when I’m thinking of changing the header! Augghhh! What’s a blogger to do?!?

    Lance 08.07.09 at 1:26 pm

    Okay…okay…don’t listen to me, that’s for sure! I still like it, but I’m no design expert (does that scare you?????)

    Jannie Funster 08.07.09 at 3:05 pm

    I used to be the devil at accepting a compliment, These days — now that I’m so mature and enlightened & such, I can take as good as I give.

    Oh yes, I can certainly complement 10 people today, especially if I stand beside them and my outfit goes well with theirs (sorry, couldn’t resist!) Compliment? Or is that complement? Now I’m confusing myself in my own attempt at humor.

    Yes, I’ll give compliments to 10 people today, or on what’s left of the day.

    Then I’ll compliment 1 person 10 times.

    Then compliment 10 people 10 times.

    And then drink a nice tall beer.

    I better get cracking, I’ve got some love to sling.

    Jannie Funster 08.07.09 at 3:07 pm

    Oh, and Lance, the very first time I ever came to this site I was quick to tell Tess how much I love her header and her fish. So what took ya so long, buddy???

    Tess 08.07.09 at 3:45 pm

    I think I sling a beer and 10x more compliments with you Funster! We’ll forgive Lance for being a little slowL:)

    Daphne @ Joyful Days 08.07.09 at 5:37 pm

    Oh dear, for some reason I can’t see the video, both in my reader and here on the site. Maybe I’ll try again later.

    So, without the right context, my answer is still yes. I’m happy to compliment at least one person a day as a daily habit. It would be great to up the number to 10!

    Mary B Sheffield 08.07.09 at 5:57 pm

    These Boys are wise beyond their years !! I hope I do not have to count 10 compliments ! I may have to at first but for once this is a healthy habit ! :)
    Play it forward ! And this is a great way to start !
    Thanks for sharing this Tess !
    Mary B

    Lance 08.07.09 at 6:21 pm

    I held off telling Tess about her lovely header…because I was completely pulled in by all the amazing thought she was writing. (Tess is an amazing writer…have you read her book? )(Of course you have, you’re an amazing person who wants to be even more amazinger…and Tess’ book is the perfect place to start working on amazing) (of course, you already know that too). If I call you a “know it all”, will you take that as a compliment? If not, then - “you rock” - and not the granite kind…

    Thanks for forgiving me…see, you’re bold AND kind! I love your fish…and I always will… (see above, though…it’s what you write that is so, so good). Happy slingin’

    Stacey Shipman 08.08.09 at 4:25 am

    What a riot! I love it. It put a smile on my face - a good way to start a Saturday!

    That said, I have a much easier time complimenting others…and love to do so! It fits nicely with my core values, one of which is “feel good”.

    For what it’s worth - I always liked your header, too! Sometimes it’s hard to jump away from the pack…the picture speaks volumes!

    John 08.08.09 at 7:52 am

    That’s a pretty awesome video. To be able to make someone smile by just giving them a sincere compliment; yeah, that has to be happiness.

    I guess I should compliment people more. I haven’t done it to often, mostly because I just haven’t had the mind to. I’ll take it into consideration more often now.

    Thanks Tess for the video!

    janice 08.08.09 at 11:05 am

    What a smiley video!

    Like you, Tess, I try to do as much as I can to make people who are doing me a service feel appreciated. It takes so very little but can really make someone’s day. Years of teaching then parenting and coaching have convinced me that it’s a good way to live.

    I give complements naturally - there’s so much good in the world, it’s easy - but until a few years ago, I was rubbish at receiving them. It may be a Scottish thing; we can be a bit dour and we’re not known for gushiness. Now I realise it’s as important to receive compliments with gratitude and openness as it is to give genuine ones.

    Seeing as the sub theme of this post seems to be the header of your blog, I’ve always loved it, even though I’ve seen the fish used on other blogs. I like the way your blog is ‘clean’; the orange/blue combo is bold and bright and stands out because of the lack of clutter. Having said that, I know that anything else you’ve been considering will be well thought out and express you just as well.

    Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching 08.08.09 at 11:54 am

    I found myself actually being surprised that people weren’t completely ignoring them and wanting to just be left alone. That really is an encouraging video.

    Juliet 08.08.09 at 12:06 pm


    So few people do give compliments. Often when you give someone a compliment they seem surprised. Sad isn’t that…..


    Hilary 08.09.09 at 4:17 am

    Hi Tess .. that’s great .. it looks cold - and they cheered everyone up - making their days full of sunshine. A bit over the top - but perhaps that’s for the English ‘lass’ ..

    Great idea though .. and we really need to complement more, rather than dwell on the negative or improving things ..rather than saying ‘well done’ .. that was great - I loved ‘this’ .. or ‘that’ -

    this week you’ll be doing lots of these with the little ones around?!

    Enjoy your week .. lots of bold tales to tell later ..
    Hilary Melton-Butcher
    Positive Letters Inspirational Stories

    Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord 08.09.09 at 8:13 am

    I used to feel strange about receiving compliments — I’d try to push them away. Someone could say, “You have such a nice smile” and my reply would be, “Oh no I don’t… No… My teeth are all wrong.” Then as I started walking my spiritual path and learning to love myself more, I wouldn’t refuse a compliment, but I’d try to equalize it by instantly offering a compliment back to whoever said something to me. That’s like being given a surprise gift and then thinking you have to give one right back to the giver!

    Finally, in the state I’m in now I can receive compliments graciously. My gosh, and it feels so freakin’ good!

    I also love giving compliments - especially to strangers. If I see something I like on someone, I try to tell them. At the very least, my mind is usually finding things in people that I like and thinking the thought - even if I don’t voice the thoughts for whatever reason.

    What a cool video — thanks for posting it!

    Tess 08.09.09 at 8:41 am

    I hope you saw the video. Another example of how kids can bring our attention to do good in the world in small but important ways.

    There’s no doubt in my mind you are a complimenter leaving happiness footprints where ever you go. I smile as I see you continuing to be and do good in the world!

    You and Jannie bring me smiles and laughs each time I read your blogs. I think we should give the three of us nicknames and who knows what that can lead too???

    Wow thanks for adding that…I am thinking of changing it! I’m not so sure now. And you make it sound powerful. Breaking away from the pack is a powerful and bold move.

    That’s great! It’s nice that you will begin to share your smile and self with the world more often. The world needs you!

    Thanks for that clean compliment. Eric Hamm was my designer and he and Leo B. believe in the clean and simple look. It works well for me. I’m also thinking of doing a different tag line…

    It shows that we all want and need attention, praise and love. Those guys look real and authentic…silly and funny!

    If we all learn to give more then wouldn’t the world be less glum. Thanks for stopping by Juliet. I’ve missed you.

    Yes I’ll be pouring on the praise to my grandkids. Pump them up for the start of a new school year. We’ll also be doing so many fun things…I can feel the joy from head to toes as I type.

    The world is more joyful because of you. Continue the joy path and leading others to it. We are so blessed…and when we realize that joy can’t help but bubble over.

    Morgan 08.09.09 at 12:41 pm

    Aw, wow…that’s so adorable! I’m smiling like such a nerd just watching it on a computer screen, I can’t imagine how big my grin would be if I passed these two on the street somewhere.

    I love this idea– and what a great time for them to get out there and do it!

    I love to compliment people because it allows me to point something out about them that’s unique.

    A lot of young girls would rather stare at each other with a weird look if they liked something that another young girl had, but they should really compliment them. It shows confidence in my opinion and if we all managed to compliment each other we’d feel more confident and optimistic. :)

    Great post and thank you for sharing this with us! I’ll have to pass it along.

    Davina 08.09.09 at 1:41 pm

    Hi Tess. I love giving compliments, but receiving them is a bit more challenging. I’ve just reminded myself that accepting a compliment from someone else is an act of “seeing and hearing THEM”. Hmmm, maybe if I make it less about me I can let the comment land.

    Kathy | Virtual Impax 08.09.09 at 5:27 pm

    I’m MUCH better at giving compliments than receiving them.

    The “compliment” guy hails from my home state - Indiana. They have a thing there called “Hoosier Hospitality” and trust me - people in Indiana ARE that nice in everyday real life.

    I fear if the compliment guy tried doing that down here in southeastern Florida - he wouldn’t have received such a warm reception.

    The video clip was wonderful. It made me smile.

    carla 08.09.09 at 7:30 pm

    That is so sweet. That made me smile to see this. We dont have to totally change someone’s life to make someone else happy even for a few minutes - just be human.

    Thank you for sharing!

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