Comments on: Mondays are 1/7 of Your Life https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/ Sun, 12 Jun 2011 21:38:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jannie Funster https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1943 Jannie Funster Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:30:45 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1943 This post has stuck with me, doing something for the less fortunate. There is a part of me that is less fortunate than most of me, so I've been helping myself out. This post has stuck with me, doing something for the less fortunate. There is a part of me that is less fortunate than most of me, so I’ve been helping myself out.

]]> By: Paul Maurice Martin https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1890 Paul Maurice Martin Sun, 23 Aug 2009 17:04:31 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1890 I actually don't know who I made an impact on long term. That's one thing about being an elementary school counselor - you're left wondering about quite a few people! I actually don’t know who I made an impact on long term. That’s one thing about being an elementary school counselor – you’re left wondering about quite a few people!

]]> By: Joy https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1888 Joy Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:19:50 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1888 I was married for 10 years; in my tenth year we separated. I had been a stay at home mom of my two children then ages 5&7. I was in a huge transitional period--trying to figure out how to buffer my children from the obvious changes that were being made in our lives, having to find work then figuring out daycare and how to best transition my children, trying to heal and grow and step forward from this experience. I have a strong faith, but these steps at times seemed very uphill. I have lots of friends, but they had their own lives which left me pretty much alone in this climb. I began a job at a local cafe at the harbor. In walked who I now call my "sailing friend". Walked right up to me, began telling me his story, and that began a friendship that saw me through such huge transition. He would come in daily, and talk for hours-- about himself, his life, his hopes, dreams, passions. I wouldn't say much, would just listen; for two reasons. The first, I loved listening about his world it all fascinated me, and two because I was depressed and broken and not at all wanting to share what was in my life. Odd for him because he is actually quite introverted and private. Odd for me because I am extroverted and open. In that first year, he didn't judge, he didn't pry, he just talked. And helped me to see a world outside of the hurt I was in. He had huge faith and helped to remind me of mine. He was witty and made me laugh; when I cried he would sit with me. He had been through his own crisis, far worse than mine, and the fact that he "survived" and had dreams and shared it all with me was something that gave me hope and kept me moving forward. All of my life I've enjoyed sailing; as a passenger. He taught sailing, and when the time was right, he told me he would teach me. He has quite a local reputation for being an excellent sailor, so I knew he would teach me beyond what anyone else could. I didn't want to learn, didn't think I was capable, but he taught me. And then gave me amazing sailing opportunities. It was where I could be myself, find peace, soothe my soul...all of it on the ocean. And gave me great confidence in all other areas of my life. Great hope. All of my life I wanted to live on a boat. My then husband told me you cannot raise a family on a boat. Two years after leaving my house--the very month that my lease was up on my apartment--my sailing friend found a boat for me to buy. And encouraged me to go for it--to live out my dream. He helped me to heal and grow and learn, to dream, then to live out that dream. That first year of living on the boat was a tough transition for me--there was lots to learn mechanically, lots to learn in general, lots to literally "let go" of. When I would get frustrated or disillusioned he would show up and somehow fix it. He would give me tips, he would get me sailing. He would show me beautiful places in nature to give me motivation. That is what he did--he met me when I was heavy in weight, disillusioned in life, low in spirit, and he shared time, energy, emotion--made me feel beautiful, have faith, heal, grow, learn, dream, then realize that dream. What I did for him was to be one of the only people in his life to truly know him. It took him a few years, but eventually he opened up and showed me his true self--the one he hides from everyone because he is ashamed. Along the way he told me his fears and I helped him to move past some of them. There are some parts I cannot heal, but he opened up enough to let me try. The biggest thing I did for him was after knowing him the first year he needed a huge amount of money to help him through a situation. I was struggling, but I gave him the money--to essentially give him freedom from his situation, to live the life he wanted to live. More than the money, I stood next to him as he worked through it all, provided encouragement, support, acutally literally helped him get through a day if it was difficult--all while raising my children, healing myself, doing what I needed to in my life. It was draining and difficult but I did it, because he "breathed life" into me when I needed it most, without asking for anything in return--he helped me and believed in me in the moments I was unable to help or believe in myself. Although his situation was extraordinary in stress and drama, I did the same for him; and I stood next to him when no one else could or would. I did it in genuine faith. We are no longer close. He has issues that can't be touched. There was a lot of hurt. But every day I am on my boat, I thank God for the experience; I am living a dream, and it is because of my sailing friend. And my sailing friend is living, and that is because of me. Thank you. I was married for 10 years; in my tenth year we separated. I had been a stay at home mom of my two children then ages 5&7. I was in a huge transitional period–trying to figure out how to buffer my children from the obvious changes that were being made in our lives, having to find work then figuring out daycare and how to best transition my children, trying to heal and grow and step forward from this experience. I have a strong faith, but these steps at times seemed very uphill. I have lots of friends, but they had their own lives which left me pretty much alone in this climb.

I began a job at a local cafe at the harbor. In walked who I now call my “sailing friend”. Walked right up to me, began telling me his story, and that began a friendship that saw me through such huge transition. He would come in daily, and talk for hours– about himself, his life, his hopes, dreams, passions. I wouldn’t say much, would just listen; for two reasons. The first, I loved listening about his world it all fascinated me, and two because I was depressed and broken and not at all wanting to share what was in my life. Odd for him because he is actually quite introverted and private. Odd for me because I am extroverted and open.

In that first year, he didn’t judge, he didn’t pry, he just talked. And helped me to see a world outside of the hurt I was in. He had huge faith and helped to remind me of mine. He was witty and made me laugh; when I cried he would sit with me. He had been through his own crisis, far worse than mine, and the fact that he “survived” and had dreams and shared it all with me was something that gave me hope and kept me moving forward.

All of my life I’ve enjoyed sailing; as a passenger. He taught sailing, and when the time was right, he told me he would teach me. He has quite a local reputation for being an excellent sailor, so I knew he would teach me beyond what anyone else could. I didn’t want to learn, didn’t think I was capable, but he taught me. And then gave me amazing sailing opportunities. It was where I could be myself, find peace, soothe my soul…all of it on the ocean. And gave me great confidence in all other areas of my life. Great hope.

All of my life I wanted to live on a boat. My then husband told me you cannot raise a family on a boat. Two years after leaving my house–the very month that my lease was up on my apartment–my sailing friend found a boat for me to buy. And encouraged me to go for it–to live out my dream. He helped me to heal and grow and learn, to dream, then to live out that dream. That first year of living on the boat was a tough transition for me–there was lots to learn mechanically, lots to learn in general, lots to literally “let go” of. When I would get frustrated or disillusioned he would show up and somehow fix it. He would give me tips, he would get me sailing. He would show me beautiful places in nature to give me motivation. That is what he did–he met me when I was heavy in weight, disillusioned in life, low in spirit, and he shared time, energy, emotion–made me feel beautiful, have faith, heal, grow, learn, dream, then realize that dream.

What I did for him was to be one of the only people in his life to truly know him. It took him a few years, but eventually he opened up and showed me his true self–the one he hides from everyone because he is ashamed. Along the way he told me his fears and I helped him to move past some of them. There are some parts I cannot heal, but he opened up enough to let me try.

The biggest thing I did for him was after knowing him the first year he needed a huge amount of money to help him through a situation. I was struggling, but I gave him the money–to essentially give him freedom from his situation, to live the life he wanted to live. More than the money, I stood next to him as he worked through it all, provided encouragement, support, acutally literally helped him get through a day if it was difficult–all while raising my children, healing myself, doing what I needed to in my life. It was draining and difficult but I did it, because he “breathed life” into me when I needed it most, without asking for anything in return–he helped me and believed in me in the moments I was unable to help or believe in myself. Although his situation was extraordinary in stress and drama, I did the same for him; and I stood next to him when no one else could or would. I did it in genuine faith.

We are no longer close. He has issues that can’t be touched. There was a lot of hurt. But every day I am on my boat, I thank God for the experience; I am living a dream, and it is because of my sailing friend. And my sailing friend is living, and that is because of me.

Thank you.

]]> By: jonathan figaro https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1885 jonathan figaro Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:42:38 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1885 Offering service to someone who is less fortunate can benefit an individual immensely. It reduces stress, it creates a positive mind set, build character , confidence, high self esteem, you name it. Lowering our defense shields , can allows us to provide for those who cannot. Helping an individual who is less fortunate is an obligation as a human being yourself. We all have the same emotions for the most part. So knowing this, ask yourself: How does this person feel being homeless and alone? How would i feel if we trades places? Then do what on to others, like you want them to do unto you! So here a tip. Today go out an do something nice for someone who int as luck as you. Buy a homeless person a plate of food, give him or her some money or even old clothes that you know will fit the individual. Just offer them a hand an believe you will be blessed! Offering service to someone who is less fortunate can benefit an individual immensely. It reduces stress, it creates a positive mind set, build character , confidence, high self esteem, you name it. Lowering our defense shields , can allows us to provide for those who cannot.
Helping an individual who is less fortunate is an obligation as a human being yourself. We all have the same emotions for the most part. So knowing this, ask yourself: How does this person feel being homeless and alone? How would i feel if we trades places?

Then do what on to others, like you want them to do unto you!

So here a tip.
Today go out an do something nice for someone who int as luck as you. Buy a homeless person a plate of food, give him or her some money or even old clothes that you know will fit the individual. Just offer them a hand an believe you will be blessed!

]]> By: John https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1884 John Sat, 22 Aug 2009 02:17:40 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1884 The story above was really well told. Kudos to Caity and Sara. In regards to your questions, I've been thinking long and hard about them. Who have I made an impact on... who have I mentored in the past...who's made an impact on me... 1. Whether it's negative or positive, no doubt that I've impacted SOMEBODY. 2. We had a mentoring program in our high school and I was assigned to one kid. I didn't really help him much though... I only talked to him one time about how you should live life (not trying to be like everyone else and follow your own path). After that, I never spoke him again. Yeah, I was a real nice guy... I wonder how he is - maybe he didn't even listen to me. 3. All of the people I've met since college began. They restored the confidence I lost during high school. I feel like I can take control of my life now. And the bloggers and people I've interacted with online (including you Tess) have inspired me to take action. To put forth effort to shape my reality the way I want it. Oh and don't worry about my comment too much - I don't drink coffee :) The story above was really well told. Kudos to Caity and Sara.

In regards to your questions, I’ve been thinking long and hard about them. Who have I made an impact on… who have I mentored in the past…who’s made an impact on me…

1. Whether it’s negative or positive, no doubt that I’ve impacted SOMEBODY.
2. We had a mentoring program in our high school and I was assigned to one kid. I didn’t really help him much though… I only talked to him one time about how you should live life (not trying to be like everyone else and follow your own path). After that, I never spoke him again. Yeah, I was a real nice guy… I wonder how he is – maybe he didn’t even listen to me.
3. All of the people I’ve met since college began. They restored the confidence I lost during high school. I feel like I can take control of my life now. And the bloggers and people I’ve interacted with online (including you Tess) have inspired me to take action. To put forth effort to shape my reality the way I want it.

Oh and don’t worry about my comment too much – I don’t drink coffee :)

]]> By: Tess The Bold Life https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1882 Tess The Bold Life Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:18:14 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1882 Daphne We only need a little willingness and an open heart to help someone else. It's amazing the impact we can have on another's life. Megan I love these stories as well. And as a speaker have a million stored in my memory. This was one of my favorites. Hillary, In fact we can't help helping ourselves when we do it for someone else. I love Patricia Heaton as both a professional on and off the screen. Hillary, Yes indeed. I appreciate the knowledge you share with all of us on your blog. I learn from your blog each time I visit and for this I'm thankful! Lance, That's exactly how families like ours do so well, with a little help from our friends. I've always been amazed at scout leaders and how generous they are with their time. Lance this doesn't suprise me about you. You're the sweeheart of the USA on and off line. Robin, The fact is it effects not only two people but all people in one way or another! Davina, Yes my friend and I know you've impacted many even in the blogosphere including me with your joy and wisdom! Stacey, You are a wonderful example to all. I'm not surprised that you've been in this program spreading your love around. Keith, I'm thinking you know this because you do this. It's wonderful knowing we're all doing this touching others and helping ourselves in many wonderful ways in the process. Janice, Who doesn't like another rerun of the show. We laugh out loud even at those. All married couples can relate. And I know you're another example of giving to others! Patricia, People like you give hope to the hopeless. You make the world go 'round in a wonderful way! Wilma, Yes my mother taught me this through her love and action. And growing up on the farm we were always in nature. Abundant living at it's best! Avanti, Yes and we are so blessed for knowing and taking action. Thanks for stopping by my blog! Daphne
We only need a little willingness and an open heart to help someone else. It’s amazing the impact we can have on another’s life.

Megan
I love these stories as well. And as a speaker have a million stored in my memory. This was one of my favorites.

Hillary,
In fact we can’t help helping ourselves when we do it for someone else.
I love Patricia Heaton as both a professional on and off the screen.

Hillary,
Yes indeed. I appreciate the knowledge you share with all of us on your blog. I learn from your blog each time I visit and for this I’m thankful!

Lance,
That’s exactly how families like ours do so well, with a little help from our friends. I’ve always been amazed at scout leaders and how generous they are with their time. Lance this doesn’t suprise me about you. You’re the sweeheart of the USA on and off line.
Robin,

The fact is it effects not only two people but all people in one way or another!

Davina,
Yes my friend and I know you’ve impacted many even in the blogosphere including me with your joy and wisdom!

Stacey,
You are a wonderful example to all. I’m not surprised that you’ve been in this program spreading your love around.

Keith,
I’m thinking you know this because you do this. It’s wonderful knowing we’re all doing this touching others and helping ourselves in many wonderful ways in the process.

Janice,
Who doesn’t like another rerun of the show. We laugh out loud even at those. All married couples can relate. And I know you’re another example of giving to others!

Patricia,
People like you give hope to the hopeless. You make the world go ’round in a wonderful way!

Wilma,
Yes my mother taught me this through her love and action. And growing up on the farm we were always in nature. Abundant living at it’s best!

Avanti,
Yes and we are so blessed for knowing and taking action. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

]]> By: Avani Mehta https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1881 Avani Mehta Wed, 19 Aug 2009 18:26:19 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1881 Wow, that's a beautiful story. I really like true stories - especially like these ones - they speak to your heart. Even when there is nothing we can do for ourselves, we have it in us to do something for others ... “When times get tough and you’re feeling sorry for yourself, do something good for someone less fortunate.” - what a empowering message! Wow, that’s a beautiful story. I really like true stories – especially like these ones – they speak to your heart. Even when there is nothing we can do for ourselves, we have it in us to do something for others …

“When times get tough and you’re feeling sorry for yourself, do something good for someone less fortunate.” – what a empowering message!

]]> By: Wilma Ham https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1880 Wilma Ham Wed, 19 Aug 2009 05:13:11 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1880 Ever since I have come across the words 'to live is to be love in action' I can see more and more 'proof' of how valuable those words are. When you are love in action, you harvest the love that you have sewed and you never know where you will harvest, because you actually sew everywhere and are no longer counting or watching. You will find abundance everywhere, just like nature grows abundantly. What a heart warming story. Ever since I have come across the words ‘to live is to be love in action’ I can see more and more ‘proof’ of how valuable those words are.
When you are love in action, you harvest the love that you have sewed and you never know where you will harvest, because you actually sew everywhere and are no longer counting or watching. You will find abundance everywhere, just like nature grows abundantly.
What a heart warming story.

]]> By: Patricia https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1879 Patricia Wed, 19 Aug 2009 02:48:47 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1879 Loved the story Tess and thank YOU for sharing it with us. I believe there is a reciprocity to life and living and it just makes sense to do your best, be kind, and look out for opportunities to be helpful and generous. My daughter got angry at me for giving my last dollar to a begging young fellow in the park who wanted money for the shelter. I did not need to believe him, I just did it and wished him well. I gave all my change on the airplane to UNICEF in the provided envelopes -a British Airways opportunity - People are in need and there is always room for one more... Thank you for this post - I appreciate your gifts. Loved the story Tess and thank YOU for sharing it with us.
I believe there is a reciprocity to life and living and it just makes sense to do your best, be kind, and look out for opportunities to be helpful and generous.

My daughter got angry at me for giving my last dollar to a begging young fellow in the park who wanted money for the shelter. I did not need to believe him, I just did it and wished him well.

I gave all my change on the airplane to UNICEF in the provided envelopes -a British Airways opportunity –
People are in need and there is always room for one more…

Thank you for this post – I appreciate your gifts.

]]> By: Mark https://theboldlife.com/2009/08/mondays-are-17-of-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-1877 Mark Wed, 19 Aug 2009 00:17:42 +0000 https://theboldlife.com/?p=1242#comment-1877 Great story! We impact lives everyday, the choice of what are impact will be is ours. Great story! We impact lives everyday, the choice of what are impact will be is ours.

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