Don't Hold Grudges-Do you play reruns in your mind of what someone did to you in the past? Hanging on to past issues causes you to feel frustrated, doubtful and suspicious. Holding grudges leaves no room to feel or be loving. Often times we have high expectations of the people we love. Remember everyone is human. ... [Read more]
Don’t Hold Grudges-Do you play reruns in your mind of what someone did to you in the past? Hanging on to past issues causes you to feel frustrated, doubtful and suspicious. Holding grudges leaves no room to feel or be loving. Often times we have high expectations of the people we love. Remember everyone is human. Everyone makes mistakes, we all do dumb things and make bad judgments. Refuse to turn small issues into major drama.
Refuse To Keep Score. Focus on what family and friends do right instead of what they do wrong or not at all. Relationships are never fifty-fifty. Think of the soilders coming home from war without limbs. Their caretakers will need to give more physical energy than they get. The best way to improve your relationships is complement and focus on what the other person is doing right. What you focus on expands.
Know What’s Important In Life. Stop all conflict over mundane tasks. Be the first to volunteer to do unexpected jobs that come up. Be the first to apologize. Go the extra mile.
Laugh At Your Mistakes. Learn from your mistakes but be light hearted. It will keep you calm, kind and happy.
Let Go Of Bad Moods. Take a time out. Go for a walk. Have a change of heart. Realize we are all doing the best we know how to do.
When In Doubt, Don’t Speak. Don’t overreact or act on impulse. Instead of voicing your annoyances, irritation and frustration with one another keep quiet. Learn to bite your tongue. Let the other person have the last word. You won’t have to worry about apologizing.
Raise Your Standard of Living. Take your relationships up a notch. Integrity, honesty, compassion, a willingness to forgive other like qualities reveals the kind of person you are.
Happy or Right? You will never agree about everything with anyone. Often times we use time and energy proving ourselves right and the other wrong. We give up our happiness to be right about the most ridiculous things. Choose happiness.
Let Go Of The Top Three Things That Bug You. Learn to ignore the quirks and habits. Let go of the small stuff. Allow them to die from lack of attention. You’ve given them too much importance. You’ve allowed them to take away your peace of mind. One of the things that bugged me about my husband in the past was he left his shoes everywhere. Today I pick up his shoes and I’m grateful he’s in my life and I have the opportunity to do so.
Look In The Mirror. It’s easy to blame someone else for everything that goes wrong. Normally when we attack someone else it’s really ourselves we’re angry with.
Don’t Give It So Much Meaning. If someone forgets your birthday, when somone doesn’t return your call, when someone fails to live up to your expectations…drop it. Stop dwelling on it. You get to decide if you are going to make this a major issue or let it go!
Accept Apologies. Both offering and accepting apologies is necessary in any relationship. Apologizing is opening a door. Not accepting it is closing it. When you can give and receiving apologies allows for deeper more loving relationships.
Choose To Be Supportive. Refuse to put people down. Refuse to talk negatively about others when they aren’t present. Learn to bring others and yourself up. We never know what someone else is going through. Be gentle with others.
Become More Agreeable. Being stubborn causes us to blame, refuse to let go of an issue, or admit we are wrong. Take your relationships to the next level and practice being considerate instead of stubborn.
Look For The Love. Everyone needs and wants to be loved. Look for the love. Focus on love. Then act in a loving manner. When you give love you will receive love.
Work Together In Harmony. Have a genuine intention of helping each other. For the first 25 years of our marriage we always did the work others hired out. We painted together, laid tiles, did our own yardwork and never hired a caterer for a party. When something was wrong we fixed it ourselves. We simply didn’t have the money to pay someone else to do it. The gift we gained is we work well together.
Forgive. People who do have less stress, cancer and other illnesses. Forgiving doesn’t erase the pain. But you don’t have to allow your hurt to control you. Work through the issues and forgive for good.
Seek out help and support if necessary.
Thing Well Of Yourself. Learn that you are worthy of the best self care. Give yourself credit for what you do right and the wonderful person you are. Give yourself positive messages. What would your life look like if you saw yourself as happy, successful and kind?
Master Simple Living. Possessions won’t make you happy. More money won’t make you happy. Even the very wealthy feel they never have enough. Stop unnecessary aquisition. Become clear about your priorities and purpose and let go of whatever doesn’t support these.
Simplify Your Self Care. There are thousands of products on the market that make false promises. Don’t buy into them. Find a few things that work for you and stick with them. Take yourself out of the herd. Say no to things you don’t want to do and people you don’t want to be with. Learn to politely decline. Don’t take on other peoples feelings.