If you want your holidays to be the best ever I offer more tips on how to do so. Remember we determine how we see ourselves, others and events. We spend our lives offering advice to others on our blogs and in comments on other blogs. The holidays are our opportunity to walk our talk.
At your parties, gathering and other events:
Be genuinely interested in others. Talk about what interests your friends and relatives. Note what another enjoys and feels good about. Ask about a garden, hobby or other neutral topic. Give up needing others to change in order for you to be happy or feel loved. Keep your heart and ears open.
Treat others like they are royalty. For whatever reason some people never change. Remember we are all doing the best we know how to do. Instead of complaining hold a vision of peace and happiness for difficult friends and relatives during the holiday season. Love them for being themselves.
Keep your ego in check. Become aware of the temptation of thinking you're better than others. Become aware of the ways we are the same. For example, we all love to be validated, loved and appreciated. We all want the best for ourselves and our children.
Give yourself permission to shine. Don't dim your light for anyone. On the other hand don't brag. If someone lost their job don't blurt out how well your job is going. Instead genuinely care about others. Offer your help in any way you can.
Take a time out if the coversation gets heated or others bring up the past. Excuse yourself from that conversation. Change the subject. Find something to do in the kitchen.
Bless everyone. Take a moment while sitting at the table and silently look at each person and be sincerely grateful. These people are in your life for a reason. They will teach you how to love unconditionally. They will mirror positive and negative traits you may otherwise not see in yourself. Silently thank them.
Play. Bring something fun to do. Bring bubbles to blow, a simple craft to make or a book to read to the children. Be the fun you wish to have at the party.
Be prepared. Spend time in silence before you leave. Put a few affirmation cards in your purse or pocket. As you catch yourself thinking or feeling negatively excuse yourself. Recenter yourself and stay calm by reading your cards.
Listen to others. We all want to be heard. Be the last to speak and the first to listen. Genuinely care what the other person is talking about. Robin Easton becomes one with the speaker. I can't think of a better time or place to practice that exercise!
Share. Bring a favorite childhood dish. My Aunt Lucy used to make English Toffee that melted in your mouth. It was my sister's favorite dessert. I'm going fill a small gift box for Cher to take home.
Be on your best behavior. Practice what you preach. Be your spiritually mature self. Leave your feelings of being unfairly treated, resentment or envy, in your journal. This leaves room for calm, peace and contentment.
Enjoy the moment. Breathe in six counts and pause. Breathe out. Practice this anytime you feel anxious. You have the power to bring joy with you to any situation.
Forgive your past and everyone in it. Begin doing forgiveness work today. If you have a problem with someone your goal is to be at peace with them before the family event. Each night before falling asleep wish this person well. See them with a smile on their face. Silently offer them peace. Fill a helium balloon with the problem. Let it drift away.
Feel the love. Fill your love tank prior to arriving to a dinner or party. Spend time with friends and have fun. Exercise and get enough sleep. Read a great book. Spend time in prayer.
Fill the home or restaurant with love prior to arriving. Visualize everyone having a good time. Make your intention to be loving and choose to feel loved.
You will receive what you give to others over the holidays. You will get what you expect. Spread joy. Expect love. Have fun.