Comments on: 5 Ways to Change When Others Make You Feel Crazy

By: Tatianna

Tatianna — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 02:17:47 +0000

That’s another lesson I learned early on in life. If we try to control others we just go crazy our selves. I’ve always said, things don’t change, you do. And with time, I learned to let go. Thank you for the beautiful post

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Sat, 02 Apr 2011 20:46:52 +0000

Yes, it’s so true with children. When I change me for the better and choose my mood and interactions with her, things go great and the love flows.

A little harder to do with “The Hubs” so I’ll have to work on that.

xoxo

By: Peggy Nolan

Peggy Nolan — Sat, 02 Apr 2011 02:09:15 +0000

I absolutely love this! When I stopped trying to change my girls, I can appreciate and see how awesome they’ve blossomed. I decided to stop talking and start listening. No matter what their dreams, I began again by telling them, “I believe in you.” These days, they are a source of inspiration!

By: Susie

Susie — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 22:52:06 +0000

Betsy.

I had to smile when I read your post as I spent most of last week with my 90-year-old father who is experiencing some dementia. Being with him reminded me that he could sense my “controlling” energy and also my “kind, encouraging” energy without uttering a single word. And he responded accordingly. I believe that no matter what the age of our family and friends when we bring certain types of energy ripe with our attachments and expectations, they sense it coming before we move a muscle or make a sound.

Thank you for reminding us to offer kindness and acceptance to our loved ones.

Warmly,
Susie

By: JennyBean

JennyBean — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 02:29:51 +0000

Betsy, I’m going to print this out and frame it. I need to read it every day.

What extraordinary advice!

By: Bryce Christiansen

Bryce Christiansen — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 15:36:54 +0000

Thanks Betsy. That’s really neat that you teach preschool. It’s good to have a job where you can help others.

You probably would like the marshmallow post. It’s about a study that was done on children to see how their self control of waiting to eat a marshmallow would relate to other behaviors up to 30 years later.

By: Marci | Liberating Choices

Marci | Liberating Choices — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 15:31:50 +0000

Betsy, Of course you can quote me

And, I know about getting overwhelming with too much information to. My speed may not be the same as others, but I’ll get there all the same…

By: sheila

sheila — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 11:34:32 +0000

Oh. been there. Realized that. )
As the mom of two teen girls and one teen boy I feel this post. The last couple months we’ve been discussing college admittance, prom, etc. OMG. It’s very hard sometimes to let it go, but it IS the best.

By: Betsy

Betsy — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 04:32:35 +0000

Hi Marci,
I do remember meeting you through Alist bloggers. I got a little overwhelmed for a few months…but am starting to get back to the Alist bloggers again. I love what you wrote in your comment: “When I truly let go of another’s problem, they are able to tackle it. When I tackle it for them, their light bulb seems to go out.”
May I quote you someday on that?
Thanks for the wonderful comment!

By: Betsy

Betsy — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 04:24:51 +0000

I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! I have to remind myself almost daily that it’s my reaction. Sometimes people think that being a Zen Parent means your letting go of responsibility but mostly it’s letting go of you negative reactions.
Thanks so much for your comment!