Do you feel like you’re overwhelmed, drowning or being buried alive? Do you know anyone today that doesn’t feel this way? Anyone? Neither do I! Well okay, maybe the neighbor’s dog!
We’ve lost the ability to feel consistently calm and relaxed.
We only have ourselves to blame.
There are more cell phones than people in our world and we’ve convinced ourselves that we have to be connected at all times.
We have a false sense of self-importance as we bring our phones into restaurants, movie theaters and even restrooms and bedrooms. We’re willing to risk killing each other in order to send and receive texts while driving.
We’ve convinced ourselves that there is not enough time in the day.
We are losing our ability to pay attention.
We are in touch with Facebook friends and out of touch with the most beloved people in our lives.
We are a culture out of control. We are addicted to a false sense of importance and connection. We are addicts. We have become slaves to technology.
Overwhelm is an illusion.
It’s a story that we tell ourselves. It’s an excuse. It allows us to be victims; we don’t have to change. We tell ourselves stories of overwhelm in order to continue our bad behavior. It lets us all off the hook.
If you are tired of the roller coaster ride, if your world is spinning out of control, and if you want to feel less overwhelmed, here’s what you can do.
Do it for 24 hours, once a week. Fast from your computer. Don’t return email. Turn off your phone. It CAN wait. Turn off your television. You can watch it tomorrow. Give up the idea that you have to be connected 24/7. Take control of your availability and your life.
Create face-to-face and skin-to-skin time with your family and friends, sans technology.
No technology can ever replace the quality and uninterrupted time you spend with those you love. When you’re truly present, miracles happen. Love and connection change who we are as people at a cellular level. Replace overwhelm and work with love.
Know the difference between urgent and important.
The thing that needs your immediate attention and action is what’s urgent. Do it in the morning when you have the most energy. Completely forget about what’s important until everything that is urgent is finished.
Do nothing. Stop the doing, doing, doing.
Stop planning every moment of your time. Constant busyness feeds your ego and narcissistic tendencies. Let go of chaos. Get comfortable with peace.
Create time for meditation.
There are an unlimited number of ways to meditate. You can listen to a guided meditation, focus on a mantra, an object or your breathing. Choose something that resonates with you. Begin with three to five minutes a day. Increase your time in five minute increments, up to 20 minutes.
We’ve forgotten how to connect with our higher selves, a Higher Power or God. Connect with a power greater than yourself. Connect with yourself. We are sacred beings. It takes quiet time, so create it. It will not only change your day, it will change your life.
Find someone to serve. Give of your time, talent and money. Do things for people who cannot pay you back. Go out of your way to visit the elderly. Teach a child to read. We’ve forgotten what’s important. It’s time to remember.
Practice deep breathing.
Breathe in very slowly. Take in more oxygen. Breathe out very slowly. Release tension. Focus on your breath and you’ll feel less stress and overwhelm, and more calm and peace. You can’t go wrong.
Take a mental break.
Walk away from your desk or work. Mentally bring up past memories of good times. Revel in a happy place. Get into the feeling. Bring the feeling back to your work.
Do a worry dump.
Write down your negative thoughts and worries. As you empty your mind, your mind calms down. There’s a release that comes from putting it on paper. When you realize that most of what bothers you is unimportant, out of your control or will never happen, you’ll feel an instant relief.
Shift your perspective. Be willing to see things differently. We forget that we can’t see the whole picture. We don’t know what anything is for. We don’t have all of the answers. Life’s a mystery.
Get a mantra.
A mantra is a statement that is repeated frequently in order to center yourself. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. All is well. Release and relax. Oh well, so what. Repeat your mantra when you’re feeling overwhelmed, when your thoughts are out of control.
Focus on right now.
There is no past or present. Anytime you feel overwhelmed, bring yourself into the present moment and focus only on the task at hand. Then move on to the next. Do one thing at a time. Life happens moment by moment. That’s it.
Take a walk in nature.
Escape the stressful situation. Blow off steam. Clear your head. Reframe the situation and relax. You’ll get a natural high from released endorphins. Nature is healing. Nature teaches us that no matter what, life goes on.
Overwhelm is a choice. It has become a lifestyle. Remember you have the freedom to change. You don’t have to live in overwhelm. Ever.
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