Comments on: How to Be Wrong: A True Confession

By: Imogen

Imogen — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 15:07:31 +0000

Great article. I wonder though, despite our reluctance to apologize perhaps it is still in some way “too easy”.

Apologies are sometimes thrown out as a way of avoiding really empathic connection. I prefer expressing regret.

This is part of awareness I came from listening to Marshall Rosenberg, a great peace maker. I talk more about his insights in my blog.

By: Noel

Noel — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 01:31:23 +0000

Hi Tess, sometimes it’s very hard to apologize especially when you think he’s wrong. I used to get miserable and upset whenever I’m in an argument. But now I try to remind myself of two things – “don’t judge” and “communicate”. As Mother Teresa said: “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” You even missed the big picture and the reason of the fight when you judge. Instead, try to talk and get to know each other more. That makes everyone feels better.

By: Rose Byrd

Rose Byrd — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 19:38:47 +0000

Tess, living WITHOUT fear and living WITH peace is just the answer for these types of going-nowhere conflicts. We are VERY WORTHY HUMAN BEINGS EVEN WHEN WE ARE WRONG! We need not fear BEING WRONG! Wonderful post that will carry me quite well back into my church family this evening when we have our famiy night meal and Bible Study. It is in those groups that I have the most difficulty maintaining inner peace! I have a new bit of inner peace just openly acknowledging this.

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 15:09:32 +0000

Enjoyed your post. Thanks for your willingness to share your story. I loved the line about our own ability to give up our peace to be right. Now, that’s just plain wrong.

By: Don Cea

Don Cea — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 14:00:50 +0000

This is a great post….truly simple but profound. We all struggle with this issue. Some more than others. I know this has been the biggest, toughest issue I deal with. I’m working hard to make my internal changes – in order to bring more peace and happiness in to my life. Thanks for sharing.

By: Lisa at Practically Intuitive

Lisa at Practically Intuitive — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:43:13 +0000

Hi Tess,

Taking 100% responsibility is so important and so hard to do! I like to put myself in victim mode with the hubs too – in fact, your inner conversation sounded a lot like the ones I have. I own the fact that I do this and actively seek to change it. (a work in progress for sure!)

Love your thought :”If I am not at peace, I need to correct my behavior.” – Yes. It’s the ONLY thing I have complete control over.

Great post – thank you for sharing!

By: Jen Gresham

Jen Gresham — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:17:28 +0000

One of the greatest joys and sources of pride for me is admitting to my daughter that I was wrong, that my behavior was uncalled for and based largely on my lack of sleep or the fact I am worried about something else. I try very hard to be the parent I want to be, but there are simply days I don’t manage it. My daughter has the same perfectionist, over-achiever tendencies that tend to trip me up. I think saying I’m sorry and showing her I’m sometimes wrong is the best way I can help her navigate life with happiness.

Thanks for the great post, Tess!

By: Fran Sorin

Fran Sorin — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 10:00:51 +0000

Tess…
I’ve been there many times before. Even if you prove your point, it still isn’t satisfying.
That you’re able to see it what for it is even after the fact is a testament to the work that you’ve done on yourself. Thanks for sharing.

By: Tess

Tess — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 15:27:30 +0000

Paige,
Yes I understand that and you don’t need to be around that. That said, he’s coming from a very fearful place. It’s a call for love and you can choose to love him from a distance which I’m sure you do.

By: Tess

Tess — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 15:26:09 +0000

Yes becoming aware is always first. However next is the action step of changing and becoming a better and bigger person. Most people I know mess up from time to time. The difference is when you know better it’s impossible to fall back and stay back!