I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today. ~William Allen White
This is a guest post from my good friend Paige Burkes of Simple Mindfulness.
Imagine this scenario:
After looking for a job for over nine months and getting down to the last few dollars of your savings, you finally find a “good job.” Only it’s a two hour drive from your home and commuting is out of the question. So you reluctantly get an apartment close to the office.
You can’t stand the thought of being away from your spouse and two small children all week but you see no alternatives.
Every Sunday night you leave home with tears in your eyes, saying good-bye to the family that you love. Your marriage already had a few cracks and this situation is only adding stress and distance between you.
And, for good measure: You’re six months pregnant.
The job seems to be going well as you get positive feedback from your boss.
Three months later you’re home with a brand new baby. You’ve agreed on the standard three month maternity leave with your boss.
There you are in bed with your new baby next to you and your laptop on your lap, working and stressing about how to keep things together while you’re not in the office.
One month into the maternity leave, your boss calls and says you must be back in the office in two weeks. You’re shocked to have to cut your maternity leave in half but you reluctantly agree.
On Thursday of your first week back in the office, your boss calls you into his office and tells you that you’re no longer needed. Your position has been eliminated. There’s no severance. You’re handed a check for your services through that day. End of story.
What the ?&*%$#! Shocked. Bewildered. What do I do now?!?!?!?
That was me two years ago. Swimming in fear.
- Scared that I wouldn’t be able to find another job.
- Scared that we wouldn’t be able to pay the mortgage and would lose our home.
- Scared that we wouldn’t be able to pay for food to feed our family.
Do Something – Anything
What did I do?
After taking a couple days to get over the shock and fully assess my current situation, I humbled myself and quickly got another job that paid about a third of what the previous one paid. This was a job that my ego wouldn’t have allowed me to previously consider. At this point, I didn’t have too many choices. Something was better than nothing.
At first I was angry that I had to lower myself to this kind of job for which I was incredibly over-qualified. I was angry at my previous boss. I was angry about my financial situation. I was an angry person.
Let Go To See the Beauty Around You
But one day I decided to let all the anger go. I realized that it was ripping me up and it was ripping my family up and it wasn’t going to help anything.
As I let the anger go, I started to feel so grateful for my current situation.
I was grateful that my old boss had fired me and released me from the pain of being so far from my family
I was grateful to have a job so close to home.
I was grateful that I had a low stress job that didn’t demand a lot of my time.
I was grateful that I now had time to consider what I really wanted to do with my life and actually do something about it.
I was grateful that my husband stuck with me through all this and was working with me to improve our marriage.
I was grateful to see my three beautiful children every day.
I was grateful to have choices.
This wasn’t the first time I had been through such a tough situation and I wouldn’t wish something like this on anyone. But the more of them I experience, the stronger and more resilient I become.
I know that the bad times will pass and great things lie just over the horizon.
I have faith that everything will be OK.
Please share your thoughts below!