Fear is about loss.
Fear is about the loss of familiar things.
We fear losing the jobs we don’t like and the people we don’t love. This is what keeps us stuck in insanity.
We fear losing the comfort of a habit that gets in our way. This is why we continue to numb ourselves.
We fear the loss of pleasures that we enjoy. This is what causes us to lie, cheat or steal.
We fear losing our youth. This is why we are deceitful about our age or try to stay forever young.
We fear losing our money or never having enough. This is what causes us to ignore the people around us and to work an insane amount of hours.
We fear losing our status or recognition. This is what causes us to pretend to be someone we’re not.
We fear death or losing our health. This is what causes us to ignore and neglect the elderly population.
We fear losing our children. This is why they can't talk to strangers or play in the front yard.
We fear losing our sense of identity. This is why we worship our degrees, titles and live in cubicle prison.
We fear losing our sense of safety. This is why we have stuff packed in storage units and supplies stockpiled for doomsday.
We fear feeling unlovable and being unloved. This is why we become people-pleasers and lose our souls in the process.
Fear sucks.
The only way to get around this nonsense is to understand that we really don’t have any of these things to begin with. Everything is subject to change and alteration.
Safety is an illusion.
The only thing that we can count on is the present moment. Notice that you are safe right now and get on with what you need to do!
Please share your thoughts and feelings below.
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Hello Tess,
You might be right in saying that fear is just an illusion.
I reached your blog through Positive Provocations and feel that I have stepped my foot in the rite place because I got what I was really searching for..
Let me give you my life example and tell you why it is good to have a little bit of fear.
I have read similar books and articles which was asking to live in the present and embrace your fear. I did the same for 2 years by jumping into free lance training and quitting my job. I was not having a stable income and since I was the sole bread winner of my family we had quite a lot of debts..And after 2 years I decided that I need to start working again and look things from a practical perspective. Now I am working and leading a happy life. So before propagating anything I think we should say do what works best for you and we cannot strongly say that this will work.. Also over the years one more thing which we need to take into consideration is the fact that each culture is different and people behave according to their deeply rooted beliefs which has been working for them over the years.
I would love to hear your thoughts and also look forward for our fellow readers to join the conversation.
Sincerely,
Rafi