Comments on: Have you dealt with your shadow?

By: epsicron

epsicron — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 01:10:40 +0000

I would recommend anybody on the road to shadow(and/or anima/animus) integration to listen to the band Tool, most of their songs portray this journey of self-awareness in a great artistic manner that I have yet to find on any other band, the song Forty-Six & 2, in particular, discusses the shadow aspect of our selves and its subsequent integration, cheers and good luck on this great journey.

Oskar

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 13:49:28 +0000

Tess, I’m sorry to be so slow in making my reading rounds… You’ve written SUCH an important post! Thank you for being so candid; it helps illustrate the point. What I’ve learned about mirroring, shadows, and the internal work is that it’s the single largest point of personal change I have “discovered,” and as I continue (and continue and continue… I must have lots of shadows!) to experiment with seeing the shadows far more quickly than before, I find that peace settles within far more rapidly than I ever thought possible. It’s worth the effort!

By: Stacey Shipman

Stacey Shipman — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 10:39:21 +0000

I haven’t heard it called a shadow side, but I absolutely get what you’re talking about. I’ve done a lot of personal work on just this (though, not calling it that) and when I realized it was about me and not “them” that was really challenging at first (blame is easy), but then became incredibly powerful and freeing. It also enabled me to have a lot more compassion towards others and what they might be experiencing.

The work is never done, there is always something to be aware of, it’s a cycle we go through, learning every step along the way.

By: Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK

Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 04:28:45 +0000

There are many times when we can learn a lot from our shadows than from our bright sides. This is because almost all of us are already aware of our strengths whereas we all shy away from our weaknesses or traits that aren’t really clear to us. Facing them with courage enables us to really accept our whole self, not just the side we want to present to other people. In truth, by dealing with our shadows, we become more strengthened as we can turn even the traits we are afraid of into gifts.

By: Giovanna Garcia

Giovanna Garcia — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 18:57:28 +0000

Hi Tess,
This is one of your best post! I really love this one!
We have to look deep within the whole true about ourselves, not just what we wish we are.
Great job, I stumbled it so more people can be inspire by the shadow work.
Thanks for sharing.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

By: Tess

Tess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 16:08:28 +0000

Bunny blog,
Thanks so much and welcome. I checked out your blog and Eleanor Roosevelt is my heroine! Was she a strong woman or what?

Barbara,
Oh that is so easy to remember and it’s so true! I like to keep my words soft and sweet and put the rest in my journal!

By: Hilary

Hilary — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 08:51:45 +0000

Hi Tess .. thanks for that – I’m not sure I’d of heard of it before – but it makes absolute sense .. and Barbara’s comments about one finger out , but three back is really good .. similar to the listen, rather than speak!

I’ll be looking into it and bearing what you’ve said in mind – thanks .. something I need to address -

all the best
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 07:07:45 +0000

Hi Tess,

The Shadow Side reminds me of a saying someone said (and I don’t know who to give the credit to), “when we point a finger at someone else, we have three fingers pointing back at us”. That has stuck with me and every time I begin to describe someone or complain about what irks me about them, I stop and realize I’m seeing my own traits in them and am reminded my “work” is not done. In fact, will it ever be done?

Powerful stuff, Tess. Thank you for sharing.

By: Bunnygotblog

Bunnygotblog — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:00:50 +0000

I love your blog and admire your strengths. I will be back for more !!!

By: Tess

Tess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:06:02 +0000

Hi Bunny got blog,

You’re not the first person who said this and I understand. I finally got this when after grad school I went to Tuscon AZ. for a workshop in experiential therapy. Of course we were had to work on our own stuff and the therapist with my group said “if you spot it you got it.” Click for me to too, never forgot it!