How to Move Beyond Past Failures and Forgive Yourself

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It’s time to forgive yourself and move beyond past failures!

In order to focus on where you want to go it’s necessary to free yourself from what’s holding you back. Without knowing it, many people hold themselves prisoners by staying stuck in their past failures.

They beat themselves up and relive their mistakes, again and again. They are victims of their own making and lack the self-confidence and courage to progress in life.

Don’t allow past failures to block you from your present progress, and your future abundance and success. Give yourself permission to begin again.

Reflect on the times you’ve failed in life.

Create a list. Write down all of your past failures, or at least the ones that you keep reliving. Refuse to surrender.

Begin as early as elementary school. Maybe you were singled out for failing a test. Or maybe you failed to stand up for your brother when he was being bullied.

List your failures in high school, college and everything in between. List any failed relationships, failures in raising your children, failures in jobs or projects. Write down whenever you felt like you missed the mark.

Failures are opportunities to learn.  When you learn from your mistakes, you become wiser and you change your behavior in the future.

Next write down what you learned from each failure.
For example:

When I failed at math, I took the class again and received a better grade.

When I failed at keeping a budget, I learned that I could track my expenses daily and know exactly where my money went.

When I failed at my marriage, I learned to take responsibility and change my behavior before I got involved with another person.

Write down anything you failed to learn from past experiences, and what you are still working on.

For example:

I failed to lose weight last year and I’m still struggling with obesity. I’m working on my self-worth and I’m exercising more now.
I failed to spend time with my children when they were young, I’m working on spending more time with them now that they’re adults, but my work still gets in the way.

Forgive yourself for failing.

When we know better, we do better. When we’re ready we change. It doesn’t do any good to continue to punish yourself for things that didn’t go well in the past.

Give yourself a break and move on.

Fill in the blanks for each failure.

“I forgive myself for failing at ______________ and I forgive everyone else involved.”
“I forgive myself for failing at ______________ and I forgive everyone else involved.”
“I forgive myself for failing at ______________ and I forgive everyone else involved.”

Repeat this exercise for as many failures as come to mind.
Get in touch with your losses.

It’s necessary to get in touch with the buried grief that you have from your past failures so that you can move on.

Loss: I feel empty when I think of the years I lost with my children because of my drinking and drugging.
Affirm: I’m mourning. I’m in recovery and I’m moving forward with my life.

Loss: Five years later, I still regret not getting the help I needed to make my marriage work.
Affirm: I give myself permission to forget the past and accept life as it is today.

Loss: I have a lot of regret because I stayed in a dead end job because I was unwilling to take a risk and move on.
Affirm: I give myself permission to dream again. It’s never too late to change.




Concentrate on where you want to go in the future.

Once you have forgiven yourself you can focus on what to do next. You get to start with a fresh canvas.

Just remember that the choices you make today create your tomorrows.

Fear of failure is about the future. Remind yourself that you are good enough. You are trustworthy. You are okay.

Answer the following questions. Don’t be afraid of them. You can’t get them wrong.

Who would you like to become? What do you want to create? How do you want to contribute?

Give yourself some time and space when you find yourself afraid of failing again. Give yourself a break. What’s the worst case scenario? You’ll most likely live, learn and get through it. Life will go on. It always has and it always will! 

There’s still time to join!

Unstoppable courage club

Fear is a part of life. But fear doesn’t have to run your life! 
Courage is a mindset that can be developed and acquired.

Unstoppable Courage Club is a monthly membership program designed to help you do one thing: Befriend fear and move beyond it with courage and confidence.

Here’s what you get!

Each month the focus will be on building your courage muscles.

Why monthly? The biggest reason people fail is because they try to do too much at once. You’ll learn to be consistent, focused and productive. Your courage muscles grow stronger and you become unstoppable!

January: The Courage to Feel and Act Worthy of The Good Life

February: The Courage to Focus on Your Dreams and Proceed with Abandon

March: The Courage to Take Risks and Fail

April: The Courage to Expect and Embrace Rejection

May: The Courage to Resolve Problems and Heal Relationships

June: The Courage to Become More Present and Engaged in the World

July: The Courage to Live with More Adventure, Freedom and Love

August: The Courage to Immerse Yourself Live with Uncertainty

September: The Courage to Be Vulnerable and Love No Matter What

October: The Courage to Be Yourself and Be For Yourself

November: The Courage to Quit Your Excuses and Be 100% Responsible

December: The Courage to Believe In Your Capabilities to Succeed

Lessons. You’ll get two lessons (no fluff) each month on building courage muscles and designing the life you dream of and deserve.

Courage notes.  You’ll get two weekly courage notes in your inbox that will help you shift your perspective and shine a light on your amazing future.

You’ll get a teaching video to reinforce the lessons.

Worksheets. You’ll get monthly worksheets to reinforce the lessons.

Webinars. Each month there will be a webinar on that month’s lesson with time for questions and answers.

Your private Facebook group for check-ins, support and more. Here you can share your thoughts, fears, progress, dreams and success.

I’m offering this opportunity at a ridiculously low price. You can get started on your first lesson a few minutes after you sign up.

The Unstoppable Courage Club Monthly Membership Is Only…

$20 $10/month until Jan. 28th

You can choose to cancel and leave the club at any time. Don’t allow fear to stop you from living the life you desire and deserve. With the right tools and support you can obtain unstoppable courage.

I’m here to support you all the way!

Tess Marshall M.A.

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