Guest post by Megan Bord
I believe in manifesting. I believe that what we think about each day draws to us the people, things and experiences of our lives. I believe that everything we see in our lives right now is the result of something we've thought.
We happen to life, not the other way around. This frame of mind is rewarding when we like what we see in life, isn't it? We can congratulate ourselves on a job well done and give thanks to the Universe so as to draw more of it to us.
What happens, though,when we don't like what we see? What then?
That happened to me not too long ago. After years of hit and miss relationships, I decided it was time to manifest a forever scenario. So I did. I lined my thoughts up behind the notion that I deserved it, was ready, and for heaven's sake, "…bring it to me already,
Universe!!!" The Universe, as I've learned, is a great wish fulfiller.
So it did. It sent in someone who was also manifesting forever. The trouble was, after a short amount of time it became obvious he wasn't "the one" – not for me, anyway. To make matters worse, the shiny veneer he initially presented himself with was masking dark layers of instability and fear. BIG fear.
I learned in a hurry, from this situation, what fear looks like and how it acts in a romantic relationship. It acts like jealousy, pettiness, insecurity (concealed, in this case, by bravado), and in its worst moments, it is emotionally and mentally abusive.
I couldn't believe that I'd manifested someone like that into my life, but I took full responsibility and was able to work my way backward through the thoughts that brought it about.
See, in conjunction with wanting a forever relationship, I was also asking the Universe to move me through my own lingering fears in various areas of life.
It had been a spiritual pursuit of mine to overcome them once and for all. What I didn't realize was that the Universe saw an opportunity to deliver a "two-for-one" special: as in, a seemingly "forever relationship" and moving past fear in one fell swoop!
Once I realized I wanted out of this not-for-me relationship, things went from bad to worse. The person was living in my home and refused to leave. On top of that, I didn't have an immediate legal course of action to take. I had to evict him, which took nearly two months.
During this time, he oscillated between threatening me, bullying me, and begging for chances to change. Fear was in my face on a daily basis, so I had a choice: let fear win, or remember everything I've learned about manifesting and overcoming fear, and be the one who triumphed.
I chose the latter.
I did this by rallying my troops – loving and supportive friends who prayed for me daily, sent me energy constantly, offered anything that was needed, and physically checked in on me to make sure I was safe.
I applied everything I learned from Tess Marshall & The Bold Life about fear and how it's false evidence appearing real; as easy to slay as a paper dragon.
I mustered up my manifesting abilities and anytime I had strength to do so, practiced visualizing and feeling the new situation I wanted.
That meant taking the focus off of fear and off of whatever was happening in the moment, and deliberately putting it on something that felt like love, or that felt good. (That's part of the reason rallying the troops was so important.
They helped keep my energy and faith high when I felt I was at rock bottom.) Any abusive gestures lobbed my way, I ignored, and in my head I repeated the phrase, "return to sender with love," as taught to me by Joy Holland of Facets of Joy.
The less I gave in to fear and the more I focused on what I actually wanted to have happen, the faster miracles showed up. That person who was filled with fear, hatred, and abuse and who refused to leave did a 180-degree turn suddenly and began acting rationally once more.
Not long after that, he agreed to move out. I was amazed, and yet not at all because it's what I had been teaching myself for years prior about conquering fear and manifesting the life I really want.
With that situation behind me, I had another choice to make: whether ot to try my hand at love again. Since I trust that whatever I believe, I'll receive, I needed to tap into the belief that my "one" was still out there.
Better yet, I had to believe that he was good,honest, gentle, and about a dozen other antonyms for the fear I'd just lived through. With the encouragement of friends, I put my manifesting prowess to work and let the Universe do my bidding once more.
I'm happy to say, the relationship I'm now blissfully in came about a few short weeks after that.
The fear I'd lived through and sent packing taught me more about what I wanted (and what I DIDN'T want) than I could have realized previously, and helped me attract someone who now wow's me at every turn!
The bottom line is that fear isn't to be feared. Actually, it can be a friend if we allow it to help move us into new territory and grow in the direction of our dreams.
~ Happy Manifesting & May All Your Experiences Be Gentle ~
BIO: Megan Bord is a Personal Manifesting Coach and author of The Pocket Guide to Manifesting. Megan believes everything is possible, including miracles, and that everyone has the ability to manifest easily, immediately and abundantly.
Known to her friends as the "Goddess of Manifesting," she has personally manifested myriad experiences and tangible items in the areas of romance, finance, travel and home. Megan shares her manifesting skills so that all who choose may live the peace and joy of boundless possibility.
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