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By: Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK

Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:35:53 +0000

Thanks, Tess. I know and feel you’re quite happy as well!

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By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:08:44 +0000

Hi Tess,
The tool that works for me is something I have two of – ears. When we listen to each other, really listen (with understanding) – things just go so much better. When we jump to conclusions, or block out the other person — not so good. It’s certainly not perfect, but I think we continuing on an upward spiral of really understanding each other – and that has made all the difference…

Good thoughts here – all around!

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By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 17:22:12 +0000

Eliza, I'm glad you found Mr. Right and have it all figured out! Isn't life grand? Robin, It's amazing how once we know better we can stay in the good stuff for greater lengths of time until disagreements are a rarity. I love your purpose and what it means to you. Barbara, Thank God for Steve or we wouldn't have you! Yes agreeing to disagree is perfect. I don't know anyone who agrees with their mate all of the time so it sure makes sense, doesn't it. Jocelyn, Your last two lines are the very best! How wise and happy your are! Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..A Bold, Bright & Happy Summer

By: Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK

Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 11:55:35 +0000

I’ve had tough times trying to be right, realizing later on that I “needed” to be right because I wanted to be loved. That’s what I believed in, that I can only be loved when I’m right. Later though, I’ve learned that it feels a LOT LOT better feeling loved even if I’m wrong, especially when I’m wrong. In such times, there is a lot of joy being wrong. Nothing can ever compare to the feeling that you are accepted and loved even when you’re at your worst, even when you’re the wrongest “you” you’ve ever been.

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By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 04:07:14 +0000

Hi Tess, It was reading Steve Pavlina's work that got me into blogging. Shortly after I read "The Secret" I was researching more about the law of attraction and landed on his blog. There I found his posts on blogging. One thing lead to another and I said to myself, "I can do that, too". Hence, my blogs were born. My husband and I don't feel we have to be right either. Our philosophy has been that we agree to disagree. Practicing that has continued to keep harmony in our lives and marriage. I also like how you shared, "it's not necessary to have a "winner"". Barbara Swafford’s last blog post..How To Capitalize On Your Blog Statistics

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:51:39 +0000

Hi Tess – I reckon an essential part of our relationship (Frank and me) is a strong sense of purpose – then when things go awry, neither of us want to hang on to it for too long, or blow it out of proportion, because we simply want to get on with the good stuff. I can’t exactly put my finger on what the purpose is, but it’s something to do with experiencing joy, love and creativity ourselves and then spreading it around (or something). – R

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By: Eliza

Eliza — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:57:15 +0000

Wow, you learned that lesson at 35? Good for you. I was in my early 40s and had left a bad relationship where he ALWAYS had to be right, so, sadly I almost had to prove him wrong just on principle. Ya, it was a baaaaaad relationship. Not so with Mr Very Right. If he’s right, so be it. If I’m right, even better … no, just kidding. If we do come head to head on something we make a game out of it, and place a bet. But we do it in such a way that we both come out winners. Example “Mr. Very Right, I bet that you are wrong. If you are right, I will give you a full body massage. If I am right, you will give me a full body massage.” Okay, well, you can see where that leads …. like I said, both winners *grin*

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 23:01:54 +0000

Jennifer, It sounds like you have a wonderful marriage and with your focus on God always will have. Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..Magic Monday Freebie with Steve Pavlina

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 18:25:02 +0000

Tess, this reminds me.... Early on in our marriage I remember there were things that we would argue about where I knew I was right. It wasn't an opinion or I thought I was right. It would be something factual. One day I finally decided to just let these things go. I would just not argue about them any more. It wasn't worth it. I knew he would eventually learn what I was saying was right. It was always more fun to hear him eventually say I was right than to waste all that energy arguing about something that didn't matter. That wasn't why I did it, but that's how it worked out. What tools do I use? When I keep my focus on God and work to magnify God in our relationship and not myself then things are always beautiful. - things like appreciation, respect, doing the things that I know he likes, even though I may not really want to. These make all the difference. Jennifer’s last blog post..An Extraordinary Life

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:40:54 +0000

Hi Julie, I could of learned it earlier as well however I was pretty proud of age 35. I surrounded myself by older and wiser people. Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..Magic Monday Freebie with Steve Pavlina