Comments on: How to Give Yourself a Second Chance

By: Megan Bord

Megan Bord — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 11:47:30 +0000

Tess, another list that I love (with you, it’s easy!). Modeling after others has been a saving grace for me in some ways – or finding really good role models via podcasts, books, etc. When I don’t know “how” to do something, it helps to see how someone else who’s been successful tackled the same issue.

Forgiveness is also key. I found a subliminal track on forgiveness (set to ocean waves) that’s helped me in miraculous ways. It’s gotten down beneath the surface of my conscious mind and allowed me to forgive people I didn’t think I ever could. How do I know I’d forgiven them if they were subconsciously buried? Because I’d have dreams in which we made peace, and I’d wake up feeling light a burden had been removed from my shoulders, heart and head.

Loving you! And grateful for your guidance.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 21:06:30 +0000

Greta message that resonates not only in tragedy but also during times of burn-out.

By: KenWert@MeanttobeHappy

KenWert@MeanttobeHappy — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 19:39:04 +0000

This is AWESOME Tess!

Loved every one of your tips. But oddly, the one that stands out the most to me (perhaps because it’s so rarely commented on compared to the other tips you gave), is journal writing. There is something profoundly therapeutic to writing down our thoughts and feelings.

So many walk through life carrying old burdens that weigh them down, that act to rob life of so much more joy and peace.

Thanks for all the great advice for getting out from under the smothering affect of the burdens we otherwise carry, Tess!

By: winsomebella

winsomebella — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 00:04:58 +0000

Funny how things work—just posted about my second chance and then I read your great post. Wish I’d had your techniques when I started my process but will keep them in mind the next go-round. Thanks.

By: Melody | Deliberate Receiving

Melody | Deliberate Receiving — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:28:01 +0000

Hi Tess,
I just had a conversations with my sister about this the other day. When a relationship ends or when someone dies, we have such a tendency to keep ourselves stuck in grief, way beyond what’s healthy. We tend to feel that if we allow ourselves to feel better, then we are dishonoring the memory of that person or relationship. If I really loved him, how can I possibly feel better, as if feeling horrible somehow honors their memory.

We’re allowed to feel any way we want to feel: good, bad, angry, happy. It’s all ok. And when something happens that knocks us for a loop, we are allowed to feel good again. We deserve it.

Thank you for this post.

Huge hugs,
Melody

By: Joe Wilner

Joe Wilner — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:54:10 +0000

Hi Tess,
A wonderfully inspiring post! I have learned that change is inevitable and with this comes many life transitions. With every transition we have challenges, though we also have opportunity. It helps me to not get consumed with the challenges that I know are to come and to also shift my focus to the opportunities that will be available. This really helps me set clear goals, make decisions, and manage transitions.

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:21:10 +0000

Jen,
Freedom is taking as many chances as you want to get it right, Jen. Yes I’m where I need to be as well. Acceptance helps;)

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:20:04 +0000

Thanks Karen!

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:19:28 +0000

Tim,
I’m sorry your project failed. There is no guarantee in life. It’s a good thing we can get back up and begin again. I’m grateful for that. Love your quote!

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:17:34 +0000

Sheila,
Who can’t relate to Linus I still love those Peanuts characters. Thanks for stopping by today.