Gift Yourself with Loving Choices
Making the highest choice possible in each moment of your life is a gift you give yourself. Before eating, speaking, working, or taking any kind of action ask yourself,
"Does this choice honor me?"
I'm upset with my friend. We were suppose to go to a party and at the last minute she cancels.
She has a habit of doing this.
I shouldn't be surprised. Even though I know better I'm angry.
Seems to me "it's all about her." Always!
Can't count on her anymore.
Now, I don't want to go either. So I don't. I miss the party as well.
Then I decide I'm going to text her and tell her exactly how I feel.
How dare her? How could she? Who does she think she is?
Before I push "send" I hesitate. I pause and ask myself,
"Is what I'm about to send self-honoring?"
My answer is no.
I delete the text…frustrated yet "knowing better"
I'm still angry.
Then I see my journal lying on the coffee table.
I pick it up. I write.
I write out my anger. I write out my loneliness. I write out my projections.
I feel better.
I have clarity.
I realize my issue is wanting to spend time with someone who is unavailable.
I know better. I know she's a workaholic. I knew prior to inviting her.
I know it's my responsibility to teach people how to treat me. I know it's my responsibility to choose "available" friends. I know I can create my own drama.
I decide this has happened too many times.
I make a decision. I quit banging my head against the wall. It hurts.
It's time to move on…to a new friend. A new opportunity. A new possibility.
I'm taking a deep breath now.
I ask myself, "Is this a self-honoring choice"
I answer, yes.
This one question when asked and answered respectfully can mean the difference between a life of despair and a life of happiness.
Loving choices fulfill us and create joy in our lives. Loving choices connect us to our soul.
We all have the right and responsibility to have a great life.
How do we make it so?
One self-honoring choice at a time.
Ask yourself repeatedly through out your day, "Does this choice honor me?"
If it does not you have the option to choose again.
When we end relationships it's important to celebrate and honor the experience. We don't move on because one person is better than another. It's simply not true. Moving on is simply a honoring choice.
It's important to keep our egos out of it.
We gift ourselves and others with the space for something better.
I love my friend from a distance. I honor her. She is set free and I am set free.
All is well between us.
My favorite prayer is "I bless you. I release you. I set you free. I allow you to be you and you to be me." I repeat it when I think of her.I
I remember all of my relationships are a reflection of the relationship I have with myself. I ponder the question, "How available am I to me?"
I create the affirmation, "I'm available and open to receive all that is good in the world."
What quality of consciousness predominates in your network of friends?
What shared values, goals and activities form your bonds?