Comments on: The Bold Life: Loving Choices Change Lives

By: Hilary

Hilary — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 07:01:55 +0000

Hi Tess .. I love the way you’ve expressed this – think before we speak, think before we do, give ourselves time to see if we’re affecting someone else, why are we being asked that question .. how should we be answering. I try and be true to myself, while considering others & I say I can or can’t do something .. because at least they and I know re my commitment.

I’ll remember your words .. “Does this choice honour me”

Thanks – so helpful to read others’ words and thoughts .. Hilary
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By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 21:04:24 +0000

Tess,
As I read this – I’m drawn to a self awareness workshop I attended last fall. One of the big take aways for me: that I say “yes” too much. The deeper part of this, that I’m only just beginning to fully grasp – is that by saying “yes” to that which might not resonate with me – means that I am also likely saying “no” to something much more important (and maybe internal to me). I think this relates to what you’re talking about – and how our loving choices…are they truly “loving” for us??

Wonderful!!
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By: Kristie Ryan

Kristie Ryan — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 19:51:32 +0000

Tess,

This is a great concept. I felt joyful just asking myself the question! It made me smile knowing that I can ask that question and make sure I am staying true to myself and the kind of life I want to live.

I really like the last question too, “Am I available to myself?” I think that question is very important, especially for people who don’t take the time to sit and be quiet by themselves.

Thanks for bringing up this excellent question and a great prayer too

Love,
Kristie

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By: Tess Bold Life

Tess Bold Life — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 13:15:28 +0000

Mark,
I never thought of it that way. Now that you point that out it’s so true for all of us…your lesson is my lesson because we’re all one. It’s the human experience and either we’ve gotten the lesson and remember, or we’re struggling to get the lesson and figure it out or we don’t have a clue we even need a lesson. We’re all on the same journey disguised as many but really one. I am the lesson and the teacher. I am the student. Brilliant Mark…no wonder I have so much empathy for everyone.

Jannie,
OMG are you as funny in person as you are online? If so I’m leaving for the airport in 45 minutes! Gotta grab my donuts and beer first;)

The Exception,
Yes and if everyone who is unhappy at work got this nobody would be unhappy at work…maybe with their work but not at work!

Evita,
It’s only hard when I beat my head against the wall!LOL It’s hard when I don’t rise above the battlefield. Nothing is more difficult than hate. My biggest gratitude is for a heart filled with love and and ego on vacation.

Davina,
Oh yes showing up and taking car of business:O) Everyday with a smile on my face and a prayer in my heart. xo
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By: Davina

Davina — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 04:17:08 +0000

This this is powerful stuff. “I know it’s my responsibility to teach people how to treat me.” is profound. I keep forgetting this! We do ourselves and them a favour by making them more aware. It’s not even about write/wrong… it’s just about showing up and taking care of business.
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By: Evita

Evita — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 02:02:32 +0000

Hi Tess

As I read the conversation with the “self”, it occurred to me how much our Egos can rule our lives.

Love is a simple decision. It is a choice. And I hear at times from people say that it is hard, and the truth is, it is not harder than hate. We are simply making a choice one way or another.

So you are saying a great thing that we need to simply keep our egos out of it, and honor ourselves. In the end, are we really going to stoop low or rise high and live out our highest potential?

Very thought provoking Tess.
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By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 00:32:49 +0000

I so needed to read this TODAY Tess, thank you – I want to relieve this pain and heal myself by running around and helping others….instead to honor and heal myself I am having to let go – let go and let go and be still. This is honoring at this time in my life and I do want to heal….

Honoring myself is putting me first right now…saying NO…but I find it so the opposite of everything I have done before – it is excruciatingly hard for me.

but if I want to heal I need to not do the same old same old…
Thank you
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By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now

Karl Staib - Work Happy Now — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 20:05:22 +0000

I read somewhere that it is not the answers we seek that matters, but the questions we ask. I’m not sure where I read that, but I took it to heart. We have to ask the right questions before we can get the right answers.

I love how your question gets to the heart of an issue. Are we making the choice that honors us?

I’m going to start asking this question when I deal with my family. I need to be more patient and understanding instead of expecting them to know what I’m thinking.
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By: The Exception

The Exception — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 19:01:55 +0000

Tess – I love this. As one who is in a situation where I have to model how I want to be treated and respect for myself fully realizing that I must interact with this person and can not walk away, it is a constant lesson for me to stop beating my head, accept him, and keep modeling regardless of how my ego raises its head to remind me of this and that. I have to stay. I have to model. I have to honor myself via that model that I am presenting. And yet it is hard because I can’t close the door and leave – I must learn to honor myself, detach, and yet stay.

Great post – in a sense it is about releasing people from expectations and accepting them for who they choose to be.