Comments on: When Facing Existential Loss: 6 Tips for a Bold Life

By: Halina Goldstein

Halina Goldstein — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 05:47:45 +0000

Hi Anne-Sophie, great to see you here and I’m glad you like the concept.

Your remark makes me think that Inner Avalon can also serve as a metaphor for daily renewal, not just in times of crisis… don’t you find?

Warm greetings,

Halina (author)

PS: Thanks again Tess for inviting me – you have a great audience here!

By: Anne-Sophie

Anne-Sophie — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 02:48:30 +0000

What a cool concept, Tess. I’ve never thought about stepping into my inner Avalon, but I know I’ll remember this should I ever need more help from within.

By: Halina Goldstein

Halina Goldstein — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:09:53 +0000

Thank you so much Marty – I so appreciate your feedback, your support and everything you do!

Warmly,

Halina

By: Marty Tousley (@GriefHealing)

Marty Tousley (@GriefHealing) — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:34:02 +0000

Terrific post, Halina! I’ve placed a link to your piece at the base of my own article on a similar topic: Transition after Loss: Tips for Navigating the Neutral Zone, http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2013/05/transition-after-loss-tips-for.html

By: Halina Goldstein

Halina Goldstein — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 08:32:18 +0000

Thank you dear Fran for those kind words… – and for sharing your story with us. You’re an inspiring example of where the healing journey can take us eventually!

Just like there are significant similarities there are also significant differences between divorce and widowhood, I want to acknowledge that too. And yet, as I see it reflected in countless personal stories, the essential healing process, the journey back to life and the potential offered are parallel.

And exactly as you say, Fran: What we all can do for each other is suggest and support. The ultimate guidance comes from within.

Warmly,

Halina

By: Fran Sorin

Fran Sorin — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 07:13:05 +0000

Halina -

This is the best post I have ever read on how to deal with an existential death…and how to heal.
You are an incredible wordsmith. But it is your message that strikes an authentic chord. As you and I have discussed, divorce is a kind of death. Unlike physical death, our society doesn’t talk about emotional/physical healing. Rather the focus is on ‘how to get out there again’ – financially, socially, work wise- and of course, to begin dating ASAP.

When I went through my divorce, without consciously knowing it, I mourned. I felt like a failure, I was ashamed – plus a host of other less than positive feelings. I couldn’t acknowledge my sadness and although I put up a good front, I was hurting on the inside….

Your suggestions will offer individuals affirmation on doing what their instincts may be telling them what they need.

Tess Marshall- thank you for hosting Halina – she is a gem! With gratitude-Fran

By: Halina Goldstein

Halina Goldstein — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 06:14:39 +0000

Thank you Sue and I agree totally!

It doesn’t make it any easier that our culture does not teach us how to deal with and embrace loss and impermanence. We may know about it intellectually, but few people in a partnership actively prepare for it (except financially perhaps). And that’s just the way it is… So yes, going with the flow of it, including when the flow takes you to some very difficult places is the way to go. Eventually, that same flow brings you back to life, and the love within.

All the best,

Halina

By: Halina Goldstein

Halina Goldstein — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 06:07:23 +0000

Thank you for sharing this, Sebastian. And you know, it’s not just you. It’s fairly common, and even more so in the personal development community. We tend to forget that self-love comes before self-improvement, and that even if there are exceptions, most healing does require time, like all life does…

Warm greetings -

Halina

By: Sue | London Life Coach

Sue | London Life Coach — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 06:03:56 +0000

Hearing about inner Avalon is very interesting. Thanks for sharing Halina. Nothing is permanent in this life. But this reality can be very difficult to accept when we lose someone or something that we dear the most. But no what Halina said, stop resisting. Go with the flow and move on.

By: Sebastian Aiden Daniels

Sebastian Aiden Daniels — Mon, 17 Jun 2013 22:53:30 +0000

I like that you suggest to take time to heal from wounds after something happens. I know I use to think I had to be healed right away or something was wrong with me after something happened. I realize now that isn’t the case. I enjoyed reading the post.